What to do when punishments don't work?

ValHaller

double_mummy wrote: »

it maybe an idea to get him to your gp

=> ADHD => Ritalin

Is this really the way to go?

afaulkner66

double_mummy wrote: »

it maybe an idea to get him to your gp

Thank you, I have already made an appointment with the Dr as he is still wetting the bed, so I will bring this up with her then x

Own_My_Own

double_mummy wrote: »

it maybe an idea to get him to your gp

ValHaller wrote: »

=> ADHD => Ritalin

Is this really the way to go?

Since when has taking a child to the doctors meant - ADHD- Ritalin ?

Own_My_Own

Op, Im glad you are going to the doctor and seeking advice. But please don't let them fob you off with excuses.
I was told for 12 years that my son was 'just naughty'. At 16 he tried to kill himself and was finally diagnosed with Aspergers.

Good Luck xx

afaulkner66

ValHaller wrote: »

=> ADHD => Ritalin

Is this really the way to go?

I have never said I wanted to give my son any drugs, I asked for advice to curb his behavior because I don't want him to end up getting himself into serious trouble.

I will mention it to my GP, as I have managed to raise 2 other children who are both highly intelligent and advanced but my son has flummoxed me and I want the best for him and want him to fulfill his potential like his older siblings.

ValHaller

Own_My_Own wrote: »

Since when has taking a child to the doctors meant - ADHD- Ritalin ?

It is not matter of course for children in general. But in this case, the problem is not immediately obviously medical and taking the child to a GP will invite a medical response. Hence what I said.

Really this problem needs to be kicked about a bit more and only taken to the GP if there is a specific referral which seems to be necessary.

Own_My_Own

ValHaller wrote: »

It is not matter of course for children in general. But in this case, the problem is not immediately obviously medical and taking the child to a GP will invite a medical response. Hence what I said.

Really this problem needs to be kicked about a bit more and only taken to the GP if there is a specific referral which seems to be necessary.

So what your is saying is, a mother shouldn't take her own child to the doctors until someone else has kicked the idea around a bit and agreed with her ?

Are you for real ????

double_mummy

the best thing to do is to get as many people involved at this point so they can all come together gp, school, anything like a scout leader the more information you can gather the better the chance of something happening

personally i do think it could be something like adhd autism spectrum etc and the more people involved to help the more possibility of help

OP does your local hospital do any drop ins like speech and language - he may be having trouble expressing himself and might be good to get a quick eval with them as well

meritaten

my grandson got punished from the time the school involved the ed psych - sometimes I had to bite my tongue as I thought it was totally wrong - he NEVER understood why he was being punished. after many years it turns out that he had Aspergers Syndrome and the 'Behavioural Techniques' and the 'normal parental styles' don't work on them!
I am not trying to 'diagnose' - but if the usual methods don't work then perhaps its worth seeking a diagnosis? he may not be 'neurotypical' in which case you need specialist help. I suggest you google symptoms of ADHD, ASD, Aspergers as there is a range of these 'disorders' and the tests can cover all of them or just one of them.

PasturesNew

Maybe he got used to being the favourite/youngest ... then along comes that new one, taking up all your time and attention - and he just feels overlooked.

He's angry and doesn't know why. Wants to be noticed. He's 7 and doesn't know he's angry; other two are older so more able to get on with things, they've never been the youngest/favourite. Nothing much has changed for them.