What to do when punishments don't work?

Own_My_Own

double_mummy wrote: »

optician might also be a good idea if he cant see properly he may not be able to read facial signals that people are giving him

If his eyesight was so bad he couldn't make out people's facial expressions I think it would have been picked up by now. Surely that would actually make him nearly blind.

ValHaller

Own_My_Own wrote: »

At what point did the op say she was taking her son to the doctors because he hit a girl with a stick.

Did you actually read the opening post ?

Obviously the red mist has descended in front of your eyes. I was responding to a GP suggestion made before OP said she was taking him.

And yes, I did read the opening post. Funnily enough, I was the first to respond to it and I think I did a fair job of making a relevant response.

Own_My_Own

afaulkner66 wrote: »

His last eye test was in July and was fine. What are senco? I've never dealt with anyone other then teachers at school

http://www.specialeducationalneeds.co.uk/senco.html

double_mummy

Own_My_Own wrote: »

If his eyesight was so bad he couldn't make out people's facial expressions I think it would have been picked up by now. Surely that would actually make him nearly blind.

lol yeah didnt think of it like that lol

There_Goes_Trouble

afaulkner66 wrote: »

I have tried talking to him, both myself and my husband have spent one on one time with him to try to find out why he keeps acting this way, but he doesn't know. He knows what he does is wrong, but it's like he can't help himself. This has been on going since he was a toddler, but not to this extent.

I scares me the way he has no remorse or empathy. Other children not playing with him wont bother him as he struggles to make friends anyway, he likes to be 'in charge' when playing and likes to play his way or not at all.

This all sounds very like my nephew, who at age 12 has recently been diagnosed with aspergers. I would definitely see the GP, but my sister had to fight to get my nephew refered so be prepared to be a 'pushy parent' if you're not happy with the answers you get.

KxMx

ValHaller wrote: »

It is not matter of course for children in general. But in this case, the problem is not immediately obviously medical and taking the child to a GP will invite a medical response. Hence what I said.

Really this problem needs to be kicked about a bit more and only taken to the GP if there is a specific referral which seems to be necessary.

You think as OP has struggled with this for a long time, and with no results, a GP isn't a sensible idea as next port of call?

julie03

taking a child to a GP doesn't necessarily mean a medical response, it would hopefully mean a referall to a paediatrician for the behavioural issues and a enuresis clinic for the bedwetting

mgdavid

ValHaller wrote: »

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If you have no idea what you want, the lad will almost certainly get a prescription for Ritalin. .......

with your GP perhaps; with the OP's GP - who knows?

Tenyearstogo

Bedwetting at 7 does not warrant a paediatric referral.

ValHaller

mgdavid wrote: »

If you have no idea what you want, the lad will almost certainly get a prescription for Ritalin.

with your GP perhaps; with the OP's GP - who knows?

Oooh! Lucky Dip! Anything from the Pharmacists top 3 shelves .....