Woulld you expect ex partner to have a school uniform?

meritaten

I think its a bit unreasonable - but desirable! it would help if there was a spare uniform at dads as he is taking him one morning - and I can see your point as you have to have TWO uniforms ready to go on one day! could you compromise? say you buy the trousers and he buys the shirt and child wears the jumper/sweatshirt from the day before?

Gigglepig

I would send clothes but expect the father to clean and iron them before they were returned. Why should OP send away clean clothes and get a bag od laundry back.

duchy

Claire212 wrote: »

I only asked a question. Seems that £96 per month is adquate for a child at secondary school to be clothed. (By me)

I never said that I would not provide one, after all I am the one providing everything for him with the help of £96, I even pay for all his school dinners every day and trust me. £96 doesn't cover an almost 13 year olds appetite.

If you had read my post I said I would of course send it with him. So no need for the hostility. I guess I was more thinking it would be a good idea.

Yes, he is on low income. He chooses to be so I have no sympathy. Personally if I had no childcare worries I would be at work full time supporting my child instead on playing on the XBOX. But his lifestyle is not up to me.

Having read the title of my post. I do think it sounds odd. Lol. Sorry.....

What childcare does a nearly thirteen year old need? Seriously.
At thirteen my son was capable of letting himself in after school and making a snack before watching TV/doing homework until I came in. Couple of hours at most.

£96 plus child benefit and child tax credits plus my own wages adds up to quite a bit I found as a single parent

peachyprice

Gigglepig wrote: »

I would send clothes but expect the father to clean and iron them before they were returned. Why should OP send away clean clothes and get a bag od laundry back.

How does that work when the child is only there on a Sunday night and is going to school the next day?

aliasojo

duchy wrote: »

What childcare does a nearly thirteen year old need? Seriously.
At thirteen my son was capable of letting himself in after school and making a snack before watching TV/doing homework until I came in. Couple of hours at most.

£96 plus child benefit and child tax credits plus my own wages adds up to quite a bit I found as a single parent

duchy I think you've read that wrongly.

The OP's comment about childcare was written as if it was from the Dad's pov, not hers.

She wrote ....'Personally if I had no childcare worries I would be at work full time supporting my child instead on playing on the XBOX. But his lifestyle is not up to me. '......

You've taken one part out of context and made it seem like the OP was concerned about childcare.

Ms_Chocaholic

!!!!!! wrote: »

Am I missing something? After one week the uniform supplied by the father would have ended up back home on the Monday afternoon. How does it then get back to the father ready for the next Sunday?

After one week any advantage of an extra uniform at the father's gets negated as the child would still have to take one with him on the Sunday.

That's exactly what I was thinking too

bright_side

As I said to my 16 year old yesterday........'pick your battles'.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Claire212 wrote: »

Despite trying to arrange an alternative my son is still having to spend a night at his Dads where he has to attend school the next day.

My son is coming home after school, changing and then catching the bus to his Grandparents where his Dad will pick him up later. Taking his school bag with him.

His Dad has told him that he needs to bring his uniform with him so that he can change into it.

I have told him that he should realy make arrangements to buy his own. He is furious. Claiming that as he pays maintenance, £96 a month, he should come already provided with one.

He has stayed the night before (Thurday) but we are changing it to a Sunday, so he has gone straight from school already in his uniform before and obviously will again if his Dad really insists he will not buy him one.

I just think if they say they want to have them overnight on a school night then they should provide them with a uniform clean and ready to go. Which we will return to him on the Thursday when he goes round for tea and we pick him up.

Is it unreasonable (as he says) to even ask?

Yes. It is unreasonable.

Pack a second shirt if it is that much of a problem for you. They're not exactly expensive.

coolcait

meritaten wrote: »

I think its a bit unreasonable - but desirable! it would help if there was a spare uniform at dads as he is taking him one morning - and I can see your point as you have to have TWO uniforms ready to go on one day! could you compromise? say you buy the trousers and he buys the shirt and child wears the jumper/sweatshirt from the day before?

That's how we start every school week.

At the beginning of the school year, we buy at least two shirts/blouses, trousers/skirts, cardigans/jumpers/sweatshirts per child (depending on gender, and school uniform policy)

My children live with me and their father.

But, if my children went to stay with their grandparents, or aunties/uncles, or friends on any school night, they'd still manage to go into school the next day - in uniform.

Without any drama or trauma, or shock over the fact that they'd had TWO uniforms ready to go on one day.

duchy

aliasojo wrote: »

duchy I think you've read that wrongly.

The OP's comment about childcare was written as if it was from the Dad's pov, not hers.

She wrote ....'Personally if I had no childcare worries I would be at work full time supporting my child instead on playing on the XBOX. But his lifestyle is not up to me. '......

You've taken one part out of context and made it seem like the OP was concerned about childcare.

If childcare is not a concern (for this particular child)-why mention it at all ? Doesn't make sense unless the OP has childcare concerns of some kind . What context are you seeing alisojo ?