Woulld you expect ex partner to have a school uniform?

System

Am I missing something? After one week the uniform supplied by the father would have ended up back home on the Monday afternoon. How does it then get back to the father ready for the next Sunday?

After one week any advantage of an extra uniform at the father's gets negated as the child would still have to take one with him on the Sunday.

ValHaller

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Am I missing something? After one week the uniform supplied by the father would have ended up back home on the Monday afternoon. How does it then get back to the father ready for the next Sunday?

After one week any advantage of an extra uniform at the father's gets negated as the child would still have to take one with him on the Sunday.

OP comes back here on Tuesday next week and asks for advice on getting her ex to provide another school uniform?

iammumtoone

I am interested at the comments on this thread as I have the same kind of disagreement with my ex, not with uniform as son doesn't stay on a school night, but he stays every other Saturday and I have to send him off with clothes for the weekend. It annoys me as I think like the OP ex should provide his own clothing but maybe it seems as if I have been looking at it wrong.

dibuzz

My kids always took clothes to their dads, it wasn't school nights but I would never have thought about them having clothes to keep there, especially as they grow so fast.

balletshoes

iammumtoone wrote: »

I am interested at the comments on this thread as I have the same kind of disagreement with my ex, not with uniform as son doesn't stay on a school night, but he stays every other Saturday and I have to send him off with clothes for the weekend. It annoys me as I think like the OP ex should provide his own clothing but maybe it seems as if I have been looking at it wrong.

honestly for the sake of one day in 14, I wouldn't expect your ex to have a set of clothes at his house for his son. They grow so quick he wouldn't get any proper wear out of them, and it would just be a waste of money.

iammumtoone

balletshoes wrote: »

honestly for the sake of one day in 14, I wouldn't expect your ex to have a set of clothes at his house for his son. They grow so quick he wouldn't get any proper wear out of them, and it would just be a waste of money.

Thanks, I think I was more thinking of it from my sons point of view, I do find it a hassle having to take clothes back and forth but also think my son should see his dads home as his home as well. Taking a suitcase with you does make it seem like a second home

Sorry OP i don't wish to take your thread off topic but I suppose the issue of uniform and general clothing are along the same lines.

peachyprice

iammumtoone wrote: »

Thanks, I think I was more thinking of it from my sons point of view, I do find it a hassle having to take clothes back and forth but also think my son should see his dads home as his home as well. Taking a suitcase with you does make it seem like a second home

Sorry OP i don't wish to take your thread off topic but I suppose the issue of uniform and general clothing are along the same lines.

If your son takes and extra set of clothes next time he goes he will then have a set there for the time after, he can then leave the dirty clothes there for his dad to wash.

It doesn't need for his dad to buy an extra set just for there. Would you expect him to change into his dirty clothes from yours before he came home so that the clothes he bought stayed there?

Seanymph

How silly!

Why would a child want to leave clothes at the parents house where they only spend a couple of days a week? If it is something they love they will want to be able to wear it during the week surely? If they grow out of things they need replacing - and some weekends they will want swim gear, some wellies and wet weather stuff - sometimes stuff for visiting a formal family occasion....

Why on earth would anyone expect two parents to provide two wardrobes at two different locations covering all eventualities?

The reality of life is that children learn to anticipate whatever is happening during their next visit, and pack and take what is appropriate.

My kids always took clothing with them for their visits, their father sent them all back with them - and the girls had access to all their clothes all the time.

Anything else just screams power game to me.

mum2one

Your very lucky to be getting maintance for your son, I'm lucky to get a penny from my ex, I think deep down theres more than this issue that meets the eye.

Just pack a school uniform in his bag - he come home it gets washed end of subject.

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Seanymph wrote: »

How silly!

Why would a child want to leave clothes at the parents house where they only spend a couple of days a week? If it is something they love they will want to be able to wear it during the week surely? If they grow out of things they need replacing - and some weekends they will want swim gear, some wellies and wet weather stuff - sometimes stuff for visiting a formal family occasion....

Why on earth would anyone expect two parents to provide two wardrobes at two different locations covering all eventualities?

The reality of life is that children learn to anticipate whatever is happening during their next visit, and pack and take what is appropriate.

My kids always took clothing with them for their visits, their father sent them all back with them - and the girls had access to all their clothes all the time.

Anything else just screams power game to me.

Well I must be a control freak then. Up until last week I provided all the children's clothes and a big bag to last a while. This got presented to the kids father when he returned them each Saturday. However, despite having clothes, they always looked mismatched. On a hot day DD came home wearing leggings and a long sleeved top. DS in clashing colours etc. If they needed a smart outfit, he didn't have one for them.

Ex wasnt very good at keeping on top of what he had used till he got the dregs of the bag and realised he had run out of appropriate weather gear.

I couldn't send the kids prepared on a Friday as he picks them up from school and I can't expect the children to lug it into school for the day, or for it to stay safe. I think if other children did this the cloakroom would resemble a wardrobe!! :rotfl:

I was finding he didn't have appropriate shoes so they wore their school shoes all weekend. I wasn't too happy about that as I buy clarks and want them to last as long as possible.

The only way around this was for me to say to him, we both equipped the children with appropriate weekend shoes. I will provide you the spares of clothes that I have lots of. Anything else you need to get. We can have a clothes/belongings amnesty every quarter and start again.

We only started this last weekend, so I shall wait and see how it pans out. For the first time DD came back in a pair of trainers that he'd bought her, which happened to coincide with her first Saturday dance class. Thankfully!