Woulld you expect ex partner to have a school uniform?

Claire212

Despite trying to arrange an alternative my son is still having to spend a night at his Dads where he has to attend school the next day.

My son is coming home after school, changing and then catching the bus to his Grandparents where his Dad will pick him up later. Taking his school bag with him.

His Dad has told him that he needs to bring his uniform with him so that he can change into it.

I have told him that he should realy make arrangements to buy his own. He is furious. Claiming that as he pays maintenance, £96 a month, he should come already provided with one.

He has stayed the night before (Thurday) but we are changing it to a Sunday, so he has gone straight from school already in his uniform before and obviously will again if his Dad really insists he will not buy him one.

I just think if they say they want to have them overnight on a school night then they should provide them with a uniform clean and ready to go. Which we will return to him on the Thursday when he goes round for tea and we pick him up.

Is it unreasonable (as he says) to even ask?

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aliasojo

I'm afraid I don't agree he needs to have uniform in both places.

I don't see an issue with him taking it to Dad's.

HappyMJ

Claire212 wrote: »

Despite trying to arrange an alternative my son is still having to spend a night at his Dads where he has to attend school the next day.

My son is coming home after school, changing and then catching the bus to his Grandparents where his Dad will pick him up later. Taking his school bag with him.

His Dad has told him that he needs to bring his uniform with him so that he can change into it.

I have told him that he should realy make arrangements to buy his own. He is furious. Claiming that as he pays maintenance, £96 a month, he should come already provided with one.

He has stayed the night before (Thurday) but we are changing it to a Sunday, so he has gone straight from school already in his uniform before and obviously will again if his Dad really insists he will not buy him one.

I just think if they say they want to have them overnight on a school night then they should provide them with a uniform clean and ready to go. Which we will return to him on the Thursday when he goes round for tea and we pick him up.

Is it unreasonable (as he says) to even ask?

He doesn't have to buy one. He's paying child support in the expectation that the money is used to buy a school uniform.

It is not unreasonable to ask for more money to buy one though.

My personal opinion is he should at least be trying to pay at least £130 a month (a full time worker on minimum wage should afford this) so he's on a very low income for some reason if he's only paying £96 a month. He probably has nothing left to be able to buy anything such as a school uniform.

marisco_2

Is it just me who for a split second having read the title of this thread, thought it was going to be about someone getting caught out dating someone under age

Back to the topic, no I wouldn't expect an ex to provide uniform for a child staying overnight with them. Surely there are spare shirts, jumpers, trousers etc that could just be put in a bag, and taken over to the dads place by your son so he has fresh uniform to wear.

BitterAndTwisted

Honestly, I think you are the one who is being unreasonable and really rather petty.

Your child has a uniform and doesn't need one in each home. How much are you or your child suffering by packing a few extra clothes once a week?

I think you need to get a ruddy grip

poet123

marisco wrote: »

Is it just me who for a split second having read the title of this thread, thought it was going to be about someone getting caught out dating someone under age

Back to the topic, no I wouldn't expect an ex to provide uniform for a child staying overnight with them. Surely there are spare shirts, jumpers, trousers etc that could just be put in a bag, and taken over to the dads place by your son so he has fresh uniform to wear.

I thought they had been caught dressing up!!:o

poet123

To be serious though, I think you are making problems for the sake of it.

aliasojo

poet123 wrote: »

I thought they had been caught dressing up!!:o

Ditto.....:D

BitterAndTwisted

Blimey! There's a child in this relationship and I don't think it's the one going to school.

If you want to have a decent row with your ex why not try and pick something worth fighting over? This isn't it

ValHaller

The word I am looking for is neurotic.

Presumably he has enough uniform to see him through the school week. So the problem is solely about getting the uniform to the right place at the right time. No need for more stuff.

mummyroysof3

If he is going on a Sunday I don't see a problem with him taking a uniform to use on Monday from home.