Woulld you expect ex partner to have a school uniform?

fluffnutter

Jeez. Grow up the pair of you. You've got a kid to consider and for his sake you should aim for an amicable relationship. Squabbling over something as petty as his school uniform is pathetic point-scoring. What sort of example are you setting your boy, fgs?

sharnad

No you should provide the uniform for him. He shouldn't hate to have one in both places

Claire212

I only asked a question. Seems that £96 per month is adquate for a child at secondary school to be clothed. (By me)

I never said that I would not provide one, after all I am the one providing everything for him with the help of £96, I even pay for all his school dinners every day and trust me. £96 doesn't cover an almost 13 year olds appetite.

If you had read my post I said I would of course send it with him. So no need for the hostility. I guess I was more thinking it would be a good idea.

Yes, he is on low income. He chooses to be so I have no sympathy. Personally if I had no childcare worries I would be at work full time supporting my child instead on playing on the XBOX. But his lifestyle is not up to me.

Having read the title of my post. I do think it sounds odd. Lol. Sorry.....

building_with_lego

How old is this child? Surely he can chuck a change of uniform into the bag he takes to hid grandparents' and on to his father's? The uniform he would have been wearing anyway.

I must be missing something.

EDIT, I see he's 12. He can begin (continue) to learn how to plan for the near future by including the things he will need for that day at school- the right clothes, books, PE kit etc.

By trying to have one set at yours and another at his father's you risk making things like laundry very complicated

RAS

Given the rate lads grow I think one set of uniform.

I do think however that it is junior's resposbility for making sure it is clean etc before he leave for dads or he needs to ask dad to get it sorted before he goes to school the next day.

HappyMJ

Claire212 wrote: »

I only asked a question. Seems that £96 per month is adquate for a child at secondary school to be clothed. (By me)

I never said that I would not provide one, after all I am the one providing everything for him with the help of £96, I even pay for all his school dinners every day and trust me. £96 doesn't cover an almost 13 year olds appetite.

If you had read my post I said I would of course send it with him. So no need for the hostility. I guess I was more thinking it would be a good idea.

Yes, he is on low income. He chooses to be so I have no sympathy. Personally if I had no childcare worries I would be at work full time supporting my child instead on playing on the XBOX. But his lifestyle is not up to me.

Having read the title of my post. I do think it sounds odd. Lol. Sorry.....

It's not...and that's why I mentioned the £130 a month (£30/week). Why is he chooing to work part time? Is there something you can do to get him to work more hours? Does he have an alternative income you could ask CSA to consider to get the CSA amount increased.

Claire212

HappyMJ, You have just made my day. I am rolling round the floor laughing. Thank you so much for that post.

That's why I enjoy reading the comments on this forum, such a range of attitudes. Good job I can take it. Because only I know the full story.

He chooses to work full time because he doesn't want to pay me any more maintenance. I couldn't get him to pay for his sons birthday cake so I certainly don't think I can get him to work more. Lol.

HappyMJ

Claire212 wrote: »

HappyMJ, You have just made my day. I am rolling round the floor laughing. Thank you so much for that post.

That's why I enjoy reading the comments on this forum, such a range of attitudes. Good job I can take it. Because only I know the full story.

He chooses to work full time because he doesn't want to pay me any more maintenance. I couldn't get him to pay for his sons birthday cake so I certainly don't think I can get him to work more. Lol.

Well...as long as you are laughing it off. :cool: ... There isn't much you can do. Send him with cheap stuff and stop buying him stuff and maybe he might ask his dad for something instead of always asking you. If he asks you for something say you have no money...ask your dad...

Auntie-Dolly

Slightly OT, but do you not qualify for free school meals?

peachyprice

Surely, at the age of 12, he only needs to keep a clean shirt at his dad's not a full school uniform. Do you not have one spare he can leave there?

If he's going on a Sunday he just takes the full uniform with him, if he goes mid-week he uses the clean shirt and leaves the dirty one there for his dad to wash and iron for next time.

To expect his dad to kit him out in an entire uniform t is verging on the ridiculous. You do realise that if he did this the uniform would still end up at yours on Monday evening, so you would end up with two and your son would still have to take it with him on a Sunday, don't you?