Really angry at myself - please help

top_drawer_2

coolcait wrote: »

OP, the fact is that you forgot to pick up the cash which you had requested. And now it is gone.

Yes, it's sh1te when that happens.

Most people accept that, have a grumble, and move on.

Yet, here you are - blaming Asda, blaming the staff you have spoken to, blaming the police, ranting at anyone on this thread who doesn't completely agree with you.

In itself, that could just be a blip. A reaction to the fact that you have lost money, which has put you in a difficult situation.

The trouble is, you have also listed lots of other sh1te which - from your perspective - has happened to you recently.

When I look at your reaction to this issue, and this thread, that affects my view of your perspective on any other 'sh1te' which you see happening to you.

I hope for your sake you never make a mistake and need someone else's help in the hope of rectifying it. I'm not going to debate it; you have your opinion and hold mine.

I'm feeling marginally better now, I need to be right for work tomorrow as there in let up in my job. Thank you to those who have understood why and the for the lovely pm's. I'm so glad I found this site all those years ago,

Person_one

top_drawer wrote: »

There is a lot more back story but I can safely say it was unfair re paying rent when I wasn't able to live there. It's just another thing that makes me feel !!!!!! about things.

A landlord has a mortgage to pay, they rent their property to you as a business, not out of the goodness of their hearts. They have a right to be paid rent if you've agreed to rent from them!

If you wanted to move out, did you give proper notice? You could have left within a month on a standard tenancy.

Please try to remember that people have their own stuff going on, their own priorities. Not going out of the way for you all the time doesn't mean they are horrible people, maybe you'd be happier if you lowered your expectations a bit?

Soleil_lune

Hi top drawer.

I think there is more to your anger and upset than this money: you sound so down and fed up and like the whole world is against you. I am really sorry you're feeling so blue and sh1tty. I don't think you're going to get your money back, and I can understand you being angry at Asda, but it's not really their fault... it's just one of those unfortunate things

They probably have bigger fish to fry than someone who left twenty quid in the cash back facility thing, so I doubt they are going to do anything TBH. But I do get why you're p1ssed off, as twenty quid is a lot when you're struggling.

I wish you well and internet hugs for you (((HUGS)))

Netwizard

Our geovision cctv system in the office is a piece of cake to work, but i'm the only one in our office who knows how to work it, everyone else is too scared to mess with it!

However, I've never understood how anyone can go to a cash machine, and forget their cash! After all, you take your card, so I just don't see how you can forget the very thing you are stood at the machine waiting for, especially if your skint and watching your cash anyway!

Its not ASDA's fault, its yours for leaving it in the machine, but look on the brightside, you won't forget again!!

Dunroamin

top_drawer wrote: »

I hope for your sake you never make a mistake and need someone else's help in the hope of rectifying it. I'm not going to debate it; you have your opinion and hold mine.

If you don't want to debate it, don't post on a forum.

Asda are trying to rectify it but the fact remains that you're the one who made the mistake; Asda's done nothing wrong.

Molly41

top_drawer wrote: »

There is a lot more back story but I can safely say it was unfair re paying rent when I wasn't able to live there. It's just another thing that makes me feel !!!!!! about things.
I'm not religious - I believe in behaving fairly and justly towards others. I know their is a God but I'm not feeling Him at the moment.

Behaving fair and justly is just what you are not doing. You are blaming others around you for your mistakes and mishaps!

Of course it was fair to pay rent when you could not live there! It was not your landlady's doing - you entered into an agreement.

You left your money behind - it was your mistake - not asda or the police.

You need to stop playing the victim and take some ownership.

paulineb_2

I think to be fair if you read the OPs other threads theres a lot going on in their life that isnt particularly sortable, external factors that they have to cope with day to day.

Prothet_of_Doom

A few years back I went to a petrol station, at 11pm, stressed, and getting ready to travel to my Nan's Funeral, some 120 miles away, with a planned time to leave in the morning of 7:30 am
I got home at 3am, having put diesel in, waiting for the RAC, being transported to the nearest 24 hour service place that had the facilities to pump a full tank of diesel (with a gallon of petrol in the bottom) out, paying for new petrol, and new spark plugs (it wouldn't start with the old ones, so basically £210 out of pocket. All my own fault. Four hours sleep. followed by a 3 hour drive, a funeral, a wake, a 3 hour drive. Only to realise that I'd actually left my wallet with all my cards on my parents kitchen side.
Wife was fairly angry with my utter incompetence. I was more angry with myself.
To the OP I say, you made a mistake, one you could not afford, but you'll look back in times to come and think "At least someone lent me the money for my bus fares. That was kind"
Whilst I would hand in any money found in the dispencer, I can very much understand why it would be too tempting for most people.
Interestingly, normal cash points take the money back if you fail to take it.

esmerelda98

I have always thought of myself as quite a blunt poster, too blunt possibly, not really into cuddles, tea and sympathy, but even I can recognise a person who is really struggling and needs sympathy primarily. Practical advice is no bad thing, but tempered with a lot of sympathy, as in paulineb's posts. Thank goodness for the likes of her (there have been other sympathetic posts too). Even the OP recognises she isn't being entirely logical, but some of you seem determined to push a person who is clearly struggling over the edge.

The Internet is probably not the place to vent her frustration, but if I remember correctly, she struggles to form friendships, but desperately desires them. Coolcait, there is no need to analyse and over-analyse her posts. She isn't trying to put forward any grand thesis here, she's clearly at the end of her tether, so if you can't be helpful, why not just step back.

Some people are too sensitive, but what they need is not cross-examination when they are in a crisis situation, but to be helped by someone appropriate to improve their coping strategies when the crisis has passed.

aileth

Don't be angry - I've forgotten money in machines before, I've slapped my forehead and cursed myself, but that's when I've been in a good mood. When I've forgotten money and been in a bad mood, I've gone home and literally cried my eyes out. Unfortunately these things seem to happen at the worst times.

It's really unfortunate that the person behind you had a serious lack of morals. Most people, including me and my family, would have picked it up and been straight after you, or if you had gone handed it in at a desk.

However, I really don't think pursuing Asda for what really was your mistake (and it happens to everyone) is going to bring you happiness. You're going to hit a brick wall and feel even more miserable. Chalk it up to experience, heck even stop shopping there if it makes you feel better, and try and get over your rocky patch . I don't think they're trying to be obstinant, they're just following the rules, which unfortunately are not very flexible.