Smoking guest - WWYD?

Guest101

Annisele wrote: »

If it had been my house, I'd have done my best to kick him out there and then.

I wouldn't have made any attempt to physically remove him, and I wouldn't have bothered the police for such a trivial matter. But I would have (verbally) made very clear that I expected him to leave immediately, and that I considered he was trespassing from the moment he refused to put out the cigarette.

If I'd been a guest, I think I would have just stood there and carefully examined my shoes...and remembered the guy's name, so that I never invited him to anything I was arranging.

I WOULD be physically removing him, you say tresspass (a civil offence) I say aggrevated tresspass (a criminal offence). Im a smoker, but i smoke outside, if thats what i do, then thats what visitors will do too

tea_lover

Sounds like that might be the last party he's ever invited to. Muppet.

victory

I would have asked him to leave, their house, their rules, whether they accept smoking in their own house/ outside/ in a specific room/ only in the front garden/ it is down to them:D

aileth

Thinking more, this actually reminds me a lot of a situation I was in. House party, friends over, brother-in-law over. I work in the legal profession. He starts rolling a VERY strong joint in our living room (you could smell it in the next room). I asked him please not to smoke that in the house, and go outside away from the house, as if he smoked it on my property there is a charge of allowing drug use on premises and I don't want to lose my job because he wants to get high.

He couldn't understand why I wouldn't let him smoke it IN my house or ON my property. He was very short with me and didn't talk to me for a quite a while after. Ever since he's been off with me. Some people are just arrogant.

scooby088

If the person smoking was a relative then I would say that those who invited him should have made him aware of the no smoking rule first, however he was right to say that they knew he smoked and shouldn't have invited him. It's not the smokers fault for the lack of information. But as a smoker I would have automatically gone outside anyway in the rain.

ankspon

Question?,if that person was using an electronic cigarette would you let them?.As for your question i would have told them to leave immediately.

Mojisola

scooby088 wrote: »

If the person smoking was a relative then I would say that those who invited him should have made him aware of the no smoking rule first, however he was right to say that they knew he smoked and shouldn't have invited him.

It's not the smokers fault for the lack of information. But as a smoker I would have automatically gone outside anyway in the rain.

I don't understand why inviting someone to your house gives them carte blanche to behave exactly how they want to unless you give them a list of rules first - does anyone ever do that?

We're inviting you to our house but please note -
we don't allow smoking in the house, all shoes to be removed at the front door, no swearing allowed, no sexist jokes, etc, etc.

None of the smokers I know would light up in someone else's house without asking if it's okay to do so

sassyblue

Wow, so he made 34 other people breathe in his disgusting smoke?

His reply that 'expecting guests to stand outside is not very polite either' is rubbish because smoking inside is banned just about everywhere.

I feel sorry for the hosts, that appears to be the last party he'll ever be invited to, not to mention 34 people quite possibly chatting about his arrogance elsewhere.... he's toast! :rotfl:

Whatever happened after that OP, hope it didn't spoil the rest of the party.

sedment

No-one smokes in my house as we dont. My mil does, and she used to smoke in the back garden until we caught my daughter copying her and pretending to smoke because grandma does it. So now she refrains when she visits as she was mortified.

persa

Family or not, the hosts should have booted him out and all the guests noted never to invite him to anything themselves.

What an obnoxious man.

Every home has different rules - it's common courtesy to follow those.