Smoking guest - WWYD?

zaksmum

HappyMJ wrote: »

Invite him to come to the local pub with you instead. Then watch what happens when he lights up and tries to go through 19 ciggies in 3 hours.

Sorry, I know he's your dad but you and your OH are against smoking and it's your house...it can take weeks to get the smoke smell out of furnishings. Then you have the additional costs of repainting walls and ceiling in the room in which he's smoking.

It's going to be hard to convince him if he's 84 and stubborn.

disclaimer...I am a 2 pack a week smoker. I'd never dream of smoking in a non smokers house...I wouldn't even do it in a smokers house unless they lit up first and even then I'll still ask where the back door is and pop out there or I'll go for a walk down the street. Only once an ashtray is put in front of me would I consider smoking.

Oh, HappyMJ,...how I wish I COULD invite him to the pub with me.

He died in 2005 and I miss him so much, cigarettes and all.

I'd happily choke on his 19 cigs in 3 hours just to spend those three hours with him.:(

zaksmum

claire16c wrote: »

But his day was a very very long time ago. It's not an excuse. Smoking has known to be bad for your health for donkeys years.

And yes there's being polite.

My father WAS polite, Claire.

Just not where his cigarettes were concerned.:)

sulkisu

Just to update, OH spoke to his colleague at work yesterday. The guest in question was the long term partner of his wife's sister. Apparently he can sometimes be a bit of a !!!!, but he has never behaved like that before. His partner (wife's sister) arrived after we left and gave him an earful, but otherwise there was no explanation or apology. He just seemed to be in a bad mood and/or spoiling for a fight.

*Louise*

silverwhistle wrote: »

So what did the colleague say at work the following day(s)? Did the subject come up?

I was wondering the same - surely it must have been a discussion point.

At least people know not to invite him to anything in future.

margaretclare

I have not allowed smoking in my house since we came back from my first husband's funeral. Smoking helped to kill him at age 58. I've had dedicated smokers here since then - they go outside, end of. My house, my rules.

eamon

Interesting thread this. I smoke and do so in my house. However if visiting friends or family then I ask and or do what they do. Good friends of mine are ex-smokers and they allow me to smoke inside. But they do have an open fire and will burn all sorts so that creates it own issues. I used to bemoan the smoking ban but quickly got used to it. As to why a house guest gets arsey about being told no smoking in my house? Who knows!
On a similar note I've rented holiday houses and if the rules say no smoking then so be it. It saves on cleaning up and going outside is no big deal.

1886

If somebody smoked in my house they would be dragged outside by their hair, I would then put the fag out on their face

adouglasmhor

1886 wrote: »

If somebody smoked in my house they would be dragged outside by their hair, I would then put the fag out on their face

If I was in someones house and they attempted to drag me out by the hair, I would kneel on their back with a full arm lock through the shoulder on them until the police arrived to take them away, as my hair is less than half an inch long I can't imagine them having much success dragging anyway.

zaksmum

1886 wrote: »

If somebody smoked in my house they would be dragged outside by their hair, I would then put the fag out on their face

Bit of an overreaction! I wouldn't put a fag out on ANYBODY'S face!

Hermia

zaksmum wrote: »

I never let anyone smoke in my house but have to admit to allowing my dad to do so.

Whenever I asked him not to smoke in the house he would get an almighty strop on so it just wasn't worth the hassle.

He was 84 and would smoke 19 out of a 20 pack religiously on every three hour visit, saving one in the pack to smoke in his car as he drove the 10 minute journey home. he used to light a new one from the stub of the one he was finishing.

O/H complained bitterly and the house stank of smoke...but what could I do? He was my dad.

My grandfather was like this. Unfortunately I have asthma and as a child/teen would have to constantly go and sit in the garden (even in winter!) because I would get so ill from being in the house. Cigarette smoke is one of my biggest triggers so if someone started smoking in my house I would have to physically force them out of the door. I have to say most smokers I know don't even smoke in their own houses because they don't like the smell etc.