Smoking guest - WWYD?

claire16c

Raz if its your boyfriends house then why doesn't your boyfriend tell his brother to go outside if its causing problems?

duchy

claire16c wrote: »

Raz if its your boyfriends house then why doesn't your boyfriend tell his brother to go outside if its causing problems?

Because he tells his GF to home instead .....Either they don't believe Raz is as badly affected by the smoke as she says.....or none of the three of them care. There is more to Raz's situation than the smoking issue -it appears to be a symptom not a problem in isolation TBH.

HPoirot

OH and I both smoke and only in the kitchen in our own house. The only other place where we smoke indoors is in his aunt's kitchen, and that's only after she has lit one up herself and we all stand in the kitchen puffing away companionably around the ashtray. We would never just walk into the kitchen to smoke when she is in the living room for example, we would go outside because smoking in anyone else's house is just plain rude.

We wouldn't just smoke in anyone's garden either unless we knew they didn't mind and there was somewhere safe to dispose of the ash and butt. We visited my cousin this weekend and there were her children's playhouse and toys in her small garden, I was putting my fag back into the pack not wanting to mess up the area when she pointed to an old metal bin at the bottom of the garden and said I could use that. Just lighting up in anyone else's territory is plain rudeness, I agree with others that the person who did this and went on to defy the host was just spoiling for a fight.

scooby088

Rowingirl wrote: »

Threatening anyone with violence is unreasonable in either situation (yours & the OP's).

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But some of the responses on this thread from people on the situation should it happen in their house has included violence. A bit of an over reaction to just someone light up a cigarette.

meer53

I would have asked him to leave immediately. Not because he's a smoker but because he's an arrogant t!!t.

Any

meer53 wrote: »

I would have asked him to leave immediately. Not because he's a smoker but because he's an arrogant t!!t.

Agree with this.
As a smoker myself, I would not think that just because you know I am a smoker and you invited me I must be allowed to smoke inside your own house. Even in the days of smoking being allowed inside pubs and restaurants.
He is quite frankly arrogant g*t and I would take that as trying to purposely cause an offence... I don't know anyone with such an arrogance to think they can do what they want in your house!!

And what sort of answer did he give the hosts... ?? Rubbish-Just because you know people are nudist you don't expect them to take the clothes off in your house, at your party, do you??:D

andygb

If you hava a non smoking policy in your own home, and someone starts smoking, then they should stop as soon as they are asked.
If they say one word, then in my opinion they have "crossed a line", and if that happened to me, I would give them one minute to get off the premises, because as far as I am concerned they would then be trespassing.
How incredibly rude and arrogant for a guest to dare question someone in their own home.

andygb

scooby088 wrote: »

But some of the responses on this thread from people on the situation should it happen in their house has included violence. A bit of an over reaction to just someone light up a cigarette.

The reaction is not towards them lighting up, but towards their refusal to comply with a reasonable request to stop smoking in someone else's home.

andygb

aileth wrote: »

He couldn't understand why I wouldn't let him smoke it IN my house or ON my property. He was very short with me and didn't talk to me for a quite a while after. Ever since he's been off with me. Some people are just arrogant.

Sorry to hear that Aileth, he would have been straight out the door and never invited back if he had done that in my house.
Some people are incredibly arrogant.

zaksmum

I never let anyone smoke in my house but have to admit to allowing my dad to do so.

Whenever I asked him not to smoke in the house he would get an almighty strop on so it just wasn't worth the hassle.

He was 84 and would smoke 19 out of a 20 pack religiously on every three hour visit, saving one in the pack to smoke in his car as he drove the 10 minute journey home. he used to light a new one from the stub of the one he was finishing.

O/H complained bitterly and the house stank of smoke...but what could I do? He was my dad.