Is OH being 'greedy'?

paulineb_2

Is this supper he has at 8pm, does he have that instead of a dinner with you at 6? Im assuming so, just wondered if he had a dinner earlier or whether this supper is in fact a late dinner.

paulineb_2

meritaten wrote: »

no dunroaming. he likes to eat at 8.00 and wants HIS food freshly cooked! I don't mind that. I am happy to eat leftovers - he isn't. its the way he was brought up - I know that and I don't mind - I DO mind him knowing that his seconds sometimes means I don't get it for lunch.

So why cant he cook his own supper? Or, why cant one meal be cooked at 6pm and his can be microwaved or re heated on the stove, a 2 hour timescale between cooking and eating isnt leftovers.

I actually think you are making a hell of a lot of work for yourself when you could just cook one main meal at 6 and you eat yours at the time that suits you and he eats his at the time that suits him.

Or, perhaps a couple of nights a week, he could cook the dinner.

Also, if you are cooking food in one big pot and some of its for lunch the next day as someone said, remove your lunch from the pot and put it in a tupperware dish and then its out of the way and theres no temptation and if hes still hungry, he can go and make himself something else later on.

Or eat an apple or something.

lostinrates

FBaby wrote: »

I'm with you meritaten. I too like to eat before 6pm. It is what suits my lifestyle. I rush in the mornings and rarely have the time to take a consistent and enjoyable lunch, so usually eat quite light during the day. I therefore am hungry by 5pm. I also do activities after 6pm, so this works out well for me. I don't consider this to be 'odd arrangements', just not the norm maybe, but maybe it should be!!!

In any case, my OH also eats later. He likes to do his activities first, come home and then eat. I don't cook for them. We also eat very different food anyway. I know it is not traditional at all, but it works for us very well. Our 'time together' is afterwards, when we finally seat on the sofa. We've made a point that neither of us go on the computer after 8pm. He normally watches TV and I lay my head on his lap and I read my book. It is usually the time we talk, as he rarely focuses on any programme and I just put my book down.

I do think your OH is rude and selfish and I would be very annoyed if my OH did that especially if you've reminded him an number of times not to.

This is all fine if it DOES work for you both.

In this case it is very clearly not working well for either party, so adjustments have to be made in someway.

herand

He is being disrespectful for sure. Who knowingly finishes off the whole families dinner for goodness sake!

Nip it in the bud by being more communicative and tell him to either make his own share or simply stop eating yours, you shouldn't have to feel that your food is going to get scoffed up like this.

mummyroysof3

Is it worth just cooking how much is actually needed then there is no left OSS its just cooking for two.

herand

Dunroamin wrote: »

I can't imagine not eating dinner with my husband nearly every day, it's the focus of our evenings.

Not every bases their socialization around eating, as it may not be convenient or just that comfortable... some people like to eat what they want in peace afterall.

You can lounge about with each other watching TV or something, just because you don't eat together doesn't mean it's a bad relationship.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

lostinrates wrote: »

This is all fine if it DOES work for you both.

In this case it is very clearly not working well for either party, so adjustments have to be made in someway.

You mean like simply plating up your food and putting it in the fridge with a bit of foil on? Or into a plastic container.

Leaving it in the pan as temptation and then berating him for eating it is a self-fulfilling prophesy.

FBaby

lostinrates wrote: »

This is all fine if it DOES work for you both.

In this case it is very clearly not working well for either party, so adjustments have to be made in someway.

Exactly, but they don't have to be all on OP's part.

DUTR

herand wrote: »

He is being disrespectful for sure. Who knowingly finishes off the whole families dinner for goodness sake!

Nip it in the bud by being more communicative and tell him to either make his own share or simply stop eating yours, you shouldn't have to feel that your food is going to get scoffed up like this.

The answer is soooo obvious, yet the thread is turned into yet another battle of the sexes, 2nd's greedy, hungry , selfish, whatever you want to call it, there is not enough cooked to satisfy the hunger of the two plus enough left over for the next day.

ariba10

If he is always after 'seconds' it would appear that there is not enough on his plate to start with ?