Is OH being 'greedy'?

meritaten

poet123 wrote: »

Surely plating up or otherwise apportioning your meal is the logical thing to do?

If I cook a meal and one of my sons is absent I plate his up as I serve it out, so that his portion is accounted for and anything else is up for grabs. I wouldn't expect the rest of the family to assume he had not had his share if I hadn't done that.

Ive done that for over thirty years poet - I know to the nth degree how much each person will eat. and usually I give a bit more in case they are hungry. and get moans its too much! I do tend to leave my portion in the container it was cooked in - to save on washing up!
I know how much my OH will eat. I am wondering lately if he has worms - because he just seems to eat and eat! way more than usual. and its only in the last couple of months he has got really greedy.

coolcait

meritaten wrote: »

... I am wondering lately if he has worms - because he just seems to eat and eat! way more than usual. and its only in the last couple of months he has got really greedy.

And have you spoken to him about that?

Tiddlywinks

meritaten wrote: »

I know how much my OH will eat. I am wondering lately if he has worms - because he just seems to eat and eat! way more than usual. and its only in the last couple of months he has got really greedy.

Instead of using really judgmental language like 'greedy'... perhaps you might consider if there is a medical reason for his increase in appetite? Particularly as he is eating much more but not gaining weight. If it were my OH, I'd be worrying about him, not accusing him of being selfish.

You always come on here and moan about your OH and often seem really angry in the way you describe what he does... that can't be a great way to live for either of you.

Does he ever do anything that you approve of?

coolcait

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Instead of using really judgmental language like 'greedy'... perhaps you might consider if there is a medical reason for his increase in appetite? Particularly as he is eating much more but not gaining weight. If it were my OH, I'd be worrying about him, not accusing him of being selfish.

You always come on here and moan about your OH and often seem really angry in the way you describe what he does... that can't be a great way to live for either of you.

Does he ever do anything that you approve of?

^^This.

How much of this thread is to do with your husband eating the leftovers? And how much is to do with the way you feel about him?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Good grief...

So, even if he eats a meal that is freshly prepared that he finds absolutely delicious, he is not allowed to have seconds because the 'cook' didn't prepare enough for seconds YET the bit left in the pot will not be eaten that evening but left 'til the next day?

So, those 'leftovers' go into the fridge and he has to prepare something else?

OK. So you put food down on the table for your family and, for whatever reason, you can't eat your own portion right now. But that's alright, they can just have all yours and seconds - you'll just have to go hungry because you weren't quick enough off the draw?


If somebody has eaten a full meal, there is absolutely no reason on earth why they should 'need' somebody else's meal as well as seconds.




If anybody is prepared to overeat to that extent then yes, they should make themself something else. That's what toasters are for.

gocurlygirl

The way he was bought up was a long time ago surely!I would also be worried about ill health for him.I also see communication as a factor (and would box up my portion for the next day).On the other hand he must really enjoy your cooking and I would take that as a compliment!:)

sukysue

Has he got worms?

coolcait

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

OK. So you put food down on the table for your family and, for whatever reason, you can't eat your own portion right now. But that's alright, they can just have all yours and seconds - you'll just have to go hungry because you weren't quick enough off the draw?


If somebody has eaten a full meal, there is absolutely no reason on earth why they should 'need' somebody else's meal as well as seconds.




If anybody is prepared to overeat to that extent then yes, they should make themself something else. That's what toasters are for.

I don't see any of that happening here.

I do see a complete lack of communication.

Dumbe

He's not just being greedy, he's being rude disrespectful, selfish and several other words.

If it was me I'd tell him when he tucks in no seconds , as he quite plainly csn't be trusted to take seconds and respect other people's rights to eat.

I'd also take all that I wanted out into a container and tell him clearly NOT to touch it.

If he wants more tell him to go and cook it for himself but leave your share alone.

jenhug

If you were both sat eating a meal, would he expect you to hand over your meal for him to eat if he finishes before you? That's essentially what he is doing here.