Is OH being 'greedy'?

Dunroamin

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

It really annoys me too when you've cooked a decent dinner and yet people are looking for more to eat not long afterwards. An ex of mine was like this, I think it's just an acquired bad habit as if they've eaten a good sized portion they can't really say they're still starving.

If he isn't putting on weight and he hasn't got a medical problem (both of which need checking out), if someone is still hungry after a meal then the portion isn't large enough, regardless of whether anyone else thinks it is.

Kayalana99

Mojisola wrote: »

The first time he did it, did you say "You've eaten what I'd put by for my lunch tomorrow"? If you've said that every time it's happened and he's still doing it, I'd be angry.

I don't agree with this as someone else had said it above as well. I think its just childish not to say something and to 'hint' that he's done the wrong thing, end day OP needs to be open and talk to her partner - and if that doesn't work making snide comments isn't going to make things better but create more arguments.

I'd probally just ignore it on purpose personally if someone was doing those 'hints' at me as it would just annoy me.

midnight_express

OP - Have you considered divorce ? It's sounds as if you'd both be happier living alone.

Mojisola

Mojisola wrote: »

The first time he did it, did you say "You've eaten what I'd put by for my lunch tomorrow"? If you've said that every time it's happened and he's still doing it, I'd be angry.

Kayalana99 wrote: »

I don't agree with this as someone else had said it above as well. I think its just childish not to say something and to 'hint' that he's done the wrong thing, end day OP needs to be open and talk to her partner - and if that doesn't work making snide comments isn't going to make things better but create more arguments.

I'd probally just ignore it on purpose personally if someone was doing those 'hints' at me as it would just annoy me.

In what way is "You've eaten what I'd put by for my lunch tomorrow" a hint or a snide comment?

19lottie82

I really don't get what the big deal is here. Make the meal, put your portion aside and let him get on with it.

duchy

Dunroamin wrote: »

I can't imagine not eating dinner with my husband nearly every day, it's the focus of our evenings.

Obviously your husband isn't ....... in the forces, ever works away, works shifts etc etc . Plenty of people don't have that luxury and manage to make it work with very little imagination required.

duchy

If he's eating more seemingly but not putting on weight-something isn't right.

Have you actually talked to him about his bigger appetite and possible reasons/solutions.

For the sake of one extra bit of washing up a day-I'd plate or container "your share" too though.

persa

Dunroamin wrote: »

If he isn't putting on weight and he hasn't got a medical problem (both of which need checking out), if someone is still hungry after a meal then the portion isn't large enough, regardless of whether anyone else thinks it is.

This. If the OP is happy to keep cooking, she should increase the portion size for her OH and box up her portion separately. When I was younger, I used to batch cook, eat dinner, help myself to some more, and then be surprised I didn't have as much left as I thought. That's when I began boxing up portions, it makes it easier.

Btw, am I the only person who doesn't think seconds are normal? They either indicate a very greedy person (in which case, the OP's OH would be gaining weight, not losing it) or an inadequately sized meal.

I don't think the OP's OH should be eating "leftovers" at all, I think he should have one (bigger) meal to start with.

Dunroamin

duchy wrote: »

Obviously your husband isn't ....... in the forces, ever works away, works shifts etc etc . Plenty of people don't have that luxury and manage to make it work with very little imagination required.

Well obviously.......why should my comment reflect anybody else's situation?

FBaby

lostinrates wrote: »

Agreed, they don't all have to be all on op 's part. But neither do they all have to revolve around her oh being denied satisfaction!

If HE changes his eating habits, then HE needs to do something about it, either eat something else or tell OP that his appetite has increased and would she mind doing more. Assuming that she will make all the adjustment herself to suit him IS being self-centered.