Is OH being 'greedy'?

mummyroysof3

I personally think OP is compromising as she wants tea at 6 he wants it at 8 and fresh and that's what he gets and then eats hers for the next day which I say is selfish. I would have long ago said I'm cooking most of the time at the item that suits me and you can reheat or get something else.

We have tea at 5 as that's when the children want it and I refuse to do meals twice. When my husband want getting in from work until 7 or 8 he was quite happy to eat what I was prepared to make and fit in with me getting the children to bed.

paulineb_2

She wants tea at 6 as she wont eat after 6pm at night, I dont know if Id call that compromising to be honest.

They dont eat a meal together by the looks of things.

Seriously, you wont eat after 6pm at night and someone wants a meal later and they are selfish?

Maybe he should be put in the stocks and pelted with fruit because he doesnt want a dinner at the same time as she does?

Issues, if someone wont eat leftovers, Id have said years ago, if there are leftovers they are there to be eaten

If you want fresh at 8pm and I dont feel like cooking, make your own

Dont run yourself ragged doing things you wont do and then be unhappy, Im not saying the OP is doing this, but if he has a pair of hands, he can make a curry.

mummyroysof3

Eating at a different time isn't selfish no but eating all the available food is

paulineb_2

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

Eating at a different time isn't selfish no but eating all the available food is

The OP also has the option of making more and freezing it.

Or making less

Or making the same and taking her portion for lunch the next day out so it cant be eaten by anyone, seriously, there are solutions to this that are easy to put in place.

Or, asking him to do a share of the cooking and if hes not a good cook, most people can learn

No point in making a rod for your own back and then getting upset, its just pointless

Dunroamin

paulineb wrote: »

Shes trying to lose weight, hes not, theres already a big difference in what they will consume calorie wise

Considering the OP talks of having pie for lunch and having chips with it, I'm not so sure about that.

Dunroamin

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

We have tea at 5 as that's when the children want it and I refuse to do meals twice. When my husband want getting in from work until 7 or 8 he was quite happy to eat what I was prepared to make and fit in with me getting the children to bed.

I wouldn't be happy to have my needs pay second fiddle to the children's if I'd been out at work all day but I expect that's a subject for another thread.

paulineb_2

In this situation, if I were determined to keep cooking, Id make the same, and then make something different for my lunch the next day, OP I have no idea if you work or not, but either way, its easy enough to knock something up for lunch

I do think the problem is, if food is there, you will eat it. Sometimes I'll make a lot of food and I cant finish it so I'll give it away to my mum to have for her lunches the next week

But if you can just remove your lunch portion for the next day, let it cool and shove it in a tub I dont think hes likely to go microwaving it if you have already set it aside.

Lifes hard enough at times without being upset about food, maybe you need to let go a bit in the kitchen and let him get on with preparing his own supper, even if its eggs on toast, even if youve been cooking 20 years plus for him

People dont tend to starve when left to their own devices. No one taught me how to cook when I moved into my own flat, I managed. Im sure he could manage as well if need be.

mummyroysof3

Dunroamin wrote: »

I wouldn't be happy to have my needs pay second fiddle to the children's if I'd been out at work all day but I expect that's a subject for another thread.

He got fed and I don't make him eat stuff he didn't like so what's the problem with that?

mountainofdebt

I agree with all the other posters who've said that this is not just about the eating habits of the OP's OH - I do have the impression he can't do right for doing wrong.

If I was the OP then I would dish my mine on a plate and then put it in the fridge - surely its not healthy to leave food in the pan, overnight?

Dunroamin

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

He got fed and I don't make him eat stuff he didn't like so what's the problem with that?

As I said, a different thread.