Would it be rude...

Buzzybee90

Dunroamin wrote: »

Why on earth would you feel that nobody in your circle can get married during this period? Have I missed something or is it just you?

I'm not sure really, I suppose if it was in a year and someone popped in before them they might get a bit stroppy about it but 3 years is such a long time. I've spoken to a few of our friends and they have expressed similar worries, I will pass on your thoughts everyone!

Person_one

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Thank you for all your replies, I wasn't expecting such quick ones!

It's certainly not a race, no. I really appreciate the responses, I just didn't want to rock the boat. We might not be engaged by then or we might be married, I just don't want to be accused of stealing thunder

People get engaged and married every day, millions of them. There is no thunder.

As long as you don't, I don't know, try to conceive your first child on the dancefloor at their reception you're ok!

Buzzybee90

GoldenShadow wrote: »

Reminds me of this thread. Some good points were raised...

(can't post links!)

Ahh yes, I remember this thread (partner has an account and he pointed it out to me as was a similar time to brother) - that person was very silly! My brother-in-law (oooh!) is a lovely guy as is fiance just don't want to overshadow them at all!

Buzzybee90

Person_one wrote: »

People get engaged and married every day, millions of them. There is no thunder.

As long as you don't, I don't know, try to conceive your first child on the dancefloor at their reception you're ok!

Hahahah! I'll try not to! :D:D

Buzzybee90

Mankysteve wrote: »

It seems to be the current fashion to get engaged then wait/ never bother getting married. In think the current financial situation is partly to blame.

I have friends who have been engaged years but have no plans to marry!

mummyroysof3

Only issue I would see as a problem is if you both want weddings abroad and family members couldn't afford both

Person_one

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

Only issue I would see as a problem is if you both want weddings abroad and family members couldn't afford both

Well, the issue there would be having a wedding abroad and expecting family members to come and pay for themselves.

Buzzybee90

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

Only issue I would see as a problem is if you both want weddings abroad and family members couldn't afford both

We only want a small/diy wedding so money shouldn't be as much of a problem as if we were going to whole hog. Plus the girls are both different families, if we are talking traditional but no we'd be looking to pay for most ourselves

Buzzybee90

Another quick question. They are having an engagement party in October, does anyone know the etiquette? I've never been to one before.

GoldenShadow

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

(can't post links!)

Ahh yes, I remember this thread (partner has an account and he pointed it out to me as was a similar time to brother) - that person was very silly! My brother-in-law (oooh!) is a lovely guy as is fiance just don't want to overshadow them at all!

I was referring more to the time scales. The time between engagement and marriage varies for many and in essence everyone should do what is right for themselves whatever and whenever that may be. I wouldn't have said the thread was silly, poster felt jealous and vented. I just think people can do what they like when they like its up to you to make your life what you want it regardless of what or when anyone else does anything.