Can you wear black to a wedding?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Person_one wrote: »

Traditionally, black was a colour for mourning and funerals, so wearing it to a wedding was a way of letting the couple know how you felt about them getting married. Women weren't supposed to wear red either, it was apparently a way of signalling that you were the groom's secret mistress! :eek:

The only real colour rule now is that you shouldn't wear white, only the bride is allowed a white dress at a wedding. Even that gets stretched a bit now though and its fine to wear patterned dresses with a lot of white in and so on.

It is all a bit weird, I'll grant you that.

liney wrote: »

I was always told green is also bad luck unless the bride is Irish. Pearls are for tears, and red roses symbolise the groom's blood.

Don't we make life difficult for ourselves!

I think black will be fine as it's not a summer wedding as long as you wear a coloured jacket and handbag/shoes.

In other words, if you could get away with your outfit for a funeral, then it's not OK for the wedding.

If I ever get married, I'm going to do it at Halloween wearing a red dress.


And green was supposed to be bad luck because it encouraged the fairy folk to come along.



Mind you, there are so many useless superstitions surrounding such things, whatever you do, there will be somebody sucking in through their teeth and making dark muttering sounds.

BritAbroad

I've heard that green is the colour of laughter and joy. Worked for me, my bridesmaids wore green and looked stunning.

aliasojo

I wore pearls and my bridesmaids were in mint green.

I got divorced.

pigpen

You can wear whatever you like.. this is a pic of the last wedding we went to..



and we were far from the only ones in black!!!

System

mrcow wrote: »

Monsoon maxi dresses are really smart. They are VERY forgiving and their sizes are generous. Just go along and try on one of everything. You may even find something you like!

They also do accessories that don't make you look like an old frump.

..and if you're not fussed about having this season's dresses, you can get Monsoon clothes on EBay for a fraction of the price :money:

cakeforbrains

Please don't truss yourself up in something uncomfortable for the sake of not looking fat. Most people won't judge your size, and those who do aren't worth being uncomfortable for.

I spent years and years covering up my fat arms until I thought 'why should I overheat just to prevent someone from seeing a bit of flab? Who cares?' and I've been super-comfortable in vest tops all summer. I know it's easy for me to say, but you'll look your best if you wear clothes that you like.

Torry_Quine

pigpen wrote: »

You can wear whatever you like.. this is a pic of the last wedding we went to..



and we were far from the only ones in black!!!

That looks more like a funeral, only the smiles give a clue that it isn't.

Brian8888

aliasojo wrote: »

I'm fat.

I can't wear light colours, a) they don't suit me because of skin tone/hair colour etc, b) they make me look even fatter.

So...black or not?

Get the black dress and OWN it/ROCK it. No problem to wear black to a wedding and will look very classy.

daisiegg

To chime in about black trousers, there was one woman wearing them at my wedding (she was one of only two women in trousers, but the other one was in a shocking pink loose trouser suit with a matching top hat - she is slightly eccentric!) and to be completely honest, she did look out of place. I know she is very self-conscious about her figure (though she is daft because she is gorgeous and only about a size 16) and she never wears dresses or skirts so she agonised over what to wear. As the bride I really didn't care what people were wearing and was just glad they had come, but looking at the pictures she really does stand out even having teamed her black trousers with high heels, a glitzy top, jewellery, a fascinator and a pashmina. Your eye is drawn to her as looking very different to everyone else (somehow even the woman in the crazy hot pink trouser suit with matching top hat looks less out of place than the one in smart black trousers). Now I am not judging and as I say, I was just happy she was there - but if you are already self-conscious it might be better to go with a dress rather than something that might draw attention to yourself for being different.

There were at least half a dozen women in black dresses at my wedding (it was the beginning of April and still a bit wintry) and as many more in dark colours like navy, dark purple and dark green. I remember one of my friends coming up to me and apologising for wearing black, saying she had nothing else to wear but felt really bad about it. I couldn't care less and thought she looked fabulous in her black dress and black sequinned jacket! I think it is ok to wear black to a wedding especially if you break it up with coloured accessories and maybe coloured shoes if you are a shoe person

Hope you find something great to wear and have fun!

daisiegg

Torry_Quine wrote: »

That looks more like a funeral, only the smiles give a clue that it isn't.

Very good looking people though!