Does my Mum love me? (not respecting fear of stuff)

jacques_chirac

early20s wrote: »

If I ever become a millionaire or my Mum needs help, I'm going to just remember her of how she made me feel. That is one day I hope can happen, I know its bad taste, but I hope it makes her realise how she made me feel

If I move out, I can see it ending the relationship for good

What should do is print off this thread and read it back in a few years time, when you have overcome your phobia. Then you can give your mum the biggest apology.

You're either a troll or you need to start growing up. I'm not sure which.

System

To be honest I'm kind of even more depressed most people have went on my Mum's side. If they had children, they would be happy to see their children lock themselves in their room for hours? and be depressed most of the time?

Lagoon

early20s wrote: »

To be honest I'm kind of even more depressed most people have went on my Mum's side. If they had children, they would be happy to see their children lock themselves in their room for hours? and be depressed most of the time?

So, which entirely fresh-aired environment do you work in, where your colleagues have no level of personal hygiene?

System

jacques_chirac wrote: »

What should do is print off this thread and read it back in a few years time, when you have overcome your phobia. Then you can give your mum the biggest apology.

You're either a troll or you need to start growing up. I'm not sure which.

I don't think I will overcome the phobia. My mum is the one who needs to change right now and so do I. We both need to change.

neverdespairgirl

early20s wrote: »

To be honest I'm kind of even more depressed most people have went on my Mum's side. If they had children, they would be happy to see their children lock themselves in their room for hours? and be depressed most of the time?

I certainly wouldn't be happy about it.

I'd feel very strongly that enabling a weird form of behaviour was contrary to that child's best interests, though, and would encourage rather than subdue extreme selfishness.

CH27

early20s wrote: »

To be honest I'm kind of even more depressed most people have went on my Mum's side. If they had children, they would be happy to see their children lock themselves in their room for hours? and be depressed most of the time?

The world does not revolve around you.

duchy

early20s wrote: »

Yes I expect my Mum to change her life, because I'm her son, shouldn't she love and care about me

I will make the suggestion about cleaning thanks but she spends hours a week doing it, she is a bit OCD about cleaning

My son has MH issues. Like your Mum I will protect my son but I will NOT pander to it .....and if he EVERtold me he was so selfish as to expect me to change my life but he wasn't going to be doing anything to lessen the impact of his issues I'd be telling him that at 21 it was time to move out if living with me was so difficult for him. I'm a mum not a doormat and spent years raising my son. Now he's an adult ill love him and support him but if he's that disrespectful he can live elsewhere. He's not a child anymore and neither are you.

System

CH27 wrote: »

The world does not revolve around you.

!!!!!!, I know, all I'm asking is for love and sympathy

thorsoak

early20s wrote: »

To be honest I'm kind of even more depressed most people have went on my Mum's side. If they had children, they would be happy to see their children lock themselves in their room for hours? and be depressed most of the time?

And what do people in Real Life think? I have four adult children and no mother wishes to see her child depressed and locked in their room - but what you want is control - control of your mother when you cannot control yourself!

Put yourself in control of your own life, not your mother's.

jacques_chirac

early20s wrote: »

I don't think I will overcome the phobia. My mum is the one who needs to change right now and so do I. We both need to change.

You have still not given any evidence that proves your fears are true. That is the first step towards recovery. The next is exposure.

What are you doing to help yourself?