Does my Mum love me? (not respecting fear of stuff)

brenda10

early20s wrote: »

She could use roll on deodorant, use lemon juice to clean the kitchen, the fake tan is so strong. Shes just done and I was desperate to brush my teeth and have an early bed but now I'll have to wait around 2 hours.

I said couldn't you have told me your were doing your fake tan, and she started shouting at me telling me to shut up and "don't start". so I just went to my room and start crying. Shes not a chav that sounds like I've made out, shes smart etc but can't have an adult conversationg sometimes.

To be honest, I really don't think she loves me anymore. It feels so depressing and I don't have anyone else really. If I had a child, I would make 3 or 4 simple sacrifices to ensure they could cope.

Early20's so sorry to hear you have such a selfish mum, if it was me I would do anything for my daughter, selfish is the word that comes to mind. My daughter is sensitive to certain items, they make her eyes water, nose run etc and I make sure she can be content and safe and happy and feel loved in her home so I DO NOT USE THEM. I have used alternative products, your mum seems to put her needs first, a real Mother puts her children first if at all possible and you seem like a normal nice daughter, Shame on your mum. Take care and a big HUG from me. :A
I suffer from fibromyalgia and am very sensitive to smells and this makes me realise how my daughter feels so I avoid what is unnecessary to me, I work around it and both of us manage.

jacques_chirac

Molly41 wrote: »

Summer holiday boredom!

Oh and your mum should not pander to you - an adult - in name!

I'm beginning to smell (non chemically enhanced) troll?

balletshoes

brenda10 wrote: »

Early20's so sorry to hear you have such a selfish mum, if it was me I would do anything for my daughter, selfish is the word that comes to mind. My daughter is allergic to certain items and I make sure she can be content and safe and happy and feel loved in her home so I DO NOT USE THEM. I have used alternative products, your mum seems to put her needs first, a real Mother puts her children first if at all possible and you seem like a normal nice daughter, Shame on your mum. Take care and a big HUG from me. :A

the OP isn't allergic to any of these items.

jacques_chirac

brenda10 wrote: »

Early20's so sorry to hear you have such a selfish mum, if it was me I would do anything for my daughter, selfish is the word that comes to mind. My daughter is allergic to certain items and I make sure she can be content and safe and happy and feel loved in her home so I DO NOT USE THEM. I have used alternative products, your mum seems to put her needs first, a real Mother puts her children first if at all possible and you seem like a normal nice daughter, Shame on your mum. Take care and a big HUG from me. :A

The OP does not have an allergy, he has a phobia. Is a phobia something to be encouraged?

neverdespairgirl

early20s wrote: »

come on, im not going to get up at 6am when I have to get up at 8am. And I'm not lazy btw.

If it mattered to you enough to use the bathroom when no deoderant had been sprayed, you would have got up at 6am. Instead, you expect your mother to change her life over something that's apparently not worth you getting out of bed earlier for?

If cleaning products bother you, why not offer to do absolutely all the cleaning? Then you don't have to bother about any chemicals, you can use whatever you like.

System

balletshoes wrote: »

the OP isn't allergic to any of these items.

I have a huge fear of them so its just the same

Triker

Go and see a decent hypnotherapist they'll enable you to get rid of your phobias so you can live an easier life.

Lagoon

early20s wrote: »

I have a huge fear of them so its just the same

No it isn't. Coming into contact with these smells won't cause you any pain, illness or damage.

balletshoes

early20s wrote: »

I have a huge fear of them so its just the same

how is it?

System

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

If it mattered to you enough to use the bathroom when no deoderant had been sprayed, you would have got up at 6am. Instead, you expect your mother to change her life over something that's apparently not worth you getting out of bed earlier for?

If cleaning products bother you, why not offer to do absolutely all the cleaning? Then you don't have to bother about any chemicals, you can use whatever you like.

Yes I expect my Mum to change her life, because I'm her son, shouldn't she love and care about me

I will make the suggestion about cleaning thanks but she spends hours a week doing it, she is a bit OCD about cleaning