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Does my Mum love me? (not respecting fear of stuff)
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Oh go on I'll bite.
Can you think back to when this phobia started / what triggered it?2014 Target;
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xXMessedUpXx wrote: »I wouldn't be happy no.
Insted i would encourage them to see help for their problems. There is such a thing as enabling with MH problems. It's not easy but you evidently need the skills and coping strategies to overcome your problems, and live a more normal life. Surely you can see sealing yourself in your room is not a "normal"(sorry not the best word) reaction? Its an extreme reaction to your phobia. If your mum starts cutting things out left right and center, that will just reinforce the idea that these reactions are normal, which won't change anything. You won't have overcome your phobia, rather your mother will be enabling it to continue.
I know what you mean exactly. But while I'm seeing the psychologist why make me life hell and depressed, it just makes things much worse.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
It provides a shelter. If I owned the house, I would tell her if she didn't stop using the products, then she should pack her bags. Thats what shes taught me by her stance on things
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- so by the same token then, as she's the home owner, she can order you to sling you hook right now? 0 -
It provides a shelter. If I owned the house, I would tell her if she didn't stop using the products, then she should pack her bags. Thats what shes taught me by her stance on things
So move! Be in charge of your own home and live how you want to live.Some days you're the dog..... most days you're the tree!
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your son doesn't have a serious mental problem though that makes his heart beat jump so fast and feels like hes having a panic attack
He doesn't, you are entirely right.
If he did, I would do my best to help him deal with it and overcome it.
What I wouldn't do is enable it and pander to him, which would help absolutely no-one, him most of all....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
neverdespairgirl wrote: »He doesn't, you are entirely right.
If he did, I would do my best to help him deal with it and overcome it.
What I wouldn't do is enable it and pander to him, which would help absolutely no-one, him most of all.
so by stopping his panic attacks, it wouldn't be helping him?
It wouldn't be helping the overall problem, but it would at least not make your son's life hellThis is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
OP I promise you I do empathise. I was diagnosed with OCD 6yrs ago and whilst I'm not so terrible with it now I do get so stressed over minor things.
My fears centralise around fire. My partner decided to change the plug sockets and I played holy hell. My heart was racing over it. So silly to type it now...it's a simple job but I just couldn't get a grip with it and had to sit up for hours checking the sockets and sniffing the rooms for smoke!
I appreciate to some it's complete cuckoo but it's so hard to deal with when you just get this pang of utter anxiety. I can imagine, like me you would do anything to stop your behaviour and yet just can't. As I say I have much better control these days and it hardly impacts me but at it's worse I can be tired out and yet have to check plug sockets and appliances over and over again till I feel I'm going round the twist! I'll go to bed, get up, go to bed, get up convinced the room is smoky.
I know it's not quite the same but it's all linked in my opinion. I urge you..really urge you to get some more counselling. I know your angry with your mum but you have to appreciate your fears aren't HERS. Your mum loves you just as my partner loves me but why should anyone stop their behaviour for something that really isn't normal and it isn't mate..chemicals are everywhere unfortunately0 -
OP how do you cope at work?Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0
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so by stopping his panic attacks, it wouldn't be helping him?
It wouldn't be helping the overall problem, but it would at least not make your son's life hell
Calming you down from a panic attack would be more effective by (as I keep saying) helping you to rationalise your fears, not by withdrawing the triggers.
What is the worst thing that can happen if you come into contact with the offending items, and is that worst thing ever likely to happen?0
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