Does my Mum love me? (not respecting fear of stuff)

marleyboy

I liken it to moving into my Mothers and demanding she stops smoking whilst I am there. It's her house and as such I am in no position to demand she changes her habits at home to suit me.

Rev

early20s wrote: »

No I haven't been hospitalised but let me tell you that mental pain and issues can be much more damaging than physical problems. And I have tried to commit suicide once that failed but didn't end up in hospital.

I want her to change, so I no longer suffer and can cope better.

If you had a fear of spiders, and everyday, you had to encounter them 3 or 4 times, from the person that you are supposed to be closest to (parent), do you think you would think that the parent loves you if they were doing it and telling you to shut up and just go to your room

I'm petrified of snakes. My best friend has 6 as pets. Do I expect her to get rid of them? No.

I'm vegetarian. And it does upset me when people eat meat. Do I expect them to stop doing so around me? No.

I simply realise that it's my issues and don't expect everyone to change to suit me.

Your mum is not doing anything terrible. She's using deodorant.

As I said. The world will not change for you. And just because your mum doesn't want to stop using personal hygiene products doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

fashionlover10

I have Anxiety Disorder and panic attacks. Leaving the house terrifies me to the point of bringing on a panic attack but if we need bread or milk etc I have to go to the shop and get it.
I can't rely on my OH ALL the time especially as he works full time and has an hours commute each way. If I expected him to do everything such as pop to the shop/bank/cash point it would not be benefiting my recovery nor our relationship.

I want nothing more than to have a normal life again so I try and do as much as I possibly can for myself which includes turning OH down when he offers to do things for me.

Exposure therapy is the best thing for you so maybe you should ask your GP to refer you for CBT.

geoffky

butane which is a nasty gas
I'm going to explode

You are a troll..

Georgiegirl256

early20s wrote: »

I disagree, deodorant is butane which is a nasty gas. also why are cancer rates so high, all these perfumes and chemical cosmetics. I hate the invasive, chemical smells, honestly, I feel like I'm going to explode

No one go near the OP with a lighter! :eek: :rotfl:

Dimey

If you're real...... you seems to have become fixated on two things -

1) Your Mum doesn't love you
2) Your Mum needs to change to prove her love for you

You keep repeating this over and over in your posts. You don't seem to consider any solutions.

You could move to your own home.
You could buy cleaning products of your choice and do the cleaning yourself.
You could pay for an en-suite to be built in your bedroom if there's room.

You could have used the kitchen sink to brush your teeth when your Mum was in the bathroom. You could have gone to bed without brushing teeth for once. You could have set up a water jug and bowl in your bedroom to brush teeth.

But you'll ignore all the options and focus on - your Mum was being awkward because she doesn't love you.

Go see your therapist and explain your smell phobia is worsening into suicidal thoughts and something else - obsession maybe? Ask for more help.

paulineb_2

early20s wrote: »

come on, im not going to get up at 6am when I have to get up at 8am. And I'm not lazy btw.

So you would give up a degree rather than be in the bathroom earlier in the day?

paulineb_2

early20s wrote: »

I don't think I will overcome the phobia. My mum is the one who needs to change right now and so do I. We both need to change.

Your mum doesnt need to change. You have the phobia. Are you going to spend your life avoiding people who wear perfume, use deodorant?

I have certain allergies and I use perfume but I cant wear certain brands of deodorant and wear certain make ups, but I dont have an issue with other people doing so.

The issue isnt with your mum and from what you are saying you dont have an allergic reaction, you have a phobia and its ruining your life.

Asking people in your life not to use these items in their own home will do nothing to address the phobia, it will still be there regardless.

mountainofdebt

Has the Op bothered to reply to my question?

hcb42

what a shameful thread by the OP.