Does my Mum love me? (not respecting fear of stuff)

System

Gingernutty wrote: »

If you loved your mother, you wouldn't be inflicting your illness on her. You'd be doing your best to get better for her.

yes she is maybe trying to do that but also acting selfishly.

If she loved me, she would stop causing me so much stress, honestly I feel like im going to just die

Mojisola

early20s wrote: »

I'm her son, she brought me into the world. What kind of people say "when youre 18, thats when you move out". Do you not have a heart, family values, family love...If I have children, they would have a home FOR LIFE if they needed it

If you were sharing the house and the bills and the housework, no-one would be suggesting that you should move out. It's a parent's job to help their children to grow up and become independent - not to treat them as children all their lives.

You are behaving as if the universe revolves around you and are demanding that your mother - in her house - changes her life to suit your whims. I doubt you would allow any child of yours to dictate how you lived.

jellyhead

early20s wrote: »

I'm her son, she brought me into the world. What kind of people say "when youre 18, thats when you move out". Do you not have a heart, family values, family love...If I have children, they would have a home FOR LIFE if they needed it

Mine have a home for life whenever they need it, but I hope they won't often need it. I hope they'll have a happy life of their own living with a partner or friends, or even alone and happy.

System

Mojisola wrote: »

If you were sharing the house and the bills and the housework, no-one would be suggesting that you should move out. It's a parent's job to help their children to grow up and become independent - not to treat them as children all their lives.

You are behaving as if the universe revolves around you and are demanding that your mother - in her house - changes her life to suit your whims. I doubt you would allow any child of yours to dictate how you lived.

If my child had a mental health problem that could be helped (eg them not having panic attack, not having to lock themself in their room for hours, thinking about suicide) by me changing some of my personal hygiene products, then I would do it because I love them. I would even do it for a stranger. Its not a big change.


I'm not dictating, i'm trying to get her to show some care about my mental health problem.

You're forgetting I have an extreme phobia

Georgiegirl256

early20s wrote: »

You're forgetting I have an extreme phobia

But you're not looking to get any help for it though. What are you doing to try and help yourself work through it?

thorsoak

Early20s - how do you cope with laundry? What about the scents of the washing powder/liquid/fabric softeners? Do they not bother you?

Or do you not wash your clothes/bedlinen?

You are no longer a child - you are an adult and its time you started to behave like one.

System

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

But you're not looking to get any help for it though. What are you doing to try and help yourself work through it?

I see a specialist about it

System

thorsoak wrote: »

Early20s - how do you cope with laundry? What about the scents of the washing powder/liquid/fabric softeners? Do they not bother you?

Or do you not wash your clothes/bedlinen?

You are no longer a child - you are an adult and its time you started to behave like one.

I wash all my own clothes, towels, using a homemade natural mixture

Wouldn't use the towels she washes if you paid me because they stink of chemicals that stick to your body, so disgusting

Mojisola

early20s wrote: »

If my child had a mental health problem that could be helped (eg them not having panic attack, not having to lock themself in their room for hours, thinking about suicide) by me changing some of my personal hygiene products, then I would do it because I love them. I would even do it for a stranger. Its not a big change.

I'm not dictating, i'm trying to get her to show some care about my mental health problem.

You're forgetting I have an extreme phobia

No, I'm not but you're forgetting all the posts that have tried to tell you that giving in to your phobia will not help you - you need to sort out the problem!

CH27

OP how do you cope at work?