What's going on in this man's head?

dilemma10

He has gone out tonight but he's been texting and asked me if I had a good night, I simply replied 'Not bad, been to see somebody" and he does not seem to have liked the response as he replied "Ok mate...etc", I just can't win?

Fluff15

If you want to know what's going on in his head, then ask him! Then, if you don't like his answer then walk away. Stop speculating and dragging it out, and actually talk.

meritaten

wow - he has all the benefits here - while making it plain you aren't even his 'girlfriend'! if you want more he has the perfect defence. he TOLD you he wasn't looking for a relationship!
he isn't nice hun - I know you think he is - but that is all on the surface, underneath he is selfish and amoral. haven't you wondered WHY he so conveniently became 'available'? I bet his former girlfriend is kicking herself because she was so amenable until someone better (you) came along.

geoffky

He is scared...Too soon and he is petrified it was on the rebound and needs to find out in his own head if this is love or need..

seven-day-weekend

You are a mate who he has sex with. He has other mates who he does other things with. He likes you as much as he likes these other mates. He has been honest about this. If you want more than this, walk away.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

dilemma10 wrote: »

He has gone out tonight but he's been texting and asked me if I had a good night, I simply replied 'Not bad, been to see somebody" and he does not seem to have liked the response as he replied "Ok mate...etc", I just can't win?

Why does him asking 'ok mate etc' mean you can't win?

Peater

dilemma10 wrote: »

He has gone out tonight but he's been texting and asked me if I had a good night, I simply replied 'Not bad, been to see somebody" and he does not seem to have liked the response as he replied "Ok mate...etc", I just can't win?

games games games.

You came in here asking for what's going on in HIS head. You mainly got replies from women....

To me, it seems he's been very honest with you. A little indecisive at worst.

Why can't you just enjoy what you have without having to 'lock him down?' You say he just came out of a 10yr relationship. The last thing he probably wants is a full-on relationship.

If you really have a problem with it - tell him so. Don't play stupid games.

paulineb_2

You like him and you think if you hang around long enough you and he might end up having a relationship?

Fatal, do not go there, because hes told you how it is and the next person he ends up dating might not be you.

If you want to stay friends, by all means but get on with your life and stop sleeping with him if you cant handle the way things are just now.

~Chameleon~

Enjoy it for what is it, no commitment either way, or get out. Simples

aileth

Agree with the majority on here. He wants a relationship without the commitment of being in a relationship, aka he meets a stunner in the local bar, sleeps with her, you find out, cue, "We're not in a relationship, why are you upset?"

You either do exactly what he's doing to you and take advantage of him, or you walk away before things get messy with a capital M.