age differences between couples?

red_devil

Judi wrote: »

An older man? No I cant see the attraction.

you cant have met an older man that attracts you then?

j.e.j.

red_devil wrote: »

I wish people wouldnt start stupid threads on age gaps. They are just relationships like anyone elses!

absolutely.. look at these two



86 and 26, and happy as larry..

:lipsrseal

eddi

My nan was 12 years older than my granddad which I'm imagining must have been frowned upon at the time in the early 50's when they got married?? A friend of mine is married to a man 14 years younger and she said she gets mixed reactions from people. I have to say I briefly dated someone before I met my chap who was 15 years younger and I honestly just felt really odd about it. I'm only 5 years older than my partner and even then some people make jokes about having a toyboy.

It is odd that it seems generally accepted that a man can be much older than his partner but the other way round it still attracts attention. But someone else mentioned in an earlier post (apologies I forget who) about even things like differing height etc attracting comments. I'll be the first to say that I do find that a woman taller than a man together looks odd to me - I don't know why and there's no justifiable basis for it but it just does. Very strange :think:

and :eek: @dandelionclock30 I was just a bit astonished by that as were others. I didn't bother quoting the post again .... it's had enough space already.

red_devil

A friend of mine is married to a man 14 years younger and she said she gets mixed reactions from people

why do people have reactions its nothing to do with them.

Does she comment on all their relationships?

fashionlover10

daisiegg wrote: »

So, there is my take on it. Yes, it is not ideal to have a big age gap. Yes, I am very aware that things might be difficult when we are older, and I do worry about it a lot. However, I don't think any of that is reason enough not to go for it with the person you truly love. There is absolutely no guarantee that you will be lucky enough to meet someone who is the same age and ticks all the right boxes. There is also definitely no guarantee that if you do meet that person who is perfect AND the same age, that you STILL won't end up widowed young, or as a carer.

I completely agree with this. There's only 8 years between my and OH so we should age in a similar way but as he has Type 1 diabetes I'm well aware that he could suffer with complications and I could become his carer. That certainly doesn't put me off being with him though as I knew from the first day I met him that I wanted to be with him

eddi

red_devil wrote: »

why do people have reactions its nothing to do with them.

Does she comment on all their relationships?

Some people don't have to speak to have a reaction though do they. It's blatantly obvious what some people are thinking from the look on their face. And some folks, too many infact, don't need to be invited to give an opinion. I think she has just come to accept that some people have issue with it.

red_devil

eddi wrote: »

Some people don't have to speak to have a reaction though do they. It's blatantly obvious what some people are thinking from the look on their face. And some folks, too many infact, don't need to be invited to give an opinion. I think she has just come to accept that some people have issue with it.

their problem, what would they rather she was with someone who was the same age as her but she was miserable, badly treated and on the verge of splitting up?

some people!

System

red_devil wrote: »

Judi wrote: »

An older man? No I cant see the attraction.

you cant have met an older man that attracts you then?

Obviously!

Georgiegirl256

red_devil wrote: »

Do I worry about the future? To be honest, yes, I really do. At the moment 15 years is nothing but I am very aware that when I am 65 and he is 80, it will be a huge difference (I have read statistics though that say that men married to younger women live longer and are healthier in old age!). I don't think I have rose tinted glasses and I do think about this a lot and worry about it.

There isnt any need to worry you will be hardly young yourself at 65 and you may not even be alive but you know that.

You grab happiness while you can. I wish people wouldnt start stupid threads on age gaps. They are just relationships like anyone elses!

Until people stop discussing it and making a thing of unfortunately the ignorance and stupidity will go on.

Well said Red Devil! :beer:

daisiegg

red_devil wrote: »

There isnt any need to worry you will be hardly young yourself at 65 and you may not even be alive but you know that.

Not sure I entirely agree with you. At 65, as a teacher, chances are I will still be working. I don't think of 65 as 'old' - I know lots of people that age who still work, travel, exercise, go out, socialise, etc. I know fewer people (though not none) of 80 who are the same.