age differences between couples?

red_devil

daisiegg wrote: »

Not sure I entirely agree with you. At 65, as a teacher, chances are I will still be working. I don't think of 65 as 'old' - I know lots of people that age who still work, travel, exercise, go out, socialise, etc. I know fewer people (though not none) of 80 who are the same.

you wont be a spring chicken , you definetely dont even know you will be alive.

daisiegg

red_devil wrote: »

you wont be a spring chicken , you definetely dont even know you will be alive.

No, of course, but I also don't know I will be alive next year or tomorrow or ten minutes from now!

No, I agree, not a 'spring chicken', but surely you can see there is a much bigger difference between 65 and 80 than there is between 25 and 40?

red_devil

whats the point though in what you are saying?

ska_lover

j.e.j. wrote: »

No royal babies in this thread!

I was just wondering what people's thoughts are on age differences between couples. I got thinking about it because I've been invited to a wedding where the happy couple are about 30 and 55 (!) years old, and I think there have been, shall we say, mixed reactions to the wedding for one reason or another..

I guess it's not uncommon for (for example) a 10 or 15 year age gap, but I guess 25 years is quite a difference!

Out of interest (alright, nosiness ) has anyone on here got married to someone much older (or younger) than them? What were people's reactions, were they ok with it or were there a few raised eyebrows?

Really don't see the problem with age difference relationships at all - if the couple getting married are happy - why do other people assume they have the right to judge in any way?

Why are there mixed reactions from other people - surely the only reaction to a couple in love getting married - would be a happy one? Or is it a common thing for invited guests to pick fault? I really don't understand the concept of one having a problem with a relationship that one is not part of..

catkins

Judi wrote: »

An older man? No I cant see the attraction. A younger man? I should be so lucky!:o

OH is younger than me and all my boyfriends except one were younger than me. The one that was older was 11 years older (I was 21 at the time). Even at 32 he seemed boring and I didn't go out with him for long - in fact dumped him for an 18 year old who I moved in with within 4 weeks!

I am only really ever attracted to younger men and I seem to get on better with younger people - male and female. I put that down to being young at heart!

Gloomendoom

eddi wrote: »

My nan was 12 years older than my granddad which I'm imagining must have been frowned upon at the time in the early 50's when they got married??

Who is doing all this frowning?

Judging from my family and my wife's family, going back several generations, a woman marrying an older man is nothing out of the ordinary. Far from it.

bossymoo

daisiegg wrote: »

No, of course, but I also don't know I will be alive next year or tomorrow or ten minutes from now!

No, I agree, not a 'spring chicken', but surely you can see there is a much bigger difference between 65 and 80 than there is between 25 and 40?

There is, but although health risks increase with age, the young are not precluded.

I was just 7 months older than my DH and still ended up being his carer albeit for a short time. He died age 35. I was kinda hoping for another 30-40 years before we had that kind of carp to deal with

Love is love, and tbh, even though the carer side was physically (and emotionally) tough, I'd do it again and again for him (given the chance) and honestly didn't begrudge him a second of it.

delain

CH27 wrote: »

I went to a hospital appointment with my Dad recently.
The consultant shook hands with Dad & I the asked my relationship to Dad.
Apparantly he's been caught out a lot in the past assuming someone is a son or daughter when actually they are husband, wife or partner so now he always clarifies the relationship.

There's 26 years between OH and me. He once dropped me off at the school on his motorbike for me to collect my monsters anyone of the older mums asked if he was single cos she'd be interested thinking he was my dad or my uncle :rotfl::rotfl:

She was mortified when I explained but I wasn't upset I thought it was funny her face was a picture though!

System

Blimey, a large age gap is more common than I thought it was. My sister in law is 12 years younger than her husband and its only now they are in their senior years are they beginning to have problems. Whilst he is watching Cowboys and Indians and listening to Glen Campbell and Dolly Parton she is listening to Alice Cooper and the Moody Blues. The amount of times he tells us the same stuff over and over again..... and the amount of times she tutts and walks off!

I have another friend who is 13 years younger than her husband. They get on famously. They have the same sort of interests, share the same sort of 'old' music but she does moan about the lack of sex. She's raring to go and he's always too tired.

lady1964

Someone in my family married a man of 54/55 when she was 17. She already had a child and then went on to have two more with her hubby. They got divorced after a few years, she married again to someone a similar age to her, they had 2 kids then divorced again. She's currently single.

MY DH is just a year older than me but when I was 19, I dated a man of 38. He was great fun to be with, had a nice car & his own home, which was very appealing to my then shallow self. My parents liked him as well and didn't have a problem with me going out with this guy as long as he treated me well, which he did.

I have no problem with age gaps, it's feeling which count, that said, reading through the thread, I'm not sure I would marry a man 20 years older than me, if only because of the potential to become their carer later, although I will agree it could end up the other way around!