age differences between couples?

flutterby_lil

not*sure wrote: »

Im 27 & my DH is 50. We have been together 5 years married 3 and have a 2 yr old daughter

Wow - don't mean to sound offensive but just surprised at the age gap.

flutterby_lil

loobylou2 wrote: »

Theres 32 years between myself and my OH and we've been together for 17 years and have 3 children together. It is getting harder as we are both getting older and I often feel more like his carer than his partner. I'm no longer in my twenties but in my forties now and he is no longer in his fifties but in his seventies. Do I love him, the answer is yes, Do I regret getting involved with him, the answer is no as we have 3 beautiful children together. If I could go back 17 years and do it all again knowing what I know now would I do it again, the answer would be no, absolutely not and I wouldn't be happy if one of my children got involved with someone so much older although I fully realise that I would be in absolutely no position to comment. I thought I went into my relationship with my eyes wide open towards what the future may bring but sometimes these days think that I must have been wearing rose tinted glasses at the time!!!!!

Thanks for being so honest - when I was 18 I was with a 32 year old man, for 10 years! My mum wasn't happy and said I would notice the age gap when he turned 40, He was 40 in the January, I left him in the June - my mum couldn't have been more right. He is still single, had his house reposessed recently and has just come out of prison for drug dealing! Lovely man. He turned into a real loser.

swingaloo

Im 12 years older than my other half, Im pension age whilst he is early 50s.

We met when he was 37 and I was almost 50. At the beginning I was a lot more reluctant to get involved because of the age thing and I know my parents who were elderly themselves were sure he would run off and leave me when a better offer came along.

He is the same age as my youngest brother. I remember the first time we all met together, I was introducing him to my brother and my brother brought along his wife to be.

She was 16 years younger than my brother, stunning and all short skirt and fabulous hair whist I felt a complete frump:rotfl:
I remember telling my other half that he had drawn the short straw as both he and my brother were the same age and my brother has this Britney look alike whilst my partner got me.

His reply, bless him, was that whilst she may be 'good to look at' he could never have a real conversation with her and that I shouldn't put myself down.

15 years later my brother has married and divorced and we are still blissfully happy. I did get all the 'toyboy' jokes at first but I can honestly say that we have never had any issues.

daisiegg

EmmaBridgewater wrote: »

My boyfriend is three years older than me and that caused enough controversy :rotfl:

Ahhh, bless :rotfl:

Redouble

12 years difference between me and my husband, you wouldn't know it unless you knew, we act and look similar ages)
Been married 7 years now and have 3 children

meritaten

I recently found out that my lovely nan was informally adopted by a woman who married one bloke then two years later !!!!!!ed off and lived with a man 14 years younger than her! they didn't marry until nearly thirty years later. (to get the certs for pensions I think). when did this happen? early 1900s! this womans mother had married at least three times and her husbands had always bitten the dust within a couple of years (unlucky or calculating?).

ka7e

My husband is 23 years older than me. When we met I was 20 and he was 46, though he has always looked 15 years younger than his real age! He was always a great provider, worked hard and we had 3 lovely children.

Sadly, at 78, he now has the early signs of dementia. His short-term memory is terrible and he has gone from being the life and soul of the party to being quite reclusive. Friends have dropped away as he won't ever go out. He will soon have to give up driving as he forgets where he is going. We really need to down-size, but he is adamant we don't leave our current house which is becoming increasingly tatty as he ignores any maintenance.

I'm now 55 and I'm dreading what the future may bring.

kittendothroar

My friend got married last year, and there is 22 years between them and they recently had a baby and are very happy but I know their families were a little shocked at the time and a lot of negativity at first but think they finally accepted it.

Life is short you never know what can happen so why let age bother you?

ash28

There's 6 months between OH and I.....

There was 21 years between my parents....my mother was 21 and my father 42 when they got married....they had 4 children and many happy years together....he developed motor nuerone disease in his early 60s and died at 72. She wasn't really a carer to him as he could more or less do for himself as the disease developed slowly.

We have friends where the wife is 9 years older than the husband and they have been together since he was 17 and he is 68 now........still happy.

Alex Salmond has been married to his wife Moira for over 30 years and she is 17 years older than he is.......

Does it really matter? I imagine other than the possibility of ill health for the older partner, then it doesn't. Though ill health isn't necessarily confined to the elderly.....

meritaten

ka7e wrote: »

My husband is 23 years older than me. When we met I was 20 and he was 46, though he has always looked 15 years younger than his real age! He was always a great provider, worked hard and we had 3 lovely children.

Sadly, at 78, he now has the early signs of dementia. His short-term memory is terrible and he has gone from being the life and soul of the party to being quite reclusive. Friends have dropped away as he won't ever go out. He will soon have to give up driving as he forgets where he is going. We really need to down-size, but he is adamant we don't leave our current house which is becoming increasingly tatty as he ignores any maintenance.

I'm now 55 and I'm dreading what the future may bring.

But, he could have been closer in age to you and still had signs of dementia
my lovely nan had signs of Alzhiemers in her late fifties! at 78 its still a shame, is there nothing the medics can do to help?