age differences between couples?

Tiglath

My FIL is 25 years older than his 2nd wife. I know she's not terribly happy that he's 70 and she's my age and still having to work, but she should've thought of that, frankly.

Gloomendoom

cte1111 wrote: »

I've never been out with anyone more than a couple of years older than me. It's not a conscious preference, I've just never been attracted to younger or older men, like having things in common. I can understand why some people are though, we're all different.

How do you know old people are?

Goldiegirl

There's 9 years between myself and my husband.

We met when I was 19 and he was 27. Some people may have raised eyebrows at the time, but nobody actually said anything.

My mum was also 9 years younger than my dad, and the inlaws had exactly the same age difference, so it almost seemed like the norm.

We've been married nearly 32 years, and these days I never even think about any age gap. We are just the people that we are, age doesn't come into it really

seven-day-weekend

Kayalana99 wrote: »

My friend was 18 when she got with her partner who is 32. I suppose 14 years isn't OTT but because she was quite young everyone had something to say...

Thier still together 4 years later and people seemed to have just accepted it lol.

I have a friend who is 39 and his wife is 21, they have been married for three years and seem very happy together.

j.e.j.

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I have a friend who is 39 and his wife is 21, they have been married for three years and seem very happy together.

Well, if they are happy that's the main thing. But you say they married 3 years ago, so aged 18 and 36? that does sound a bit.. unusual!

angelsmomma

My first husband was 10 years older than me, I was 16 and he was very controlling. we divorced and I married someone 10 years younger.

We joked about me having a toyboy to push me in a wheelchair when I was too old to walk. He was diagnosed with terminal cancer shortly after we married and died at 35.

You can never tell, life gets in the way whatever the age difference is.

seven-day-weekend

j.e.j. wrote: »

Well, if they are happy that's the main thing. But you say they married 3 years ago, so aged 18 and 36? that does sound a bit.. unusual!

Yes, they were eighteen and 36. She is his second wife.

He got married the first time when he was 21 and his wife was 35. (The age gap was not the reason the marriage ended in divorce).

CH27

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Have you thought about leaving him and getting your life back? your young enough to find someone your own age and be out and about having a good time.Leave him to it I say, you dont owe him anything, you only live once. Or if you cant be bothered with all the faff of leaving then you could look for someone on the side as well.

What a nasty thing to say :eek:

*Twinkle*

17 years between me and my OH, i'm 37, he's 54, been together 7 years and have 3 kiddies (6, 2, and 1)

gayleanne

There are 20 years between myself and my husband, in the start of the relationship he was full of life, and energy, now he is 75, and spends all his time in bed, sleeping. He never wants to go out, or on holiday, it is as though he is just waiting to die. Where as I want to go out and on holiday, we are not short of money, but we are short of friends and a social life. Would I do it again, knowing what I do now? I really don't think so.

I am now a carer for my husband, and to say that my parents were not happy, is an understatement.