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southcoastrgi

Torry_Quine wrote: »

As someone who has never owned a 'sex toy' or read 50 shades I agree with your reasoning here. However I don't think that masturbation is appropriate in a marriage. If your spouse doesn't want sex then it's not necessary in my opinion to do anything

I really don't think you needed to tell us that, i think from your attitude we have all guessed the kind of woman you are, turn the lights off, get undressed in another room before you put your full length flanalet nighty on, i do feel sorry for your other half & i bet he looks at !!!!!!

Torry_Quine

Fosterdog wrote: »

You think that the other has understood, can you be 100% sure that your parter has never watched !!!!!!, masterbated, read a lads mag, leered at a page 3 girl while at work, perved at a young hot 20yr old wearing tight clothes in the middle of a heat wave and later though about them while in the bath or shower?

Unless you have spent every minute of your lives together you don't know for sure, they may say they haven't but that doesn't mean they haven't.

We will have to disagree because while I know 100% that if I told OH it's upset and hurt me for him to watch !!!!!! while I was having a flare up he wouldn't do it, but I don't have a problem with him watching it so don't see why he should suffer just because I am, it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

He has in the past and was totally mortified and embarassed but got help with the problem and it's not an issue now thankfully. He never reads 'newspapers' that have page 3 girls and as for perving over other women that's totally disgusting and unacceptable to both of us.

If you can accept his behaviour that's fine but the point is that it's not acceptable for everyone.

Netwizard wrote: »

Not even masturbating for each other or having a bit of fun? christ, that would be a boring marriage / sex life!

Glad i'm single! I can please myself with none of these worries :rotfl:

As said above. 99% masturbate, then other 1% are liars! so true

You can't make silly comments like that. No I don't and never have and feel very uncomfortable even thinking about doing it myself. Very sad that you think it makes for a boring marriage.

Torry_Quine

southcoastrgi wrote: »

I really don't think you needed to tell us that, i think from your attitude we have all guessed the kind of woman you are, turn the lights off, get undressed in another room before you put your full length flanalet nighty on, i do feel sorry for your other half & i bet he looks at !!!!!!

No, no, no, no to your thoughts.

**professor~yaffle**

Netwizard wrote: »

As said above. 99% masturbate, then other 1% are liars! so true

As they say, if you've got an itch, you know best where to scratch it :rotfl:

Netwizard

Torry_Quine wrote: »

You can't make silly comments like that.

I can and just did :rotfl:

Can't believe how closed minded you are, but each to their own. I think you sound quite boring. Sorry.

Wannabehappy_2

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Torry_Quine

Netwizard wrote: »

I can and just did :rotfl:

Can't believe how closed minded you are, but each to their own. I think you sound quite boring. Sorry.

I could say the same about you being closed to the idea that not everyone behaves as you do. Depends what you mean by boring though, we're all different

Netwizard

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I could say the same about you being closed to the idea that not everyone behaves as you do. Depends what you mean by boring though, we're all different

Granted not everyone behaves as I do, but I wasn't the only one who thought the idea of no masturbation was a bit strange, but as you say, we are all different

geoffky

bagpussbear wrote: »

It will be her husband's if she chooses to end the marriage, lol!

I would not see it that way...A bore in the bedroom deserves another bore.
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carrot-cake_2

I know exactly how you feel OP I have been through this myself. All those saying 'it's just what men do and get used to it'. No it isn't. Thats just to make themsleves feel better because those saying it have a !!!!!! habit too!

Don't ever 'try' to turn a blind eye to something that upsets you and DON'T try to change your thoughts on !!!!!! just for the sake of his dirty habit. Its his problem. Why should you change when you've done nothing wrong?

If he can't understand how much it upsets you and talk to you about it to mend your relationship then I would be walking away.

I turned the tables on my partner because I would purposely make sure my history contained naked men and he hated it! it really made him realise that its not nice to find!