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cgk1

I'm a little puzzled by this - a lot of men look at !!!!!! but they are careful enough not to get caught, so for you to catch him repeatedly - is he trying to send you a signal? He just doesn't care?

burnoutbabe

did you tell him before you married and had kids that you hated !!!!!! and never wanted him to do it?

As I'd assume all men looked at !!!!!! or at the very least masturbated (and most women did too - even including reading all that "mummy !!!!!!" like 50 shades) and someone saying one could not do that would not get very far with me.

so did he lie to you or did you just never ask?

marmitepotato

Walked out on my ex over his abuse and !!!!!! habit. Couldn't deal with either. You will work out what's right for you OP. x

Torry_Quine

Wannabehappy wrote: »

Ok here goes
Didn't know about my husbands !!!!!! habit until we got married. I know, I know, naiive, it's normal they all do it etc.
I get upset every time I find him at it again, he says sorry I know how you feel about it, etc...then it happens again and again.
The problem is it has knocked my self esteem so I don't really feel like being exciting in the bedroom, now I just feel stupid....

From my point of view, we are moving further apart.
This is wrecking my marriage. I am getting paranoid about what else he might be upto. He keeps his phone on silent and is hard to get hold of in the working day.

I would like to know if there are any ladies out there who feel like me, and have they managed to work through it, come to a position of turning a blind eye? I am just not sure I can ever be very happy like that.

We have children, it is not easy to walk away

I don't have any answer but he is being very selfish continuing to do something which is affecting your marriage so much.:(

Wannabehappy_2

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pigpen

They don't ALL do it at all.

I don't think it makes any difference what you say or do now it is too late.. he will continue regardless.. you can request he keeps it to after you are in bed or get him a shed to play out in (worked for my friend not that it made any difference in the long term because he [EMAIL="sh@gged"]sh@gged[/EMAIL] anything with a pulse and probably a few without! )

southcoastrgi

are you upset because he does it in secret or because you really don't like !!!!!! ?
if it's the former then why not suggest you watch it together, i guarentee you will benefit,
for men sex is more of a visual thing whereas for most women it's a love/feelings thing, all men watch !!!!!! be it for their own release or because it shows things that their partners don't like or won't do, ie as in a secret fantasy

however saying that my ex-wife really didn't like it or would watch it with me although she was very adventuruse & that did cause issues with our marraige

Torry_Quine

southcoastrgi wrote: »

are you upset because he does it in secret or because you really don't like !!!!!! ?
if it's the former then why not suggest you watch it together, i guarentee you will benefit,
for men sex is more of a visual thing whereas for most women it's a love/feelings thing, all men watch !!!!!! be it for their own release or because it shows things that their partners don't like or won't do, ie as in a secret fantasy

however saying that my ex-wife really didn't like it or would watch it with me although she was very adventuruse & that did cause issues with our marraige

You can't make sweeping statements like 'I guarantee you will benefit' from watching together and 'all men watch !!!!!!' because they aren't true.

southcoastrgi

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You can't make sweeping statements like 'I guarantee you will benefit' from watching together and 'all men watch !!!!!!' because they aren't true.

really so her husband sits with her gets excited then what leaves her in bed & goes off to the loo on his own ? get real, if this was to happen then he has no feelings for her anyway,

yes it is true, some do it more than others but we all do it or have done it

Wannabehappy_2

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