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LouLou

Better_Off_1983 wrote: »

I believe masturbation is a normal, natural activity. It makes you learn more about yourself and your partner.

My ex didn't do any mutual masturbation with me at all. He was DISGUSTED with how aroused I got as a woman. He didn't think it was normal to be that lubricated!! I am looking back know and I am definitely sure that he was a prude.

So, this just goes to show, that not all men are sex mad!!

Disgusted by the woman he loves being aroused?! Wow, that's awful. I'm glad he's your ex.

Better_Off_1983

LouLou wrote: »

I have pretty much zero desire to look at !!!!!! in any guise (let's face it, most of it is wham-bam, the dialogue can be awful and it's not usually made with women in mind).

I tend to watch it on mute (such a wonderful sound!) I cringe with the dialogue especially from the blokes!

burnoutbabe

thats why there should be more erotica made for women, with actually some plot (nothing too complex!) .

The lovers guide (from 1990s) was quite good. I was shocked when I heard years later that the couples in it were !!!!!! stars! They definately looked much more "normal" than typical ones.

Calien27

"I'm here to check your pipes" bow chicka wow wow!

justme111

Strange that nobody seems to have pointed out what is usually the real issue when woman get jealous to /hurt by something in a marriage , be it !!!!!! or football. She does not feel valued by him , their sex life is not good , she feels he does not give her time of the day and so on , one can see it in op's posts. If everything were goof in.their life otherwise I doubt she would have had any issues with !!!!!!.

DUTR

justme111 wrote: »

Strange that nobody seems to have pointed out what is usually the real issue when woman get jealous to /hurt by something in a marriage , be it !!!!!! or football. She does not feel valued by him , their sex life is not good , she feels he does not give her time of the day and so on , one can see it in op's posts. If everything were goof in.their life otherwise I doubt she would have had any issues with !!!!!!.

Plenty can, but we are not here to attack the OP, that is how they feel, and happiness is found within oneself, it is not up to the other person to make them feel as if they should have to walk around with blinkers on and 'lie' that their partner is the only woman on earth, they guy is not running off with anybody.
Perhaps everybody should wear Burka ?

Valli

southcoastrgi wrote: »

yes it is true, some do it more than others but we all do it or have done it

No - some of us look at it to see what is being looked at...

some of us look at it and use it for stimulation...

and some of us never look at it at all.

Valli

geoffky wrote: »

If any women mentioned counseling because i liked !!!!!!..I would point her in the direction of a local family court..
It is not about what you look like.It is because it is not you and is unavailable.
Watching !!!!!! can bring back to life so many peoples love life and it can end it if one of the parties have problems.
!!!!!! is your problem..Not your husbands.

You poor misguided fool.

Some !!!!!!, as you should know, is totally unnacceptable. Such as !!!!!! involving 'young' people.

Equally some !!!!!! features acts which are 'less than healthy'.

So maybe a blanket defence of '!!!!!!' isn't a sensible stance?

LouLou

I'd assume the OP had broached this subject before marriage? If it was made clear early on in the relationship that she is uncomfortable by !!!!!!, then for him to continue was only going to lead to problems.

I know it is hard not to feel intimidated or unwanted when your partner is watching these fantasy women, and some men will compare you to them, some won't, there is no generalisation with these things. But he has tried to reassure you, so I would give him the benefit of the doubt here.

I don't think it is something worth breaking a family up over, but that's just my opinion. What is important is that he respects you, understands you, and tries to compromise somehow, in a way that leaves you both happy. You do need to work on your confidence, and feeling secure in your relationship; that is plain (and I don't mean that as an insult, we can all have wobbles in self-esteem, I certainly have).

I know it's really hard to give precise guidance online, but good luck and I hope things get better.

System

I'd feel pretty worthless if my man used !!!!!! to get stimulated rather than use me.

I'd feel pretty upset if i knew he masturbated when I was 'available'.