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carrot-cake_2

Can I just say too. For those who watch !!!!!! separately from their partner and together and have no problem with it and don't check eachothers history and phones and email accounts etc etc. Then obviously you have a very trusting relationship.

However for those that have a problem with !!!!!! and check phones, history etc, they have had something happen that has made them suspicious and paranoid and obviously don't have a trusting relationship.

That said it doesn't make the latter ok and not something the woman should just get used to just because her husband is having a good time!

Torry_Quine

burnoutbabe wrote: »

Dating leading to marriage, for a lot of people, would generally include sex. And it would come up in discussion then as part of "what do you like...".

Of course if it was a no sex before marriage, then I suppose its a totally different ball game and probably not discussed.

I'm in the second group so no it wasn't discussed.

carrot-cake_2

burnoutbabe wrote: »

Dating leading to marriage, for a lot of people, would generally include sex. And it would come up in discussion then as part of "what do you like..."..

It wouldn't come up in conversation for everyone. In fact I vaguely remember my partner denying watching !!!!!! in the first months of being together which was a complete lie.

Tiglath

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Does everyone on here check their OH's browsing history?

No I've never looked at DH's browsing history. Don't think he's looked at mine but he could at any time - my PC's always on. I think he'd be more shocked at how many times I look at the Daily Mail than anything else! I find visual sex really quite silly so don't watch !!!!!!, but the odd well-written erotic bit in a novel doesn't go amiss. Doesn't really have anything to do with our real sex life though. I never think 'Oh if only he'd do what Raoul the aloof Norman warrior did to Edith the feisty Anglo-Saxon serf on page 152.'

Terry Pratchett has some wise words on !!!!!!:

“He'd noticed that sex bore some resemblance to cookery: it fascinated people, they sometimes bought books full of complicated recipes and interesting pictures, and sometimes when they were really hungry they created vast banquets in their imagination - but at the end of the day they'd settle quite happily for egg and chips. If it was well done and maybe had a slice of tomato.”

Torry_Quine

carrot-cake wrote: »

Can I just say too. For those who watch !!!!!! separately from their partner and together and have no problem with it and don't check eachothers history and phones and email accounts etc etc. Then obviously you have a very trusting relationship.

However for those that have a problem with !!!!!! and check phones, history etc, they have had something happen that has made them suspicious and paranoid and obviously don't have a trusting relationship.

That said it doesn't make the latter ok and not something the woman should just get used to just because her husband is having a good time!

I think the issue of !!!!!! useage and trust are seperate. I don't check his phone, history or e-mail accounts or he mine.

marisco_2

Fosterdog wrote: »

I also feel slightly sad for you if sex for you does not involve anything other than penetration because you are both missing out on a whole world of pleasure from other acts.

I agree with this. I think it enhances sex with a partner, physically and emotionally. People learn how they like to be touched and stimulated. This increases the ability to have orgasms and improves sexual satisfaction.

Gloomendoom

carrot-cake wrote: »

The only reason browsing history gets checked is if you suspect they are up to something though? Same with phones. Say you found your wifes phone in the bathroom for example and you innocently took it downstairs to her and she acted weird, grabbing it off you and looking all flustered. Or you asked her could you use it because you had misplaced yours and she said no and came up with some stupid excuse. Would you be suspicious?? Would you then be tempted to see whats actually in her phone? I think you would!

Ha ha! you are barking up the wrong tree with me. My wife would never act flustered if I had her phone because she knows damned well that I can't work the thing. There are no buttons on it.

Calien27

If my partner wanted to use my phone and have snoop while he's at it, he'd be more than welcome to, he'd just find boring texts between me and friends/family and a ridiculous amount of photos of my cat

I've seen his and got bored after about a minute of realizing he watches a lot of funny cat videos on Youtube and reads the Daily Mail on it


We both have security locks on our phones in case they get lost, but he knows mine and I know his so if the phone rings and one of us isn't around we can unlock it to answer it.

carrot-cake_2

Better_Off_1983 wrote: »

I believe masturbation is a normal, natural activity. It makes you learn more about yourself and your partner.

My ex didn't do any mutual masturbation with me at all. He was DISGUSTED with how aroused I got as a woman. He didn't think it was normal to be that lubricated!! I am looking back know and I am definitely sure that he was a prude.

So, this just goes to show, that not all men are sex mad!!

Have to say I am not a prude but I found that to be way too much information. I don't want to know how lubricated you are thank you very much :whistle:

carrot-cake_2

Calien27 wrote: »

If my partner wanted to use my phone and have snoop while he's at it, he'd be more than welcome to, he'd just find boring texts between me and friends/family and a ridiculous amount of photos of my cat

I've seen his and got bored after about a minute of realizing he watches a lot of funny cat videos on Youtube and reads the Daily Mail on it


We both have security locks on our phones in case they get lost, but he knows mine and I know his so if the phone rings and one of us isn't around we can unlock it to answer it.

Good for you :T