Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

Beckyy

Cats, quite interesting and refreshing about not wanting a Summer baby. If it's any consolation (just incase it does happen) I was one of the youngest few in my year and didn't feel like it made any difference learning wise, but the plus side was that I always had my birthday in the summer holidays.

I really wish it was possible to know how long it would take to conceive. It would make life so much easier for everybody aha

Lulu, sorry you're having a bad time just now. How did you leave it with OH?

cats2012

Beckyy wrote: »

Cats, quite interesting and refreshing about not wanting a Summer baby. If it's any consolation (just incase it does happen) I was one of the youngest few in my year and didn't feel like it made any difference learning wise, but the plus side was that I always had my birthday in the summer holidays.

Haha interesting! My friend hated her birthday being in the holidays because she didn't get to take in sweets or get happy birthday sang to her by the class!

Anyway, not the point, obviously if we have any sort of issues the summer baby thing will not even cross my mind, but it just means that ideally we'd look to start TTC at a point which would make it less likely - so i guess Jan onwards. but given that that could mean either 6 months time (not ready) or 18 months time (prob too long!) it may go out the window anyway!!

tillyenna

As for whether you need to wait until you have a mortgage before you TTC Cats, that's up to you. The Boss and I will be moving into a different rented house once we marry, and we'll be TTC from then - it's what's right for you and your OH, we've prioritised having babies over owning our own house (mostly because it gives us a few years to get his credit rating out of the dirt!)


As long as you've explained to your OH why you want to start NOW (other than the fact that we all do... dammit... TODAY.) - or you could take his advice, and just enjoy the next six months - it will go by a lot faster than you think, and 6 months isn't so long in the grand scheme of things!


Took the last pill in the packet today (so looking forward to next week... NOT) - two packets left to go... get a little bit of butterflys thinking about that!

lulu_92

Beckyy wrote: »

Lulu, sorry you're having a bad time just now. How did you leave it with OH?

Well I've been in rotten mood all week, had an argument with my sister this morning so I was feeling sorry for myself today then got a lovely text from OH and we're going to go out for the day tomorrow, I suppose we need to enjoy the things we can do whilst childless!

tillyenna wrote: »

As for whether you need to wait until you have a mortgage before you TTC Cats, that's up to you. The Boss and I will be moving into a different rented house once we marry, and we'll be TTC from then - it's what's right for you and your OH, we've prioritised having babies over owning our own house (mostly because it gives us a few years to get his credit rating out of the dirt!)


As long as you've explained to your OH why you want to start NOW (other than the fact that we all do... dammit... TODAY.) - or you could take his advice, and just enjoy the next six months - it will go by a lot faster than you think, and 6 months isn't so long in the grand scheme of things!


Took the last pill in the packet today (so looking forward to next week... NOT) - two packets left to go... get a little bit of butterflys thinking about that!

Yeah I know 6 months isn't that long at all when you think about it. I need to relax and not think about it all the time (which is hard!) and know that these things will happen soon enough!

Part of me also wants to prove to our friends that we are in it in the long run. We have a big group of mutual friends with some of them being couples (we all worked together and all of the couples, myself included, met in the workplace).

Out of the couples we have been together the longest and are in the best position (own our house, best paid, etc) yet they refuse to believe that we are in this for the long run.

All of our friends go on about how my OH used to have a lot of flings and one night stands when he was in his early twenties until he settled down 6 years ago, yet they still believe he is still the person he was then and think he isn't capable of being a husband or a father, which really upsets me.

My sister (part of one of the couples) also believes that she should have it all first because she's older. She goes as far as berating any ideas I have for my future wedding. I haven't even told her we are waiting to TTC as she has already said she will have a baby first and you HAVE to be married to have a baby!

/rant over.

Sorry folks, it's been a hard few weeks, thanks for all the kind words and advice

When you think about the time in pill packets it does seem a lot less..

scary..

tillyenna

Wow, Lulu - are you sure you're not me? Everyone was ASTONISHED when TB and I got engaged... he's a bit of a ladies man (and 12 years my senior) and he's messed around every girl he's ever been with and has never been serious about settling down (he was failing to find the right one... until he met me, and then pined after me for years... bless him). It's taken so much for people actually to consider us a genuine 'couple' even though many of our friends are staunchly anti-marriage, or anti-kids (or both!) they still treat us like less of a couple... hoping being his wife will change that though!


And yes, I've actually found that counting down in terms of pill packets is the most awesome way to go about it... when I first started I counted down in repeat pill prescriptions (they'll only give me 6 months at a time), it won't be long before I'll be counting down the days!

lulu_92

Haha FINALLY someone who understands! my OH is 8 years older than me and I'm the longest relationship he's had (3 years in Sept.)

I have 1 and a half boxes left (6 months ish? although I'm naughty and skip my breaks sometimes - so actually about 4 months) OH wants me to get one last lot and then after taking 3 packets or so. I'm not sure, there isn't really a plan on the baby-making front..

tillyenna

I've been really good and not skipped any breaks this year. Mostly because I worked out last November that if I kept on exact 3 weeks on, 1 week off then AF would finish exactly a week before the wedding... which should put me on CD14 on the wedding day - which is about average for ovulation.


Wow... I'm such a nerd...

musogirl295

Hi everyone,

I thought I'd join you in an effort to ease my frustration at having to wait to TTC.

DH and I have a 4 year old and it's only in the last 9 months that we've been in a position to consider having another (due to size of house and awkward lifestyle, both of which are now sorted!) So I finally managed to get DH on board when I started having a recurrence of a medical problem. Shortly after DD was born I developed gallstones which left me in terrible pain several times a week for about three months. They passed of their own accord and everything was fine for 3 years until two weeks ago when the problem flared up again. I'm reluctant to get pregnant now as the problem is known to be made worse by the increase in hormones and I don't want to have surgery when pregnant if I can help it. So, now we have to wait to TTC until after I've had my gallbladder removed. Aaaaargh.

lulu_92

tillyenna wrote: »

I've been really good and not skipped any breaks this year. Mostly because I worked out last November that if I kept on exact 3 weeks on, 1 week off then AF would finish exactly a week before the wedding... which should put me on CD14 on the wedding day - which is about average for ovulation.


Wow... I'm such a nerd...

Damn that's some good maths

I don't have anything to aim for right now so I just take breaks whenever I feel like it..

jojo-baby

slowlyfading wrote: »

At the bottom of someone's post, there's a button that says quote (its a blue one) just click that and then it'll take you to the post options does that make sense?

thanks, lets see if it worked!