Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

slowlyfading

pm04gn wrote: »

It's not necessary but nothing to stop you doing it!

That's true! I'll ask at the doctors and see what the response is

kansaskitty

hippihaz wrote: »

Interested in what your healthy eating/exercise regime is Kansaskitty? I'm currently 9st 11 and aiming to be closer to 9 st by my TTC date (Sep/Oct)!
Just started my last pill pack today though! all getting a bit more real, so going to have a few months to get cycle back before starting TTC and planning to get started on some pre-preg vitamins soon too

pm04gn wrote: »

Waves at fellow dibber :hello: I'm drglf on the dibb, not a prolific poster but an avid reader. We're off to the land of the mouse 13tn sept for 12 nights. Going to start TTC about a week or so pre trip. Don't want to find out I'm pregnant before I've done drinks around the world at Epcot or any of the big coasters. Timing is key!

A few of you were asking about healthy eating plans. I've been using the my fitness pal app since January and have lost 7kg with relative ease. My aim is to get to a normal BMI for my maternity notes. I've got 2kg to go and plenty of time. You give the app your basic details height weight age and how much you want to lose. It then gives you a calorie total to aim for. You can eat what you want but do have to be a little bit fussy about weighing stuff. It's surprising what a filling dinner you can get for under 600kcals!
I also get lower fat/sugar versions of things like cheese and mayonnaise as that's easy calories saved. Some days I even have spare for some chocolate or an ice cream. I think that is going to be essential when my periods return!
You can also add in the calories you burn exercising and then eat a little more.

As for me we had our friends over with their toddler and 7 week old. The baby made me more broody but the toddler balanced that out! I was supposed to stop my pill last week but got a last minute gynae appt so thought it was best to wait till after that. Only a two week wait and it'll be one step closer.

Wow you guys, hope you both have a wonderful time in WDW. We went in July 13 for our honeymoon, I miss it loads! I could honestly got every year and not get bored! But obviously could never afford that! We've said we'll try and go back for our five year anniversary in 2018. Hopefully with littluns in tow!

I have lost the weight by using My Fitness Pal, it really woke up me up the fact that I was eating around 3000 kcals a day in school holidays and still over 2000 on good school days. We were just like sharing a pack of biscuits after dinner then having a cooked breakfast and a McDonald's on the weekends! Eek! I am 5'6 so 9st 10 was never huge but I feel soooooo much better and more confident already. We have also tried to 'eat clean', made everything from scratch and limited processed foods. Dinner now looks like chicken and lemon wholewheat linguine rather than chicken kievs and fries! Simple really!

pm04gn wrote: »

http://www.webmd.com/baby/news/20070508/past-pill-use-doesnt-lower-fertility
That's a summary of a study that suggests 21% get pregnant in month 1 and 80% by one year. These are comparable to rates in non users.

I'm going to stop mine this month so in can see what my cycles do. They weren't regular many moons ago before I started the pill and I am interested to see what happens. We will be using condoms over this time as I'm of the belief that NTNP is pretty much the same as trying but less pressure!

From a medical perspective it's much easier when a woman has an LMP to date from. Particularly when there is bleeding or pain and a decision has to be made whether to do a scan.

When I take out implants/coils I advise women to give it a month and if they haven't had a period to just get on with it but preferably wait for the period. Partly selfish as I've been the gynae SHO seeing anxious women in A&E.

I stopped contraception May 29 and hope to start TTC Sep 1st. So will maybe have three cycles. Yes I know exactly what you mean about NTNP, we planned to do this but haven't actually done the deed yet! Work have been very good to me after a few troubles this week and the Sept date would allow me almost the full year at work next year if we fell ridiculously quickly (no problems depending) so if we fell before that I would feel very guilty and like I'd taken them for a bit of a ride. We so far have done 'other things' (sorry!) and I think we will use condoms until Sept!

jojo-baby

Hey every one, i don't post here often, but right now I dont really have anyone to talk to (am somewhere on a ship, a long way from land and friends/BF)

Last week i found out that my ex-boyfriend is engaged, and this week he tells me that his fiancee is pregnant. This has completely knocked me for 6. I am super happy for him that he has found happiness, and I know that we broke up because i was a nightmare, but that doesn't change how i feel right now.

I feel really upset, and i know that it is irrational. I can't talk to my BF about this, I don't think he would understand how I am feeling, and I think I would just upset him, which is the last thing that I want to do.

Sitting in ships office so can't have a cry even, will have to wait until i get to my cabin.

I am waiting to TTC, waiting to be married, and well that would involve the BF proposing... which doesn't seem to happening anytime soon.

At least some of my many hurdles have gone, i now have (more or less) an office job on shore and now live with BF, so steps in the right direction, but still this news if affecting me much more than i thought it would

Beckyy

For some people it's natural for things like that to upset them and because you're waiting for those things to happen it hits you a whole lot harder. Have you been separated for long?

Is marriage something you definitely want to do before children? I know everybody has their own feeling on it and it's a very personal choice but if OH has no intentions of getting married maybe it's something that you/he might need to compromise on? My parents still aren't married and it hasn't made an ounce of difference to them.

tillyenna

I know what you mean jojo - sometimes I just see people announcing they're expecting, and I get so jealous! It's easier if it's someone I like (my godsister is due in September and I'm sooo happy for her) but when it's people I don't like, or people I think would be rubbish parents (I can be pretty judgemental - I've spent my whole life practising for when I have kids, it makes me mad when people just have them like they're accessories (or to save their marriage in the case of one couple I know!)) - then it just seems so unfair!

jojo-baby

Beckyy, OH knows i want to get married, and he says that he is happy to, because i want to. So he isn't anti marriage, just for him its not a must do.
This sounds a bit silly, but I feel that i should get married first, my granmother would be very upset if i didnt, and i dont think my parents would be too impressed either. I know its my life, but it's important to them (esp my gran) and that makes it important to me. (not judging anyone else)
We split up a long time ago, 5 years, but he was my first serious boyfriend, as in the first one that i could see myself being with forever, and i think that is part of why it hurts.

tillyenna, he (ex) is such a nice person, he will make a very good dad, also his fiancee is nice too, so i am happy for them, think it would be so much worse in my head if i thought that the fiancee was a bad person/would make a bad parent, although it is none of my business.

i guess i have some regrets from the realtionship and wonder "what if...." and that all gets stirred up again when i found this out.

right now i need a cuddle and a glass (or two!) of wine, and neither are going to happen where i am right now!

tillyenna

What-ifs are so rubbish :-( poor you! I'd give you a glass of wine if I could - chocolate is always for the win.


Found out last night that some people I know are trying for another baby - when they are totally incapable of looking after their 8 month old, and by all accounts are pretty uninterested in her. Makes me furious!

jojo-baby

tillyenna that always a bit sad and worrying,

on a slightly amusing note : a friend of mine is pregnant and they have two dogs who are very cheeky and badl trained, all the group of friends joke about how the children will end up! :eek:

im feeling a little better now, i have a lovely OH and wondering what if doesn't help me or anyone really. so i just have to buck my ideas up and get along with life.

Marriage and Babies will happen for me one day, just need to keep remembering that it isn't a race and that i am happy with my OH and i shouldn't rush life.....
who knows how to implant those thoughts into my head? sledgehammer?

tillyenna

I get round it for feeling all superior about waiting for the right time (or at least a time when I am financially secure and in a happy stable relationship) to have babies, as opposed to people who just seem to have them whenever. That way the green eyed monster of jealous is a little bit abated!


I'm glad you're feeling a bit better jojo - on a dog related note, I know a mother who proffesionally shows dogs, and her toddler is treated like one of the dogs! (It's actually quite horrific, as he's told not to speak all the time when grown ups are speaking, and is on a lead (I mean reins) most of the time) I used to rescue him whenever I was hanging out with them and take him to interact with other children...


That being said, my big brother was convinced he was a dog when he was in nursery... apparently it's quite normal for kids! LOL

Beckyy

It's really disheartening when you know you're doing the responsible thing and waiting for the right time when there are so many others just diving into parenthood and expecting everything to just fall into their laps afterwards when it suits them. I don't think there's ever a 'perfect' time but it makes you feel annoyed when you're waiting for a 'better' time when so many people just don't seem to care.