Confused and unhappy

ska_lover

Oh CK1 - I am really sorry that your Husband has decided to move out. Someone earlier said that they were not sure that they could recover from such treatment, and I am not sure I could either.

I think you need to remove your hubby from the equation for one moment and not give him any headspace in that you obviously realise that you are POTENTIALLY about to become a single parent (if you continue with the preganancy and he decides not to come back) - and really think what YOU want to do, as up to now he has been completely unsupportive.

Either way - it COULD be the end of the road for you as a couple, so to put it bluntly, you could end up single, or a single mother..

I really hope you come to a peaceful resolution in your own mind as to what you can cope with and live with doing. Do not let anyone pressure you. Just think of yourself for the time being

You poor thing ((hugs))

LisaLou1982

Hugs OP

I read through your thread last night and came back again just now and im sad to hear the update

How do you feel about it all? Do you want to keep the baby now that you know you are pregnant?

Your husband is behaving terribly but it must be a massive shock to him and im sure once he calms down and maybe speaks to someone who is not involved (a friend or such like) he will start to see sense and come and talk to you.

Its all very easy to say that we would do the *right* thing if we were in that situation, but the thing is, no one knows how they would react until it happened to them

Keep strong, try and be kind to yourself and im sure by giving hubby a couple of days space he will sort his head out and start talking through things with you x

embob74

I didn't think doctors saw pregnant women anymore. I know I went to my doctor only for her to tell me to book direct with the MW.
There is always the option to pay for an early scan at a private clinic. They don't cost as much as you think and might be worth the money to find out if
(a) you're definitely pregnant and
(b) how far along you are

Unfortunately there are lots of tough decisions to make and time runs out very quickly.

Tigsteroonie

I take back what I said earlier. Now the husband is behaving like a d*ckhead.

dancingfairy

Hi. What a shock for you. I agree with the person/people who have suggested getting some expert help to talk things through and decide how you want to proceed. You need someone impartial to talk through whether you want a baby/whether you would want it to be adopted etc etc without any pressure.
Obviously if you can talk things through with your partner then that would be ideal but you may have to make the decision on your own and accept that you may be a single parent.
I hope you have good friends around you, supporting you.
Best of Luck
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pigpen

What a total knob he is being!!

If he wants to behave like a !!!!!! instead of taking in a sample to be checked like anyone in their right mind would I would totally disregard his input into this and focus on what you want and if you choose to continue the pregnancy I am sure you will do just fine and if not.. you should have serious thoughts on whether you want him to even come back.. Don't feel pressured to do anything by anyone this has to be your decision and yours alone... There are places you can discuss this with I heartily suggest you look up a few and make an informed choice.

ska_lover

I hope you are OK CK1. We are all thinking of you xx

ska_lover

come back CK1 let us know how you are

meritaten

oh I am so sorry OP - but, at least you know where you stand. you are definitely without his support. I wont say on your own - you are not! you have the support of everyone who posted on this thread! Do you have family? you can also get support from your GP, and I definitely think a Family Law Solicitor should be in your near future - OH may think he can bu99er off and leave you to it - but there is a little matter of the LAW he has to contend with!