Anyone's hubby not like presents?

74jax

Can I just ask those of you that don't like presents, what your thoughts are on cards?? Thinking about it, he does just open a card and leave it on the bed, on the table etc. Whereas I'm 'oooooo put them up' ha ha ha.

Should I get him a card and when he's read it just let him get rid of rid of it rather than forcing the thing down his neck every day for a week, or do some really not mind about cards either?

I don't tend to buy cards normally for people, other than hubby and daughter, and was looking forward to Happy Birthday Husband...... but again, that's ME looking forward to it, not him...... oooooo it's so hard.

victory

I'll pick up on the card question... OH Opens, reads, put it down, done after I've spent an age choosing, writing beautiful words.... Waste of time:p

OH Is not bothered at all over presents, Xmas is a nightmare, one year in desperation I wrapped up everything he would use in a day, like aftershave, his fav biscuits, a razor, shampoo, socks, deodorant etc etc, he saw the stack and thought I'd gone mad:rotfl:::rotfl:

Now it's nothing, or practical things like tops or jeans or a voucher for Whsmith so he can buy his books when he wants to , I understand the frustration:D

victory

Netwizard wrote: »

I cant speak for that experience in particular, but 99% of these "experience days" are utter ripoffs. Someone else in the thread touched on this as well.

There is a place just round the corner from me that run "driving experiences" If you were to read their website and look at their prices, it looks like the ideal gift for a petrol head hubbie.

The reality of this experience, is a runway, which has a surface like the surface on the moon, rather than silverstone, a "racetrack" which is just a figure of 8 marked out in cones, and a few cars like Ferrari 360, which if they aren't broken, you are severley restricted on revs and speed. Anything over about 50mph, and they will cut the engine!

I've actually sit there and watched people participate in this "experience" and feel so sorry for them, but on the plus side, this particular experience company has dire reviews online. Shame that the majority of people buying it as a present probably wouldn't think to research the comany first.

The best experience day by far is the Palmersport days, but at nearly £900 for the day, it is pricey, but you most certainly get what you pay for.

In short, my family has been banned from buying me any of these experience days, as they promise so much, but deliver so little.
I can have more fun in my clapped out old banger on an empty piece of B road :rotfl:

Just wanted to put my opinion up here, as to many women assume they are an amazing present for us blokes, and they would be if they weren't so full of let down. Please don't buy them ladies

This is so so true:D I bought one ages ago and all the promises on the website versus what we actually got Omg what a difference, what a waste of money, never again

OH just hates presents for the sake of it, just because its Xmas, just because they say its Father's Day ...

Netwizard

74jax wrote: »

Can I just ask those of you that don't like presents, what your thoughts are on cards?? Thinking about it, he does just open a card and leave it on the bed, on the table etc. Whereas I'm 'oooooo put them up' ha ha ha.
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Just another expensive waste of time and they usually get dumped in the recycling bin a few hours later.

Rather than spending £2-£3 on a card, the words "happy birthday" and a pint with my name on it in the bar later on is much better way to spend the money you would of spent on a card.

Reading my replies back in this thread make me round like a right miserable sod. I assure you its not the case, just my friends and family take no notice when I say a beer and a takeaway is more than adequate :beer:

marisco_2

victory wrote: »

OH just hates presents for the sake of it, just because they say its Father's Day ...

My dad is like this. He hates all the false commercialism that goes on. The way he views it is that it lacks sincerity and any meaningful sentiment to make a fuss of someone on an allocated day. I have a great relationship with him and he knows that I love him dearly but I haven't sent him a Fathers Day card or gift in years. No need to as he would hate it. Like me he appreciates that the best things in life aren't things but people who make you feel loved and cared for all year round.:)

Torry_Quine

My husband is another one who gets things when he wants whereas I don't get the latest book or CD from my favourite person when it's coming up to my birthday, Christmas or our anniversary.

However I always manage to get something for him and don't ask what he wants or tell him what I want. To me you graciously accept a gift and don't tell people what to buy you.

*max*

marisco wrote: »

My dad is like this. He hates all the false commercialism that goes on. The way he views it is that it lacks sincerity and any meaningful sentiment to make a fuss of someone on an allocated day. I have a great relationship with him and he knows that I love him dearly but I haven't sent him a Fathers Day card or gift in years. No need to as he would hate it. Like me he appreciates that the best things in life aren't things but people who make you feel loved and cared for all year round.:)

The two aren't mutually exclusive though. I always find it a little patronizing and unnecessary demeaning when people talk about special occasions others might enjoy as "commercialism" and the other holier-than-thou usual suspects ("I prefer to show my love for them everyday", "I don't need society to tell me when to show someone I care for them with overpriced tat"...etc). Live and let live I say. Just because you don't partake doesn't give you the right to make others feel stupid about their own choices (not directed at you in particular Marisco btw, sorry for singling your post out!

marisco_2

74jax wrote: »

Can I just ask those of you that don't like presents, what your thoughts are on cards?? Thinking about it, he does just open a card and leave it on the bed, on the table etc. Whereas I'm 'oooooo put them up' ha ha ha.

At the risk of sounding like a total birthday party pooper I don't like cards either. Maybe the people I know buy the cheap ones, but most of them don't stand upright so I am forever picking them up and rearranging them. A nightmare for an OCD neat freak like myself :eek: Plus they attract dust! I wish my family and friends would just leave them in the shops and phone me to wish me happy birthday instead.

Torry_Quine

marisco wrote: »

At the risk of sounding like a total birthday party pooper I don't like cards either. Maybe the people I know buy the cheap ones, but most of them don't stand upright so I am forever picking them up and rearranging them. A nightmare for an OCD neat freak like myself :eek: Plus they attract dust! I wish my family and friends would just leave them in the shops and phone me to wish me happy birthday instead.

I'm the opposite and hate it when someone phones or e-mails rather than send a card, it just seems like a cheap after-thought to me.

All my cards I send are individually hand-made though so definitely not cheap.

Netwizard

*max* wrote: »

The two aren't mutually exclusive though. I always find it a little patronizing and unnecessary demeaning when people talk about special occasions others might enjoy as "commercialism" and the other holier-than-thou usual suspects ("I prefer to show my love for them everyday", "I don't need society to tell me when to show someone I care for them with overpriced tat"...etc). Live and let live I say. Just because you don't partake doesn't give you the right to make others feel stupid about their own choices (not directed at you in particular Marisco btw, sorry for singling your post out!

Marisco has a point though. We are now in July. The christmas adverts will soon be starting. By the time christmas actually gets here, everyone I know is bloody fed up of hearing about it and is glad its all.

The only reason I like christmas / boxing day is that I get double time and a few days off in leu and working nights mean I can sleep the days away without anyone hassling me :T