Anyone's hubby not like presents?

Georgiegirl256

aileth wrote: »

If you ask my husband what he would like for birthday, he just shrugs and says not to bother. From being with him so far, I know he actually is bothered. If I said on the day, "You said not to bother, so I didn't", I know he'd be gutted.

It's his 30th this month and I've got him some t-shirts from America which he saw somewhere and got a bit giddy about, drinks and sweets from Japan which he loved when we were over there, some jeans as he has worn out his current ones, and then I'm taking him to see world war z (he loves zombies) and to a restaurant, he's not fussed about food, but he actually got really excited about this place.

It sounds like you are writing about my husband there! :rotfl: the tshirts, stuff from Japan, Zombies! He's the same though, says there's nothing he needs, but then would be gutted if you didn't get him anything, and therein lies the problem. I think men are much more sensitive creatures than we give them credit for, all they want is someone to care about them to put thought into something....Awwww! :rotfl: Easier said than done sometimes, and they say us women are difficult!

74jax

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

From what I gather from your posts Jax, your hubby likes going surfing/that's his job? So he'd perhaps like outdoorsy things? What about a waterproof action camera?

He has about 4 :rotfl:.

He's a sponsored rider so has all the quipment he could wish for, we've got fabulous photos/videos etc of him. I've bought him lessons with professionals etc, been there done that.

I think i what I need to get my head round, is he means he's not bothered. I just think 'why on earth not' ha ha ha :rotfl:

building_with_lego

Lagoon wrote: »

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My latest issue is 'I'll store the gift receipt in my handbag, as it's the only place he won't stumble across it', swiftly followed by 'I took some money from your purse this morning. I hope you don't mind' leaving me having no clue if he knows what he's getting or not.

Store the receipts in your handbag in a small pouch marked 'tampons'.

Brighton_belle

Yup, mine is like this. It took a few years to get used to and then I stopped trying to find something as I saw the things I had got him completely untouched (and unmoved) 2 years later.

But I am ok with that and now I never want anything either :DThe stress etched on his face on xmas eve was too much to bare:rotfl: and I set him free of that obligation - my best gift to him ever.
We find trawling round for a present neither of us likes or wants extremely stressful so opted out. I appreciate it must be tough if you find great pleasure in treating someone though
I should add , do really enjoy being together and just find it the small kindness that make our life together special and we do occasionally buy something spontaneously for each other, if we are out and at xmas I do a advent calendar with little notes in that say all sorts of things about why I love him/ a good memory of the previous year.
I have a significant birthday coming up and I have specifically asked my friends for no presents and arranged with each close one to go on a trip out with them, be it theatre/tea and cake/a walk.
I really really don't want more 'stuff' - I've spent the last 3 years massively downsizing and take great pleasure in living clutter free and everything having a home so it's easy to find and easy to put away.
I am also very choosy taste wise. In fact 3 weeks after our first date was my birthday and he bought me a vase and I hated it. So I was completely honest and asked him to return it - I didn't want a life time of pretending to like stuff he bought so he kept on buying stuff like it.
He was a little shocked but loved my honesty and that was a key factor in our developing relationship.

Just to add I am always appreciative of the loving care behind any gift.

fififoofoo

do we share the same husband? I have exactly the same problem... and I still haven't found the answer!

marisco_2

74jax may I just say that reading this thread has been like a breath of fresh air this morning. It is so nice to read something positive on here. The way you describe your relationship with your husband and the connection you two have is just lovely.

GoldenShadow

I hate birthdays but I'm a woman! One of my friends died on my 11th birthday and its never been a day any of my friends have been good at celebrating since. I'm too used to it being an awful day that I am much happier with no attention on the day and just going for lunch or getting a take away! I really don't like presents generally either though, I hate the surprise and being the center of attention

tea_lover

Mine's the same. The only things he does wants he buys for himself before anyone else gets a chance (despite me and his mum telling him off about that lol).

It's his birthday on saturday and so far I've got a t shirt. Am now frantically trawling the internet looking for inspiration but no luck so far.

Stephb1986_2

My h2b is exactly the same we've been together 7 years and get married next year. He turned 30 in April it was so hard finding something he would like.

The first few years were really easy but as time goes on he tends to buy the stuff he wants or needs For his birthday I ended up giving him money so he could put his other car back on the road and a few other bits and pieces.

He never knows what to buy me and I'm the same where if I want something I'll go and buy it, I'm a shopaholic (not so much now though I've cut back) it's my birthday in August and I've recently got a new hobby in paper cutting so wanted a new printer to be able to do larger cuts and also to print out wedding stationary.

Next year we get married 3 days after his birthday so I don't have a clue what I will get him

Steph xx

aileth

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

It sounds like you are writing about my husband there! :rotfl: the tshirts, stuff from Japan, Zombies! He's the same though, says there's nothing he needs, but then would be gutted if you didn't get him anything, and therein lies the problem. I think men are much more sensitive creatures than we give them credit for, all they want is someone to care about them to put thought into something....Awwww! :rotfl: Easier said than done sometimes, and they say us women are difficult!

Oh I totally agree with this!!! Even when it hasn't been milestone birthdays, I have spent months beforehand trawling websites. He has asked me what I want, "A nice candle." Easy!

It isn't just me he does it too though either. We were at my parents this weekend, they asked him what he'd like, lots of shrugging. Even his own parents will come to me and ask for suggestions!!!!!!!!