Anyone's hubby not like presents?

tea_lover

74jax wrote: »

I think its a shame, I want to do so something. But its ME who wants to do something, I need help realising HE doesn't ha ha ha.

This is so funny! I really could (perhaps should) have written that. OH's birthday is on sunday and he said last night he might just go out on his bike... I got in a bit of a strop because it's his birthday and we should do something :D:p

LannieDuck

Aww. Why don't you try one year of not doing anything and see if he actually misses it? If he's upset you didn't do X or Y, then at least you'll know for next year!

DKLS

Must be a man thing, I am never bothered about presents and usually mumble socks if asked.

The way I see it, If I want anything I will get it myself and currently I dont need much.

The best birthday present was last year, when my wife bought a new outfit from AP. Now that was a memorable gift that keeps on giving.

sk240

I am much the same with presents, I dont want anything either.
The best thing you could do for me on my birthday is brekfast in bed, lots of attention and a nice meal out somwhere with relations, or a trip to the cinema.

74jax

sk240 wrote: »

I am much the same with presents, I dont want anything either.
The best thing you could do for me on my birthday is brekfast in bed, lots of attention and a nice meal out somwhere with relations, or a trip to the cinema.

Yeah but that to me is a present. He doesn't want that, i'd be happy doing that.

double_mummy

im the same jax (bet you love saying husband now i know i do lol)

big fuss on birthdays and xmas is a no go with me i would rather get hammered and forget my birthday and xmas is for the kids

maybe just a nice card and going out to dinner would be plenty for him

or could you send a pro photographer to take pics of him while he does his kite surfing stuff and do some nice pics or a slide show with them

although if you have the time and he is of a puzzely mind set him up with some cross words wordsearches etc which point to a present at the end of it maybe jax in bed with some lingere on

(still find it very hard to avoid ajax like on the weddings board lol!!)

clearing_out_my_pockets

Caveat - I am female...

I also don't really *do* presents. Don't get me wrong, I buy them for other peole and put a lot of thought into what to get them. But for me... I don't want the fuss. I just want to spend time with the people I love and to have my husband switch the xbox or PS3 off for the day.

This next paragraph may explain why.....

The first christmas after we got married, my in-laws asked for a 'christmas list'. I gave them a list of authors I like, pointing out which books I already have, I said that I like candles, belts, charms for my bracelet, new slippers and baking. They bought me: Ten books, five charms for my bracelet, two belts, five candles, three cookery books, cake tins, new slippers and several boxes of chocolate. In a way, this sounds ungrateful, but to me this spoils the idea of present giving. They bought every item on my suggestion list, so there was not one item where they thought "oh COMP would absolutely love that - I'll buy that". Also, to be clear when I gave them the list, I did make it clear that it was guidance rather than "I want all of this".

double_mummy

o yeah just remembered i did ask for a book called isle of dogs by particia cornwell

i felt a book in the wrapping was like cool when i opened it the book was called isle of dogs but was about dogging in a little fiat and about how the guy went one night and found his parents probably the most traumatic present i have ever had so no more lists just like COMP

Netwizard

marisco wrote: »

If anything I am a little like your husband. I am told by my friends and family that they really struggle to know what to buy for me as presents. I can see where they are coming from. I am not a materialistic person at all, like my home to be pretty minimalist and have quite specific taste in what I do and don't like. So I am pretty much a nightmare to buy for

To be honest I much prefer to spend quality time in the company of those I love than receive any gift. It doesn't have to be anything big like a weekend away or an organised day out. Just going for a nice meal to a really good restaurant, meeting up and going for a lovely walk somewhere beautiful and relaxing etc. would make my day. If I were you I would put the ball in your husbands court and ask him what he would like to do for his birthday. You will have shown that you love and care for him and want to celebrate his special day, and all the pressure will be off you then

I am very much like this too. I have receiving gifts with a passion, whether it be christmas, birthdays or whatever.

There is very rarely anything that I want. And usually if I want something, I will just go and buy it myself.

I worry that friends and family will just spend money on tat I dont really need or want, that will clutter up the back of my wardrobe, and then I will have to try and look greatful in return!

I realise this might sound ungrateful but I always tell my friends, if you want to do something for my birthday, invite me round your house, give me a few cans and a chinese in your company. Cost? Less than £10 all in!

Their response to this is "but we do this regular anyway, its your birthday" and so I still end up with crap I dont want!

Nowadays, my birthday usually clashes with Le Mans, which I go to yearly, so its a good excuse to get away. Christmas, im usually working anyway.

I do however like buying my friends presents for their birthdays, but I always ask what they want so I dont get it wrong. If they say they want nothing, then they get nothing :rotfl:

red_devil

my oh birthday next week. i get a cake, couple of mini bottles of wine, smellies, just a few things to open and then we go for a meal.

how about a nice cake.