Anyone's hubby not like presents?

marisco_2

Netwizard wrote: »

I realise this might sound ungrateful but I always tell my friends, if you want to do something for my birthday, invite me round your house, give me a few cans and a chinese in your company. Cost? Less than £10 all in!

I am glad I am not the only one who thinks like this. The above suggestion doesn't sound at all ungrateful to me, quite the opposite in fact. You are saying to your friends that you value their company above any gift they could buy you.

Prothet_of_Doom

I am that person.
I want for nothing. Most of the things I do want are way too expensive, so I'd rather you did not bother.

The things I suggest which are within your budget, you choose not to get, because "I'm not going to Halfords" or "You can go and see paul Weller on your own because I hate him"

You waste money on things because you don't do any research. So when you did buy me a Rallying Experience it was twice as expensive as it should have been, and half the experience. Rather than buying it at WHSmiths why didn't you do some research, register on a few car related forums and get value for our money. Yes it was great, but I never told you I felt cheated.
By the way I feel ungrateful saying that.
And after I've sold my old classic mini, why would you buy me a mini mug and why MG cuflinks ? There is an Mx5 in the garage. And why buy me chocolate and then complain about 3 days later that I'm over weight.
And when I say I need new tyres for my bycycle, and you ask me the size, do you buy me mud guards that I don't need, that don't fit?
When I suggest a climbing harness, why buy me a dvd I've already got?

When I suggest that a great present would be having my Grandads watch repaired, you instead buy me a watch from Next which costs about the same as the repair I wanted to be done.

I sound ungrateful. But I do put more effort into your presents dearest.

YoungBusinessman

I am also that person. She baked me a cake for my birthday last month and as i came into a big paying month i bought alot of stuff for a wardrobe overhaul. Woke up on my birthday with a present wrapped and card next to me. Opened the present, it was one of the things i had just bought myself the week before but not yet worn. It did what she intended it to, made me smile...





even if it was in shock at how grippy that was haha

Erinnire

warehouse wrote: »

I'm a long standing husband who feels the same way, so I think I qualify to answer this one.

Anything my Wife buys me is what she thinks I'll like, not what I'd actually like to receive or would buy myself. As a good husband I smile and say the right things and then never actually use anything she's got me. Eventually she worked this out and said that she'd prefer to give me some small cheap gifts and some cash to buy what I wanted.

Perfect.

Last Birthday I didn't receive any ridiculous "experiences", no attempts at her trying to dress me, no specialist tools that I won't use, or another million candle power torch etc etc. Instead I got a few £ that I put towards a petrol strimmer and I'm happy as larry, and so is she.

Just one question, why do any of you buy those "experience" days anyway? I don't know of one bloke who'd ever purposely go out and buy one of any kind. They're an utter ripoff and we all know it.

Give your man some cash and see what he does with it.

I am stuck on what to get my BF for presents, he is a real pain.

This year I have got him hardly anything for his birthday because he wants a PS4 for Christmas. Which is fine but if he wants anything its always games and consoles, which again is fine but he plays computer games and tucks himself away on the computer a lot and it is a real stress point in our relationship we seem to argue a few times every week about it. I think he plays too much, he says I 'don't let him play enough' so I really begrudge buying him anything to do with games. Not that he realises but its one of the big reasons I won't marry him.

It's his 30th in April and I've been trying to eek out suggestions of things he would like to do or have. So far I've got nothing except he doesn't want any experiences because he prefers material things (yet never really wants anything!) & the only objects he would like is some sort of virtual reality helmet and belt from Kickstarter.... Which he wont even be able to use as he is to big. :rotfl:

I'm easy to buy for because I just like simple cheapy things. Buy me a fruity candle, some novelty socks or some essential oil for my oil burner (99p and still my favourite gift in the last few years) and I'm as happy as a pig in mud.

Though I would also love some of those experience days! Segway Rally looks great fun!

I may just have to bung him some cash and let him get on with it.

Good Luck OP I have no suggestions for you but your relationship does sound lovely, I hope it is always as happy

megela

And I thought I was the only one with a husband like that! He will always say 'i don't want anything' and my answer is 'but the children will expect to get you something and i'd rather it was something you wanted'.

Usually ends up being boring clothes, although he did enjoy the driving experience and weekend away we did for his 40th last year.

Sorry haven't got any helpful ideas, apart from trying getting nothing and see what happens!

Georgiegirl256

My hubby's mantra when it comes to buying gifts for each other is "always buy something that you like yourself, then if the other person doesn't want it, then at least you can use it!" :rotfl:

Like someone else said, if he says he really doesn't want anything, then don't get him anything, you'll be able to tell from his face if he means it or not!

Netwizard

Erinnire wrote: »

Though I would also love some of those experience days! Segway Rally looks great fun!

I cant speak for that experience in particular, but 99% of these "experience days" are utter ripoffs. Someone else in the thread touched on this as well.

There is a place just round the corner from me that run "driving experiences" If you were to read their website and look at their prices, it looks like the ideal gift for a petrol head hubbie.

The reality of this experience, is a runway, which has a surface like the surface on the moon, rather than silverstone, a "racetrack" which is just a figure of 8 marked out in cones, and a few cars like Ferrari 360, which if they aren't broken, you are severley restricted on revs and speed. Anything over about 50mph, and they will cut the engine!

I've actually sit there and watched people participate in this "experience" and feel so sorry for them, but on the plus side, this particular experience company has dire reviews online. Shame that the majority of people buying it as a present probably wouldn't think to research the comany first.

The best experience day by far is the Palmersport days, but at nearly £900 for the day, it is pricey, but you most certainly get what you pay for.

In short, my family has been banned from buying me any of these experience days, as they promise so much, but deliver so little.
I can have more fun in my clapped out old banger on an empty piece of B road :rotfl:

Just wanted to put my opinion up here, as to many women assume they are an amazing present for us blokes, and they would be if they weren't so full of let down. Please don't buy them ladies

Erinnire

Netwizard wrote: »

I cant speak for that experience in particular, but 99% of these "experience days" are utter ripoffs. Someone else in the thread touched on this as well.

There is a place just round the corner from me that run "driving experiences" If you were to read their website and look at their prices, it looks like the ideal gift for a petrol head hubbie.

The reality of this experience, is a runway, which has a surface like the surface on the moon, rather than silverstone, a "racetrack" which is just a figure of 8 marked out in cones, and a few cars like Ferrari 360, which if they aren't broken, you are severley restricted on revs and speed. Anything over about 50mph, and they will cut the engine!

I've actually sit there and watched people participate in this "experience" and feel so sorry for them, but on the plus side, this particular experience company has dire reviews online. Shame that the majority of people buying it as a present probably wouldn't think to research the comany first.

The best experience day by far is the Palmersport days, but at nearly £900 for the day, it is pricey, but you most certainly get what you pay for.

In short, my family has been banned from buying me any of these experience days, as they promise so much, but deliver so little.
I can have more fun in my clapped out old banger on an empty piece of B road :rotfl:

Just wanted to put my opinion up here, as to many women assume they are an amazing present for us blokes, and they would be if they weren't so full of let down. Please don't buy them ladies

£900 a bit out of my price range haha, but duly noted and I will avoid them!

lady1964

My DH is another one who always responds 'I don't want anything' when asked what he'd like for his birthday or Xmas.

We usually think of something; for his special birthday in May, he said he wanted to spend the day with his family (parents, sil/bil and our 3 dd's) so I invited them to ours, ordered food in, bought plenty of booze and kept it pretty much a surprise. He was really pleased, even with the helicopter experience we've bought him that he's yet to book. I also got him a ticket to Wembley for the Div 1 play off final, which was the next day and his team lost

I listen out for him making a seemingly random comment about something he might like, a new CD or DVD or the 'oh I could do with one of those' type comment, particularly if they are said around certain times of the year, I store away the comment and try to get what he's mentioned. He is really hard to buy for, one year he wanted a new suit, so that's what I got him. I would rather get him something he has said he wants rather than randomly guess and get it completely wrong, although he has a number of t.shirts/shirts that we've all bought him and have sat in a drawer or wardrobe since they were opened.

Me on the other hand, I'm greedy, I always want something but DH will admit he'd rather me give him suggestions than get it wrong by choosing a gift himself. Therefore, I make a list then say that I would be happy with anything written on it. It does take away an element of surprise but at least he'll get me something he knows that I would love to have, rather than see my disappointed face and know I'm trying hard to like the item.

74jax

lady1964 wrote: »

I listen out for him making a seemingly random comment about something he might like, a new CD or DVD or the 'oh I could do with one of those' type comment, particularly if they are said around certain times of the year, I store away the comment and try to get what he's mentioned. He is really hard to buy for, one year he wanted a new suit, so that's what I got him. I would rather get him something he has said he wants rather than randomly guess and get it completely wrong, although he has a number of t.shirts/shirts that we've all bought him and have sat in a drawer or wardrobe since they were opened.
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Mine makes nooooooo comment, whatsoever, he just comes home with things he's been thinking of getting, like his alloys for example. I had no idea until I got a text saying he was off to buy some and would be late in.

At least yours gives 'some' hint. Mine is really a 'nahhhhh can't be bothered to think or say' type of bloke, but this thread has at least made me realise that yep some men really don't care.

Whereas I'm wanting o spoil him, the joy for me is in the 'actual spoiling' if that makes sense, whereas the poor guy has clearly told me he doesn't want anything so I should do as he wants. Instead of trying to force the guy into stuff.

I'm going to Barcelona in October, I'd asked him a few days ago before I booked it - good job I did as he didn't want to go :rotfl: so instead of feeling I've missed an opportunity for a loving weekend away with him, I'm thinking of the excitement of going alone and the peace I'll be leaving him with without me :T