marrige falling apart .don't know what to do

crying_inside

Yes my wife had 3 chemo treatments .I also said . It did not shrink.

Georgiegirl256

If you are indeed making this up, then you are one sick individual

I say this, as there a lot of inconsistencys, a lot of things don't add up.

My cousin has just been diagnosed with bowel cancer, and the first thing they're doing before operating, is giving him a weeks worth of intense radiation therapy to try and shrink the tumour. If after the op, they find it has spread to any lymph nodes etc, then they will give him chemo. Of course, it might be different patient to patient, but something isn't just adding up here?

Also, don't you think you'd know for sure if she had had the chemo, I'm sure she'd be feeling pretty lousy.

thorsoak

You/your wife/troll posts are now making me angry. I lost my OH 2 years ago to pancreatic cancer. He had six sessions of chemo - was extremely ill after each session - but sadly he did not survive.

My friend had bowel cancer. She had 3 sessions of radiotherapy before having partial bowel removal.

Another friend is fighting ovarian cancer at the moment. She's had radio therapy, removal of ovaries - NOT bowel. She's lost her hair, weight and is really, really fighting.

Either give us true facts or shuffle off!

Do you not realise how much lies hurt the people who have been truly affected by cancer?

Georgiegirl256

thorsoak wrote: »

You/your wife/troll posts are now making me angry. I lost my OH 2 years ago to pancreatic cancer. He had six sessions of chemo - was extremely ill after each session - but sadly he did not survive.

My friend had bowel cancer. She had 3 sessions of radiotherapy before having partial bowel removal.

Another friend is fighting ovarian cancer at the moment. She's had radio therapy, removal of ovaries - NOT bowel. She's lost her hair, weight and is really, really fighting.

Either give us true facts or shuffle off!

Do you not realise how much lies hurt the people who have been truly affected by cancer?

It must have been so hard to see your OH and Friends suffering so much *hugs*

My cousin has just been diagnosed, and hasn't been for any treatment yet, I really hope everything is as straightforward as can be. He has a really positive attitude though, which is great

crying_inside

I'm sorry if this is what you think I am . A sad troll ,

Believe me.

People you are reading my life . Most views are they are that I'm lying there are contradictions and more.

This is my life. How it has been . If at best the posts I'm receiving are....
Maybe you can understand why I'm writing here. I don't understand it. I live it.

I have no one to talk to. I have talked with my mother. Her advice was to seek legal advice and to see a doctor.

I don't want to inflict pain and suffering on any one..

I want my family back.

What is the point of posting. Wife left me how do I get her back .without details.
Yes .this is all true. On my children's lives this is all true.

You are saying it's unbelievable . This is my life.

I came here for help and guidance. Not to hurt or be ridiculed.

This is what I have lived with .for a long time.

Has she run away ? Has it come to the point that she dug her self in to deep.
I always told her she would drag me down. Also that if she carried on telling me lies about money. There would come a point that I would not believe any more.
With the cancer, what can I do ? How can I know?.

crying_inside

I am not a violent, alcohol dependant person.
I am scared and frightened. I have a mortgage . Debt. No income..
Can you imagine. You get told something. You doubt it. It's always a 50/50 outcome. But you are so desperate to want to believe it. You either dig for the truth or u let it destroy you.
We have struggled.with money. When I worked I never saw a penny. Yes my wife helped out. But she would take back what she gave me . By taking cash from my credit cards. Yes I was told , change pin numbers. I never did. Was so desperate to know I could trust her. The last time I regretted it . I told her I blame myself for not doing this. She said no it's hers for doing it again.
I am panicking a out the house. We over the week are still together. She says she loves me . That she had to get out. I have stayed over .twice. yet when I ask her about the house. Her answer is its up to you. How is it up to me when she is making me believe .she will come back . She promised this on our midst lives and her UN born grandchild.
At Xmas time she came to me when her son told the news. My wife came to me in pain .saying I need to support her. There is every possibility she won't see the grand child. How can I do this . When in the back of my mind I'm questioning if she has.

Zazen999

Stop drinking, behave like a responsible adult and start taking responsibility for your life.

That goes for if you are a troll or if any of this is true.

Errata

Make an appt with the GP to explain how worried you are about yur wife's cancer diagnosis, treatment and prognosis. The GP will give you the support you so obviously need.

Georgiegirl256

crying_inside wrote: »

With the cancer, what can I do ? How can I know?.

I think you would know if she'd had chemo or not. I saw my Aunty after she'd had it, and she was wiped out. Maybe it affects different people in different ways, but, well, I think you'd know....

busiscoming2

If you share the same GP as your wife surely if you go and see them and tell them your situation they will know whether she is lying to you or not.

I know they cannot discuss other patients problems but as your problem seems to stem partly from knowing the truth they may be a little more forthcoming to help you.