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marrige falling apart .don't know what to do
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crying_inside wrote: »Also as for other times she went for chemo or whatever . She said she would go alone.
As her husband/father of her children, did you not think that you had a responsibility to finding out about her "illness"? Some husband/some father!0 -
crying_inside wrote: »Also as for other times she went for chemo or whatever . She said she would go alone.
I thought you said that she had "opted for no treatment"?0 -
I was actually going to suggest that you and your wife seriously need to stay apart, you quite clearly bring out the very worst in each other.....I don't see the point in this relationship at all kids or no kids............then I saw the last posters comment on you saying about your wife going for chemo......You quite clearly said that she opted for no treatment.
What is going on here? Is all this a bizarre web of lies you are telling us?
If everything is true then I am devastated for you and I can't get my head around the fact that a couple have had and are having so many problems.....
If you are lying then you need help.Onwards and Upwards0 -
Chemo is not entirely a treatment for terminal cancer. .her treatment would have consisted loosing part of her bowel. A complete hysterectomy. Chemo . For an extra year at life. She had the chemo after many months of myself nagging her..it was a trail ie if it shrank her tumours .they would give her the other 3 treatments then operate. .if she wanted. My wife's view . Is that she wants to enjoy the time ahead had . Not being ill and recuperating from operations
By the way my step daughter is 22 years old.0 -
I got to lol at Trevor john. No I am not telling lies . This is what I have been told. Hence I mention a lot of paranoia . It's why I'm venting here. And to view other people thoughts and ideas.0
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As her husband/father of her children, did you not think that you had a responsibility to finding out about her "illness"? Some husband/some father!
Yes I did all the research I could on the information given to me by my wife.I subscribed to Macmillan forums on ovarian cancer. Also got booklets from them. So please do not judge me on what my wife wanted.. even researched apricot seeds as a cure. Same as hemp oil . But that is illegal. Boiling up a lot of cannabis with pure alcohol . To get the thc .then reduce it down until you get the oil. But like I have said. I don't know . I only know what I have been told by her.0 -
What do you want to do to get through this situation?
I could say that my own dad is some father (hes worse than useless and thats being quite nice). Professional, makes money, salt of the earth to most people who know him. Kind, charming. But not to me and he never has been my entire life. At least the OP has tried to make contact with the family he left behind, more than my father ever did.
What Im trying to say, I think it actually takes some courage to admit you have messed up. Because in my own family situation, my father never will, he would need to care to actually try and make amends to me and thats one thing he doesnt, care that is.
People make monumental mistakes in their life. And its hard to actually offload how bad things are and maybe the OP hasnt explained himself very well.
But people do lie about being ill. Its a mental illness. And if you are living with that person and you are convinced they are dying, how are you to know they arent lying?
Anyone remember the mum who was recently convicted because she spent years lying that her son was terminally ill when there was actually nothing wrong with him?
It happens. It sounds like a complete mess, but hopefully the pair of you will get some help, support, counselling and get your lives sorted out even if you arent together.
For everyones sake, kids included.0 -
Pauline thankyou. Yes I have not been able to put what is in my head down into words.also as I have said before. I am not at a pc I am on a phone. .trying to go back to correct spelling or grammar, is a near impossibility.I try my best . The fist post I typed ( took an hour) I lost.
I have found . That I dearly love this woman. I took her for granted. Also if it true that she is ill . I'll be facing a lot and I mean a lot of guilt.0 -
This thread seem to be nonsense, as it is full of contradictions! Obviously OP thinks we are fools.0
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crying_inside wrote: »She says she is
But I still believe she has cancer. But ...she has lied before. In fact I think she made this up because of that cam girl.
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Yet in a later post you say that your wife has had chemo! You are either sick in your head or a troll.0
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