marrige falling apart .don't know what to do

1plus1equal3

I dont often post on this site, but after reading your posts,i just want to say, your poor ,poor kids.With parents like you 2 , what chance have they got.

tesuhoha

They don't teach the kids to spell nowadays. Otherwise it might be more believable.

crying_inside

Thanks for the replies . Its just what I need to wake up and smell the coffee.
Yes I did pay maintenance to my older children. I also saw them when I could.
To those of you who are saying you feel sorry for my kids .thanks.
I am on a mobile phone. So predictive text plays a part.
I do not have a serious problem with alcohol.
My kids are well mannered and very popular. I can't see what they have heard and seen will damage them. However I asked my son today what he would like. And.
like. all kids will say. For you and mum not to argue. I came here to express my problems and my fears .think what would you do. If your wife/husband were not always truthful and for the sake of a lie. You find money taken from credit cards .it's hard living with my wife . Then you start doubting and questioning things
The doc has given me a 4 week sick note. Have no idea what to claim for with this.and yes I asked for counselling . I asked for counselling the last time I was there. With a chest infection that tturned out to be a life threatening pulinary embolism... I asker for counselling to help me deal with the cancer.the doc said looks like that got side tracked slightly.
No I am not a troll. But I should be . Its what I deserve.

paulineb_2

Well, I think you really should follow through with the counselling.

And it does look like your wife may need some as well.

paulineb_2

You could claim ESA, employment and support allowance. If you have a sick note you can call up, they will take a claim over the phone.

You'll get it for a period of 13 weeks I think it is then you would need to go for a medical, otherwise its JSA.

System

crying_inside wrote: »

No I am not a troll. But I should be . Its what I deserve.

but you can change. However, can the wife?

tayforth

I'm thinking 'troll' as well. And I'm not a cynical person, but seriously? The first post reads like a bingo card. Drinking, faking terminal illness, violence, lying, child abuse, debt, fraud - tick, tick tick.

I'm not that good at spotting troll threads - and some of them can help people who are actually going through the problem(s) described - but yours is just too outlandish for me to believe.

If I'm wrong, then I'm sorry - but your wild story makes me think otherwise.

paulineb_2

Id like to think that everyone on here would get a chance at support.
Because really, its better to take at face value.

If someones trolling, then its 2 mins out of my life that Ive wasted, no more.

Also, some people dont spell well and dont punctuate well or even express themselves well.

Id also like to say that I live in a housing estate that some people might compare to the programme shameless, from the outside it looks very ordinary, from the inside, theres stuff that goes on, some of which I only found out about when some people from the area came to do my fitness classes and one of them worked in the local shop and told me what some peoples lives are like (Im also aware people can be dysfunctional no matter what their social class is). You dont know what goes on behind closed doors until someone tells you in the passing.

The thing is, Im sure many of us have stuff thats gone on in our lives that we dont share. I have, lots of stuff that Id never share on here, not because I dont want to be judged, but because its private.

We can also pick and choose the threads we respond to.

tayforth

paulineb wrote: »

Id like to think that everyone on here would get a chance at support.
Because really, its better to take at face value.

If someones trolling, then its 2 mins out of my life that Ive wasted, no more.

Also, some people dont spell well and dont punctuate well or even express themselves well.

Id also like to say that I live in a housing estate that some people might compare to the programme shameless, from the outside it looks very ordinary, from the inside, theres stuff that goes on, some of which I only found out about when some people from the area came to do my fitness classes and one of them worked in the local shop and told me what some peoples lives are like (Im also aware people can be dysfunctional no matter what their social class is). You dont know what goes on behind closed doors until someone tells you in the passing.

The thing is, Im sure many of us have stuff thats gone on in our lives that we dont share. I have, lots of stuff that Id never share on here, not because I dont want to be judged, but because its private.

We can also pick and choose the threads we respond to.

That's a very fair and justified comment, Pauline.


If I can explain why I said what I did...


I have replied in the past to lots of threads when I've suspected that the OP is a troll, but I reason that, if it helps a lurker, it's worth responding. Also, when the OP is describing themselves as a victim of abuse, I'd rather take a troll seriously than dismiss a genuine person. And anyway, my instinct is to believe someone in that scenario.


In this case, I feel no sympathy for the OP, or his wife. They're clearly better off apart, and both of them have behaved disgracefully.


OP - if you are telling the truth, then you and your wife both need professional help. It's your children I feel sorry for. I hope that you can improve things for their sake, they deserve better.

pearl123

It sound a very unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship.
I think you really should split and both of you should get on with straightening your own lives out.