marrige falling apart .don't know what to do

wossie

She put me in this mess. She can get me out.

thorsoak

wossie wrote: »

She put me in this mess. She can get me out.

She won't. You'd better suck that up! Only you can get you out of this mess.

wossie

She in effect did not lie to the children. She wanted me to keep it to myself. Her view was sje did not want to hurt people.
She wrote goodbye letter's . She asked me to help her write them. I could not help . I did not have the strength.

Manipulation . This is what im afraid of . Im trying to work this out . If she is still doing it to me. By saying she will come back but dont know when.Personally i think she is happy with what she has now. She got me running . She has got me by the balls .

wossie

She has fed me. She gave me money for parking over 10 days. We have slept together. Then if I say something she does not like .she goes off on one. Tells me to leave. Then messaging me on fb. To make things better . I really dont understand.

JoW123

wossie wrote: »

She in effect did not lie to the children. She wanted me to keep it to myself. Her view was sje did not want to hurt people.
She wrote goodbye letter's . She asked me to help her write them. I could not help . I did not have the strength.

Manipulation . This is what im afraid of . Im trying to work this out . If she is still doing it to me. By saying she will come back but dont know when.Personally i think she is happy with what she has now. She got me running . She has got me by the balls .

You can't work it out because if she has done what you say she has then she is sick and twisted. It doesn't matter what she is doing now because you will never, ever, know whether anything she ever says again is true or not. There is no saving this relationship unless you want to collude with her truly disgusting behaviour. If you genuinely can't see that for yourself then I'm afraid none of us on here can even begin to help you.

wossie

Its a frustrating and horrible place to be. I just cant believe how one individual can mess up someones life so badly.
I know she is a f up. Its been a month and I still cant believe what she has done to me.
Let me sit on my !!! for 8 months.
If I get an interview I dont know how best to explain the 8 month gap . Do I lie ? Do I tell the truth ?

Errata

wossie wrote: »

Its a frustrating and horrible place to be. I just cant believe how one individual can mess up someones life so badly.
I know she is a f up. Its been a month and I still cant believe what she has done to me.

Many will share your disbelief.

HEPPY1990

Wow what a horrible situation to be in I wish you all the best.