marrige falling apart .don't know what to do

MarilynMonroe_2

Your posts are all about what YOU want, what YOU have to do to get her back, seems to me she's sorted, it's YOU who needs to sort YOU out.
Yes her ideal might be to get back with you in the end but for now concentrate on your own life - sleeping with her when you dont trust or even like her isnt going to help things. Theres too much bitnerness.
See the children and give her a wide birth.

Pollycat

crying_inside wrote: »

I just put in a claim for esa. Next week hopefully . I'll be put down as her carer. If not then I have 4 weeks to pull myself together.

crying_inside wrote: »

Terminally ill people are entitled to a carer. Believe it or not. She my be still fit and able. But she . As she says . Has terminal cancer.

What's happening in 4 weeks' time?

Sorry to burst your bubble but you can't just "be put down as a carer".


The person being cared for needs to be in receipt of one of these benefits:

• Attendance Allowance
• Disability Living Allowance - the middle or highest care rate
• Constant Attendance Allowance at or above the normal maximum rate with an Industrial Injuries Disablement Benefit
• Constant Attendance Allowance at the basic (full day) rate with a War Disablement Pension
• Armed Forces Independence Payment (AFIP)
• Personal Independence Payment daily living component

and I really do doubt that she is getting one of those benefits, especially as you say she is 'fit and able'.

You don't just get given benefits because of a terminal illness, it's based on a person's care needs - and if, as you say she is 'fit and able' what are her care needs?

marisco_2

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

:T I heard you've just been nominated for this years Booker Prize?!

:rotfl:

The finest in fiction, OP is guaranteed to win. That will transform his fortunes and some of his problems will be instantly solved.

thorsoak

crying_inside wrote: »

She will not have any problems . This is the problem . She will live with what she has got kids. Benefits. What more will she need.

Now I just . I do not know. I don't know . I'm backed into a corner . Don't know what to do . What hurts more is that I knew it . I let her chose my path . My destiny.I hope if she has any conscience . She will let me back into her life.
I know it sounds crazy. She has manipulated me for 14 years. She has stole money from me. Taking off credit cards. . Wiped me out. She can help me get back up she caused this. Why should I suffer now . Why why why.

If she is dying, she will be in no position to help you - or your children. She doesn't want you in what remains of her life. Face up to this fact.

She has manipulated you for 14 years. Face this fact. She has wiped you out - face this fact. SHE CANNOT HELP YOU GET BACK because YOU allowed this to happen.

You are suffering now because you have been a lazy, easily manipulated person who has allowed himself to be d--k led into a mutually abusive relationship. You walked out on another family with barely a backward glance. You've not worked out a career - just slithered from job to job, picking up as many benefits as you could get with your partner claiming for anything and everything ...and all the time saying "but I didn't know". What bullsh1t! Even the least financially able person knows when they are spending more than they have coming in - so you've benefitted from your wife's manipulating money escapades -don't blame her for everything.

Your partnership is doomed - I don't feel sorry for you, nor for your wife. But I do feel so sorry for your poor children - they didn't ask for such apologies for the parents that you paint.

trevor_john

!!!!!! !!!! just read back everything you have written, life is not going to change when you " win " her back.

You are just rambling on and on...I take it you have found out that she has lied about the terminal cancer??

if a person can lie about something like that, it is beneath the lowest of the low and why would you want to carry on a relationship with someone who is prepared to lie about a terminal illness.

she has lied, stolen from you, and generally been a complete nightmare and pain in the rectum for fourteen years.

For gods sake wake up man !!

Pollycat

thorsoak wrote: »

If she is dying, she will be in no position to help you - or your children. She doesn't want you in what remains of her life. Face up to this fact.

She has manipulated you for 14 years. Face this fact. She has wiped you out - face this fact. SHE CANNOT HELP YOU GET BACK because YOU allowed this to happen.

You are suffering now because you have been a lazy, easily manipulated person who has allowed himself to be d--k led into a mutually abusive relationship. You walked out on another family with barely a backward glance. You've not worked out a career - just slithered from job to job, picking up as many benefits as you could get with your partner claiming for anything and everything ...and all the time saying "but I didn't know". What bullsh1t! Even the least financially able person knows when they are spending more than they have coming in - so you've benefitted from your wife's manipulating money escapades -don't blame her for everything.

Your partnership is doomed - I don't feel sorry for you, nor for your wife. But I do feel so sorry for your poor children - they didn't ask for such apologies for the parents that you paint.

Go, Thorsoak, Go! :T:T:T

Georgiegirl256

marisco wrote: »

:rotfl:

The finest in fiction, OP is guaranteed to win. That will transform his fortunes and some of his problems will be instantly solved.

Oh yes, for sure! :rotfl:

Pollycat

crying_inside wrote: »

New name have posted on this site under other name.

Anybody have an idea what the OP's normal username is?

trevor_john

Pollycat wrote: »

Anybody have an idea what the OP's normal username is?

Nope, no idea....I guess if we knew then it might confirm that there is a troll lurking.

Never can understand what makes trolls tick.:rotfl:

Errata

This thread's beginning to read like an East Enders script.