marrige falling apart .don't know what to do

crying_inside

thorsoak wrote: »

If she is dying, she will be in no position to help you - or your children. She doesn't want you in what remains of her life. Face up to this fact.

She has manipulated you for 14 years. Face this fact. She has wiped you out - face this fact. SHE CANNOT HELP YOU GET BACK because YOU allowed this to happen.

You are suffering now because you have been a lazy, easily manipulated person who has allowed himself to be d--k led into a mutually abusive relationship. You walked out on another family with barely a backward glance. You've not worked out a career - just slithered from job to job, picking up as many benefits as you could get with your partner claiming for anything and everything ...and all the time saying "but I didn't know". What bullsh1t! Even the least financially able person knows when they are spending more than they have coming in - so you've benefitted from your wife's manipulating money escapades -don't blame her for everything.

Your partnership is doomed - I don't feel sorry for you, nor for your wife. But I do feel so sorry for your poor children - they didn't ask for such apologies for the parents that you paint.

For your information. I have worked. I have worked every day for 13 years while I have been up here. I have a mortgage. How do you know what I have done. I've been so desperate to work. I worked on a landfill site picking litter from the boundaries .

daffie

This was entertaining at first, but it's boring now. You've had sympathy and advice, but you're not listening. Maybe you were the same with your partner - too self-obsessed? Why not take a deep breath, stop and think about what everybody is telling you, instead of carrying on complaining? People have been trying to help you but they are losing patience now.

thorsoak

crying_inside wrote: »

For your information. I have worked. I have worked every day for 13 years while I have been up here. I have a mortgage. How do you know what I have done. I've been so desperate to work. I worked on a landfill site picking litter from the boundaries .

Did I accuse you of not working? No - I accused you of allowing your wife to "claim" benefits to which you might not have been entitled. Well done for working on a landfill site picking litter:T
- I've worked scrubbing floors in operating theatres and scrubbing hospital toilets too!

coolcait

crying_inside wrote: »

... I worked on a landfill site picking litter from the boundaries .

So you do have some experience of recognising boundaries.

That hasn't always been clear from your posts.

wossie

Some of you wanted my real id, well here I am.

Situation a month on, I have now found out everything she said about cancer is a pack of lies, and also the DWP claim.

Everything is still the same, Still want her back.

Have applied for many jobs, just been shafted by an employment agency.

I am getting more and more desperate, everyday, I just dot kow what to do.

Im worried so dam worried that im going to loose my house.

have been able to claim ESA, I wont pass any medical, even though I feel my mental state is suffering, the pressure of all this, is just starting to eat me away.

My doctor thinks it nothing he gave me 4 days worth of diazepam.

I have been in such a state, while at a hospital appointment. I ended up speaking to the crisis team.

My wife says she will come back , but when she is ready.

Her attitude is still the same, I explain the situation, I just get grief,
don't think she can get it into her head, that there might not be a me to come back to. Might not be a house to come back to.

£280 a month does not come close enough to what goes out of my bank account

paulineb_2

wossie wrote: »

Some of you wanted my real id, well here I am.

Situation a month on, I have now found out everything she said about cancer is a pack of lies, and also the DWP claim.

Everything is still the same, Still want her back.

Have applied for many jobs, just been shafted by an employment agency.

I am getting more and more desperate, everyday, I just dot kow what to do.

Im worried so dam worried that im going to loose my house.

have been able to claim ESA, I wont pass any medical, even though I feel my mental state is suffering, the pressure of all this, is just starting to eat me away.

My doctor thinks it nothing he gave me 4 days worth of diazepam.

I have been in such a state, while at a hospital appointment. I ended up speaking to the crisis team.

My wife says she will come back , but when she is ready.

Her attitude is still the same, I explain the situation, I just get grief,
don't think she can get it into her head, that there might not be a me to come back to. Might not be a house to come back to.

£280 a month does not come close enough to what goes out of my bank account

Well take some steps to sort out the money situation, go over to the debt board and get some advice about how to deal with your debts.

And please, if you are even contemplating taking your own life go and get some help.

Its how you deal with the issues that you are facing that matters.

MarilynMonroe_2

Go see the cab about your house and stuff. Its amazing what they can do that you can't. I was out of work once and they got my mortgage down to, wait for it... £5 a week!
Her pretending to have cancer was terrible, sounds like you deserve better.

thorsoak

crying_inside wrote: »

Yes my wife was hit for 6 when she had chemo. She did loose a small amount of hair..but I have never seen anyone on chemo. Who has had 3 doses over 9 weeks..how could I compare. .

So if she was lying about the cancer, perhaps you can explain the above statement.

thorsoak

wossie wrote: »

Some of you wanted my real id, well here I am.

Situation a month on, I have now found out everything she said about cancer is a pack of lies, and also the DWP claim.

So what about your statement on 6th April 2013 under the "FARCE OF A BENEFITS SYSTEM" thread "Yes we did have a Macmillan benefits advisor"...... See https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4534093

Everything is still the same, Still want her back.

[COLOR="rgb(255, 140, 0)"]Still telling the same tall stories[/COLOR]
Have applied for many jobs, just been shafted by an employment agency.

I am getting more and more desperate, everyday, I just dot kow what to do.

Im worried so dam worried that im going to loose my house.

have been able to claim ESA, I wont pass any medical, even though I feel my mental state is suffering, the pressure of all this, is just starting to eat me away.

My doctor thinks it nothing he gave me 4 days worth of diazepam.

I have been in such a state, while at a hospital appointment. I ended up speaking to the crisis team.

My wife says she will come back , but when she is ready.

Her attitude is still the same, I explain the situation, I just get grief,
don't think she can get it into her head, that there might not be a me to come back to. Might not be a house to come back to.

£280 a month does not come close enough to what goes out of my bank account

My comments in red above

JoW123

thorsoak wrote: »

So if she was lying about the cancer, perhaps you can explain the above statement.

According to his other thread in this id he also has a Macmillan benefits advisor too. If she has made it up then she is very very sick and I don't mean physically. Disgusting.