Am I over reacting? Think I might explode if I dont talk about this

peachyprice

tayforth wrote: »

Yes, even @ £5 per drink, £150 will buy 30 drinks! Now, assuming that his rounds were reciprocated, surely NOBODY can consume 30 alcoholic drinks in one night. :eek:

Maybe it was a pub with *cough* entertainment

Tropez

peachyprice wrote: »

Maybe it was a pub with *cough* entertainment

That's a pretty pricey pool table.

Kynthia

tayforth wrote: »

Yes, even @ £5 per drink, £150 will buy 30 drinks! Now, assuming that his rounds were reciprocated, surely NOBODY can consume 30 alcoholic drinks in one night. :eek:

Depends where he was drinking and what he was drinking. In Docklands I enjoyed a few champagne cocktails and strawberry daiquiris for my 30th and they were £10 each. There are some very expensive clubs in London where someone could drink over an 8 hour period and he could have been drinking something more expensive than beer. Also he might have felt flush and bought drinks for others that weren't all reciprocated.

Pthree

tayforth wrote: »

Yes, even @ £5 per drink, £150 will buy 30 drinks! Now, assuming that his rounds were reciprocated, surely NOBODY can consume 30 alcoholic drinks in one night. :eek:


OP - I would wait until Tuesday to see if he does do something nice for your birthday.


But whatever happens, do you really want to be with this guy? I couldn't be with someone who's so awful with money that I had to control all the finances. To say nothing of his booze consumption!!!! :eek:


xxx

I guess it depends where you live though?

OP is your username a clue to the fact you live in London?

I can very easily spend £100+ on a night out by the time you include cabs etc.. and come home reasonably sober (well not too blotto!) hence I don't go out too often.

I love going out back up north a round of drinks in and change from a tenner, here in London a glass of wine can cost you that!

P3

fay409

This is the first time I have posted on here, but had say I have been there honey, you deserve so much better.

My husband actually forgot my birthdays twice, once when I was 7 months pregnant with our daughter. I was heart broken!!

I hope he's kidding you and makes your day so special .

Happy Birthday For Tuesday :bdaycake: xxxxxxx

Dexters_Indignation

If it turns out that he has spent it on a beautiful surprise, how many of us will refute all our insults?

Maybe?

krustylouise

OP I feel really sorry for you. I don't want to get your hopes up by saying "oh maybe he's just winding you up" but I blimming well hope he is! And if nothing else I'm sending you massive birthday hugs and I hope you have a fantastic birthday and I hope you spend it in good company, whether it be your OH or your family and friends xxx

Goldiegirl

Bangton wrote: »

With the one sentence answers from the OP I might have got this wrong but it seems you basically withdraw and hand him any money he wants to spend? Including on a present for your birthday? Which is why, you think you can be so sure he hasn't got you anything.

Truth be told I'd be annoyed but I do think you should stop handing his money to him from his own account and vetting what he does and what he is spending it on

Firstly I would be upset that my OH went out and apparently had the time of his life and didn't think to invite me.

But it does sound as if the op's OH is on the leash financially speaking. It's like he is only allowed to withdraw money from his account with permission, and has to give exact details of why he's withdrawing the money, and the expenditure has to be pre-approved.

Perhaps, he had £150 in his pocket and suddenly wanted to kick against all the rules and just went a little crazy?

meritaten

hang on - OPs birthday isn't until next week - her OH could just be winding her up that he spent the money...........she wont know until her actual birthday will she?

paulineb_2

Id like to know what the relationship is like the rest of the time

If its good I dont see that theres any harm done, its his cash, unless it was his last £150. I would be asking how someone managed to blow £150 on one night out. The most I spend on a night out is £20 and I understand there are differences based on where you live and what you are drinking.

If its not good because she has to look after the purse strings all the time and this is just another money related episode thats ended up with the OP upset

Because this is just one day out of the rest of the year, its very significant as to whether this is a happy relationship the rest of the time, or not.

Because it doesnt really matter if he makes this up to her and spends money on another present, if the rest of the time, the relationship isnt good.

I dont know that its not, but the issue about the birthday is just papering over the cracks as far as Im concerned, because if someone really is rotten with money all the time, there should be no surprises.

We cant force people to grow up and be less selfish if they dont want to, it has to come from them.