Am I over reacting? Think I might explode if I dont talk about this

LisaLou1982

Im so sorry for you OP

I would be fuming if that had happened to me and OH would be massively in bad books!!!

Although tbh, i would be more upset that he had left it to the last minute to get me a gift. Im firmly in the camp that my birthday is on the same day every year. It has been since i was born, therefore it is not a surprise when it comes round. I would rather receive nothing than a gift that has had no thought put in to it. If its not something you know i would love then why bother? Id rather you didnt spend the money.

Can you make some arrangements to go out with friends/family instead to make your day a little nicer? x

Pixiechic

£150 on one night in the pub, I just can't see how he could spend that amount.

I would wait until the day and see because he could be joking.

Savvy_Sue

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

So for my birthday in March I told him I wanted to go away for a night. No present. (Had to make extra sure he got me a card though!) Did he surprise me?? Nope! I had to research, decide where I wanted to go, book it, pay the deposit and get £ changed to €, then he paid the balance at the hotel!!!

It was more like me making a fuss of me but I got my night away so shouldn't really complain (note to self: book most expensive hotel next time )

Ah, but MY DH would tell me that he was leaving it to me, because if he did it, he'd get it wrong, in some undisclosed way, and I'd then have a go at him. None of which is true, btw. The most I might do is check whether he went through a comparison site to get the best price.

pops5588

I'm sorry, but let me just see if I have this entirely right...

He is so bad with money and finances that you are in control of his bank accounts. He obviously had a night out he wanted to go on, so used your birthday as a way to get access to some money from his account...and then spent it all on alcohol?

Wow. I'm sorry OP but he sounds like an irresponsible, manipulative drunk and you could probably find better company for your 30th in the form of a friend or family member instead.

bagpussbear

When is your birthday OP?

Maybe wait until your birthday has happened, give him a chance to put things right and then make a decision about how you want this relationship to go from there.

If it's not a joke, then regardless of the amount, this bloke has spent the money he seems to have promised you for your special birthday, how selfish. If he doesn't put things right, then do you really want to waste your life on someone so thoughtless and selfish?

Toto

I would see this as the best possible gift he could give you. The gift of an insight into what a life with him will be like unless things change.

Assuming there is no surprise, you need to ask if he has enough good qualities to overlook this selfish thoughtless streak, or is this really just the sort of guy he is?

I hope you have a lovely birthday x

pops5588

Well in that case I change my response! I wouldn't just be hurt, I would be fuming. I would also be busy packing...

Though I suppose the reasonable thing would be to do what others have said and wait it out until Tuesday. Still, unbelievable...

lika_86

geoffky wrote: »

How long will you let this continue...Doing £150 in on the lash must involve some coke because even in my greatest drinking days i could not have done anything near £150..I could with some coke...

6 drinks (2 rounds) after work last week cost me £30, easy to see how £150 could be spent if buying rounds for everyone.

LEJC

i will say ive only read the first page of the thread...but whilst I was reading it the thought struck me...

Hold on your birthday isnt until next week...and at the moment you have no idea what hes got you other than the drunken admission that hes spent the money he saved to buy you a present with....well hang on and see what turns up for your present before you get yourself upst.

people can have a lovely birthday on very little money and surely its not all about the amount he spends on you but more how he treats you on the day....presumably he now knows that youre upset,so I guess hes got a week to come up with some extra money to buy a gift or a week in which to be creative and give you a birthday treat that isnt money driven

In the meantime dont stew on it...

LannieDuck

I'm still confused about where this £150 came from.

Was it £150 from his bank account that you withdrew for him to use to buy you a a gift?