Am I over reacting? Think I might explode if I dont talk about this

zzzLazyDaisy

chelseablue wrote: »

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I know its his money and to be honest presents dont really interest me much (got most things I need) so why am I so upset

chelseablue wrote: »

It was money that he was given specifically to go shopping with to buy me something

Sorry, but if he was given the money to buy something for you, then it wasn't 'his money'.

Who gave him the money?

Edit: Just read your post above. Did you mean that you gave him £150 from your joint finances so he could take you shopping to buy you a present?

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tea_lover

chelseablue wrote: »

I look after the finances. He's useless with money, as you've all gathered by now.

He said he was taking £150 to go shopping specifically for my birthday

Well then he really has behaved like a d.ick :mad:

ETA: oh hang on, I've just seen it was from his own bank account! Annoying as it is then surely it's his to spend/waste.

jumpedtheshark

tea_lover wrote: »

ETA: oh hang on, I've just seen it was from his own bank account! Annoying as it is then surely it's his to spend/waste.

If it's like me and my OH, we both have our own accounts and a joint account. All of the money in all of the accounts is seen as 'joint' in our heads when we calculate finances, it's just put into different accounts for different purposes. Eg. OH had a mobile contract paid from his sole account to build his credit history. So, the fact it's in his account doesn't mean it's not joint money. It's all so dependent on how the particular couple organise their finances.

I'd be very upset, and actually probably more upset that he showed no shame/remorse when telling me what he'd done.

fififoofoo

my birthday on friday (half way to 90) and my hubbie has really tried his best to get me something I really wanted - first thing that has arrived is something I've already got... (but love), second thing he's discovered that my firend has already bought me... he is devastated but I am the happiest I've been for ages as he's really tried, and that is what counts.
I must admit I am very selfish when it comes to birthdays and expect something - regardless of what it is, but something that has had thought put into it.
I am so sorry for you and can only hope that he feels so bad that he'll put it right. I hope all is right in the end and it works out : (

tea_lover

Oh I would be annoyed, definitely. My OH ran up a lot of debt which we've just paid off. During the paying off period I was covering most of the household bills, while he repaid the debts. There were times during that period when he'd spend money on nights out etc and it really annoyed me. But it was still technically his money.

It's bad manners, it's disrepectful, and it's quite immature - and like I say I would definitely be very irritated. But I don't agree that you can 'give' someone £150 of their own money to spend on a present for yourself.

pinkshoes

I guess he'd better find another £150 quickly then.

Just smile and telling him you've been thinking hard about what you'd like to spend the £150 on, and you're really looking forward to your shopping trip together!

He can't just tell you he's spending £150 on you, then blow it on a p*ss up!

Tiddlywinks

It's his money to spend and his choice to make BUT...

Looking at the bigger picture, is this really the kind of man you want to spend your life with? A man that puts a good night out above buying his wife a present for her 30th?

Maybe this is the best present he could ever give you - the honest truth about his priorities in life... use that information to have a really good think about your future.

*Louise*

I would probably stay a bit quiet until the actual birthday, in the hope that it was a wind up and perhaps he is trying to hide a surprise. My next step would depend on what happened on the actual day.

There's no point in blowing up before then when you don't have the full facts about what is happening.