Am I over reacting? Think I might explode if I dont talk about this

pollypenny

ecgirl07 wrote: »

Nonsense! I went out on sunday knowing I was going to spend at least £100 in the pub over the course of day. I dont have a drink problem and had one of the best days out in a long time.

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The OP said he had 'gone down the pub' which suggests an impromptu visit to the local.

Nothing like a planned day out , drinking, eating and possibly a cab home. Or an expensive night club where he'd be necking cocktails.

It's not a drink problem which would worry me: it's the profligacy!

spookyhelen

I think you might be over reacting. £150 is a lot to spend down the pub but it is also a lot to alocate yourself from his money to spend on yourself when you have mentioned you dont need/want anything anyway.
I hope he gets you something nice as a surprise. But you shouldnt feel upset on him spending his own money. He might be bad with money but it is his own money. (assuming you share other bills etc)

paulineb_2

notanewuser wrote: »

Whatever you so, stop trying to get pregnant by him!

I dont really understand why on the one hand, this is such an issue to the extent that the OP seems really unhappy and yet is trying to have a child by the same person.

Why on earth would you want to have kids with someone who has to have his money affairs managed down to the last penny by his partner?

Do you think that when he has a child he'll automatically become more responsible?

OrkneyStar

Is your partner contributing to your birthday meal?

zzzLazyDaisy

I don't get why OP would draw out £150 from the bf's account, so he could go shopping with her to buy her a present that she doesn't want, and then knowing he is 'useless with money' (which is why she has charge of his account) give it to him in advance of the planned shopping trip. What was the point? She was going to be with him on this shopping trip anyway, so why not just draw it out and give it to him on the day. In fact why not just draw it out and go and buy the present herself? Or not bother, since she isn't bothered about a present anyway.

Sorry, maybe I am being dense, but it doesn't make any sense to me - it is almost as if she was deliberately putting temptation in his way.

MarilynMonroe_2

paulineb wrote: »

I dont really understand why on the one hand, this is such an issue to the extent that the OP seems really unhappy and yet is trying to have a child by the same person.

Why on earth would you want to have kids with someone who has to have his money affairs managed down to the last penny by his partner?

Do you think that when he has a child he'll automatically become more responsible?

Because she loves him I presume.

Saturnalia

MarilynMonroe wrote: »

Because she loves him I presume.

Ahh, the most destructive phrase in the English language: "But I love him".

Angry_Bear

MarilynMonroe wrote: »

£150 at a pub sounds unlikely to me. Say £3 a pint, even 10 pints would only be around £30.

I'd guess it's been a while since you went to the pub!

To all the people saying that £150 would be nearly impossible to spend on a "down the pub" trip, not necessarily. My OH is a big lad (6'3" and build like the side of a house) and he can easily drink 25 pints - probably more - and come home drunk but not falling about.

In our local it's at least 3.50 for a pint (more if you drink cider or guiness) so that's about £90. Then if you smoke there's probably another £20. Maybe £10-20 if you go the chippy or kebab shop. £20 for a taxi, it's perfectly possible to nip down the pub and end up going somewhere else that stays open later. If he's drunk and enjoying himself he'll probably buy more drinks for other people than he buys for himself. Maybe he's the type that will put a few quid in the quiz machine or something. £150 is a lot, but it's far from impossible.

In our house, the sheer cost is the reason we rarely go out to the pub.

ETA: I just had a google, and apprently I live in quite an expensive area for drinks

tesuhoha

Angry_Bear wrote: »

I'd guess it's been a while since you went to the pub!

To all the people saying that £150 would be nearly impossible to spend on a "down the pub" trip, not necessarily. My OH is a big lad (6'3" and build like the side of a house) and he can easily drink 25 pints - probably more - and come home drunk but not falling about.

In our local it's at least 3.50 for a pint (more if you drink cider or guiness) so that's about £90. Then if you smoke there's probably another £20. Maybe £10-20 if you go the chippy or kebab shop. £20 for a taxi, it's perfectly possible to nip down the pub and end up going somewhere else that stays open later. If he's drunk and enjoying himself he'll probably buy more drinks for other people than he buys for himself. Maybe he's the type that will put a few quid in the quiz machine or something. £150 is a lot, but it's far from impossible.

In our house, the sheer cost is the reason we rarely go out to the pub.

ETA: I just had a google, and apprently I live in quite an expensive area for drinks

Not being horrible or anything, but 25 pints in one night sounds terribly unhealthy. I would be worried about the effect of that on his liver.

skintandscared_2

Angry_Bear wrote: »

To all the people saying that £150 would be nearly impossible to spend on a "down the pub" trip, not necessarily. My OH is a big lad (6'3" and build like the side of a house) and he can easily drink 25 pints - probably more - and come home drunk but not falling about.

You'll be lucky if he continues to keep coming home at all if he's drinking quantities like that. 25 PINTS??!!!! :eek: Even calculated on 4% "weaker" lager, that works out at nearly 60 units of alcohol!! The body can process one unit of alcohol per hour... My OH is a big man too but even he rarely makes it to double figures. I'd be more worried for his life than his wallet if he's managing to down 25 pints...