Ex wife lied to where she has taken kids abroad. Where do i stand?

Moonwax

Btw apple devices have wifi, and imessenger :-) works in every country with internet.

Moonwax

Jinx wrote: »

I think its understandable to be miffed at being lied to, however, I do think there is a bit of overreaction going on here. You seem to be painting that its all about the childrens safety etc but tbh it just comes across as a smoke screen.

IMO if this woman is a responsible mother while shes in the UK then she will continue to be so while she is abroad with the children.... And if she is responsible then all talk of solicitors etc is over the top.

She may have lied or changed plans, whatever; I bet she has her own reasons for this which I am sure she will share with you when you have the conversation with her.

As a divorced parent I have always allowed my daughter to go abroad with her dad and not had exact details of where they were - I trust that he (as I do) is looking after her. Your children are not any safer for you knowing where they are, its just understandably reassuring for you.

So if they never came back and you never heard from them you wouldnt have a single clue where they went?

No they are not safer me knowing where they are, but my mind is at rest worrying.

Moonwax

Dunroamin wrote: »

Just a thought. I wonder whether one of you's confused between Disney Land and Disney World?

Flights and accomodation were in Orlando, florida :-)

paulineb_2

Could you not send her a message on facebook if you havent already

julie03

i would be a bit annoyed especially as the kids were excited about going, why would any mother lie like that to their kids.

marisco_2

ognum wrote: »

I usually agree with you but I actually beg to differ, having read the OPs responses he suggests 'a good talking too' which is not an adult to adult method of communication!

OP then suggests mediation in the next breathe which to me means I will say what I want and then you will agree. I could of course be wrong.

I took the 'a good talking to' to be a written in the spur of the moment, releasing alot of pent up stress and upset on a forum type comment.

Mediation is not a bad idea. It allows for both parties to air their views, listen to each other and see things from each others perspectives with a third party present who could help to guide them.

The OP is coping with alot of anxiety at the moment and should be given a bit of a break in my opinion.

Moonwax

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

But to say that he's "going to give her a good talking to" is unbelievably controlling! Who the hell does he think he is?

Nobody in my life would ever get away with "giving me a good talking to" especially an ex.

Bad choice of words, sorrrry!

Tbh she has lied i will be discussing this with her with dissapointment in my voice. Does that sound better?

(trying not to put this accross as sounding controlling...)

aliasojo

marisco wrote: »

I dont think the OP has come over as controlling at all. ........... Why is there always a tendency to look on people in such negative ways on this forum without any just cause?

I think it's the phrasing he has used throughout the thread.

Moonwax wrote: »

i am teying to get hold of a solicitor before the end of the week.

With my parental resposibility i agreed only to Orlando.

I need to know if i should go to the police?

I think most people might be a bit irked to find out their kids were elsewhere but his comment about only agreeing to Orlando striked me as strange. Also, most people's first thoughts wouldn't be to go to the Police

Moonwax wrote: »

....... she had no reason to lie. We have been seperated 6 years im settled down now. She threatened before to move away.

|It's my opinion that most people simply wouldn't lie about something like this unless they did have a reason.

Moonwax wrote: »

I would like to give her a stern talking to, but it wont do anything to stop her doing it again.

Stern talking to?

Sorry if I'm well off the mark OP but there's just something not sitting right with this and I'd really have loved to hear your ex's side.

Just my take on what you've posted, I'm not saying categorically that I'm right.

Zoetoes

Moonwax wrote: »

I couldnt care less if she got married, hit by a bus or won the lottery. So do not know why she would lie to me or the kids.

This is an example of why she probably didn't tell you.

Zoetoes

Moonwax wrote: »

I would like to give her a stern talking to

And this..