Ex wife lied to where she has taken kids abroad. Where do i stand?

Moonwax

Hello

Hopefully someone can help, i am teying to get hold of a solicitor before the end of the week.

Story is, my ex wife asked to take my two children to orlando florida, to which i agreed. I was given their flight and accomodation details. But have just found out via social media she has infact taken them to las vegas so she can get married. I did not agree this and the kids thought they were going to orlando. Where do i stand? As i now do not know where they really are! We have shared care and NO residence order is in place.

With my parental resposibility i agreed only to Orlando.

I need to know if i should go to the police?

paulineb_2

Do you have any reason to think your ex wont bring them back to the UK?

Molly41

I would not think so - if they are safe.

Perhaps she lied to you because she knew you would kick up a stink and refuse to allow them to go.

Moonwax

Pauline, i have no idea right now. I was given false details flights and accomodation, she had no reason to lie. We have been seperated 6 years im settled down now. She threatened before to move away.

I felt we were getting on better/ more mutually. Then she has gone and done this. She also got my kids hopes up of going to orlando. And they are not there.

stormbreaker

If you have shared responsibility and you know they are with their mother despite the fact she has deceived you, I don't think the police will be concerned.
She may have felt the need to tell fibs in the knowledge you may not have agreed to the kids going with her.
Would it have mattered which county they were in had they gone elsewhere and she was not getting married.
Surely the fact they are safe is the most important thing,

marisco_2

I can understand your concern at not knowing your childrens exact location. This would be very worrying for any parent and must have greatly knocked your confidence in your ex. When you agreed to her taking the children on holiday, you effectively gave her permission to leave the country with them and to go abroad. I dont think that the fact that she has taken them to a different part of the agreed country, is theoretically against the law.

You could contact the police and take their advice on this but I dont think you will get far. Maybe it would be better to contact members of her side of the family to try and get a contact number for where they are staying so you can speak with your children and assure yourself that they are okay.

DUTR

stormbreaker wrote: »

If you have shared responsibility and you know they are with their mother despite the fact she has deceived you, I don't think the police will be concerned.
She may have felt the need to tell fibs in the knowledge you may not have agreed to the kids going with her.
Would it have mattered which county they were in had they gone elsewhere and she was not getting married.
Surely the fact they are safe is the most important thing,

The OP has every right to be concerned, if the tables were turned then I'm confident the replies would take a different tone.

Tenyearstogo

Moonwax wrote: »

With my parental resposibility i agreed only to Orlando.

I dont quite understand the wording. The destination is irrelevant. You agreed to your ex taking them on holiday. The lie is what's irked you. Why would she feel the need to lie?

Are you certain they aren't going to Orlando afterwards?

balletshoes

DUTR wrote: »

The OP has every right to be concerned, if the tables were turned then I'm confident the replies would take a different tone.

I don't think they would - theres loads for kids to do in Las Vegas, and I'm not getting from the OP that he fears for their safety, or that his ex-wife isn't taking care of them on their holiday with her?

pink_princess

Moonwax wrote: »

Hello

Hopefully someone can help, i am teying to get hold of a solicitor before the end of the week.

Story is, my ex wife asked to take my two children to orlando florida, to which i agreed. I was given their flight and accomodation details. But have just found out via social media she has infact taken them to las vegas so she can get married. I did not agree this and the kids thought they were going to orlando. Where do i stand? As i now do not know where they really are! We have shared care and NO residence order is in place.

With my parental resposibility i agreed only to Orlando.

I need to know if i should go to the police?

They might be going to Orlando after the wedding?

Moonwax

Using social media i have found her friends are joing her in vegas and she has arranged bar crawls... Who is looking after my kids who are both under 10?

By parental responsibility i mean legally she has to have my permission to take them away, but i must also know where they are. I have been given false details therfore dont actually know where they are...