Am I doing the right thing?

marisco_2

There is no such thing as the perfect relationship, because perfect is impossible. It is reasonable to expect that your partner will treat you decently and with respect though. That hasn't happened for you in this relationship OP. In future ones dont aim for perfect, just worth it.

Hermia

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

I've no doubt there is someone like me on there who is reasonably sane and just looking to meet someone nice and stable... but unfortunately there's no way of telling until you're several months in to a relationship.

I think if you are not realising these things until several months into a relationship you maybe need to rethink your strategy. Maybe you are not asking the right questions or are ignoring the signs? I don't think many people are that good at covering up their true selves and there are usually signs from the beginning.

flutterby_lil

Didn't read more than the opening post as that was such a mind blower!

OH MY GOODNESS, you have been a saint to put up with so much......run, run, and keep running.

I felt like I was part of the worst ever episode of Eastenders....and that soap is bad at it's best.

Find somebody who will treat you right and show you some respect, doubt she has ever had the word respect flashed past her!!

Good luck.

OptimusNemesis

Ended it a few days ago. I actually feel a lot better for it. I wasn't horrible - I refuse to lower myself to her level. I just said that she clearly had a problem and that it was best to call it a day. I told her that she should perhaps consider counseling or the like.

She sent a couple of emails in response - saying how horrible a person I was and that her mum was offended apparently! lol Naturally, that made me change my mind right away and I begged her to take me back... nah, just kidding! lol That was a pretty bizarre thing to say though.

I feel all the better for doing it though. I treated myself to a mega day out today - went to a book fair in Winchester and then shot over to Westminster for a movie memorabilia show, looking at Parliament, Westminster Abbey and some other sights while I was there. :-)

Thanks again everyone for the advice! :-D

- G

marisco_2

Good on you for ending it. Sounds like a fabulous day out. Hope you really enjoyed it.

tayforth

Well done!!!!!

Predictable reaction by your ex.

God for you for sticking to your guns.

Saturnalia

Doesn't her response prove you did the right thing!

I wonder if her mum knows the half of what her daughter is really like.

gettingbackontrack

OptimusNemesis

I read your thread the other and wondered if you'd update. I'm glad you did - you got some good advice on here and it's great that you chose the right action for YOU.

You'll find someone who deserves you and until then, carry on having a great time. All the best. :)

Valli

Well done you.

paulineb_2

Id just like to say that people on dating sites are just a selection of people who you would meet online as opposed to offline. You could meet anyone with any issues at anytime in your life, in a pub, in a club, through friends. People dont come with I have issues and Im going to make your life a misery on their head.

Also I think its been said before, but perhaps you need to have a think about what it is thats perhaps missing from your life that you need to sort out rather than rebounding from a disastrous relationship possibly into another. Or get some coping mechanisms sorted that if you get massive red flags about someone, you deal with it quickly.

Im glad things worked out ok for you in the end.